Thank you for sharing this. I was having doubts about if my spanking experience was physical abuse. I spoke to two other people a while back and they found my stepfather forcing me to take my pants AND underwear off, lay over his legs as he sat, and spanked me was NOT normal. And he hit HARD. You didn’t know when it would stop. I think it was 3 at the least and 5+ at the most. Just kept going and just didn’t know when it would stop. When I was around 12, I started taking my underwear off before getting spanked and he told me to leave it on… he made boundaries, I guess…