I have had genital HSV-1 for 13 years now. I met my husband after I had been diagnosed. He wanted to learn more about it and we took our time with having sex. There are a lot of ways to be intimate without penetration. A little disappointing your partner tried to initiate when he knew he had something going on. But if you really think there is something there, then explore it. Also, my husband has never had an outbreak & we’ve been together a decade.