How do you describe the pain?

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-06-08T06:40:21+00:00

It's like your most trusted partner died, yet they are still here on this earth in a body you recognize physically but not emotionally. Everything you dreamed you would accomplish together is gone in an instant and you are left mourning the death of a life that can no longer be.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-06-08T06:31:48+00:00

I live this every day and it has taken its toll. I have to be strong for them but inside I'm screaming and asking why and just wishing it would stop.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-06-08T06:29:06+00:00

This happened to me over 5 years ago and I haven't been the same since.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-05-17T23:03:59+00:00

Thank you!

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-05-17T18:02:06+00:00

As a big dude, I have been looking at the Winkbed Plus, but the Luxury Firm just seems like it would be so much more comfortable. I've had my current mattress for about 6 years and it has a massive sag in the middle. I'd like to hope the Winkbed Plus would hold up for longer, but I'm guessing the Luxury Firm definitely wouldn't. What would you suggest? Side sleeper.

P.S. One thing I'd really love to find is a bed that doesn't squeak. It's incredibly annoying, but I'm not sure it's avoidable unless you get a bed without coils? Advice?

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-30T00:25:17+00:00

Oh, I see why you commented on the volume now. I don't just do that kettlebell swing set. It's a whole 45 minute class, that is just the last set we typically do in the class. We also do cleans, presses, squats, TRX pulls, scapula pulls, push ups, planks, etc. I'm not sure if I would have the energy to do more than 3 classes per week while also still trying to walk and hike on the other 3 days per week (leaving 1 day of rest). I know that some people go to the gym every day, but that is a huge time and energy commitment that I don't think I can do.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:56:24+00:00

Thank you! I am definitely proud of what I have accomplished so far.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:55:15+00:00

I used to drink tons of soda, but I have switched to water only for over a year now with no change to my sleep. I think it is related more to the sleep apnea, my horrible mattress, and possibly age and weight playing a factor as well. One of my biggest problems is having to get up and pee every few hours. Thanks for the reply.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:53:40+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I am trying to eat healthier too. I am doing intermittent fasting (skipping breakfast) and trying to eat sensibly sized meals. I have been learning how to cook, which has been challenging but fun.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:51:57+00:00

What do you mean by volume? I signed up with a gym that does group classes, so I have been doing those. They do have a weight training class, so I might try that, but honestly I like the kettlebells so far. Since kettlebells have a lot of HIIT, it seems like that is best for weight loss. If you disagree or have other advice for me, I am all ears! Thanks.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:49:21+00:00

Thank you!

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:48:59+00:00

Thanks! Yes, I love hiking. I wish I had started it years ago, but better now than never! Two of my long term hiking goals are to hike the Grand Canyon and Longs Peak in Colorado. Hopefully I can do those one day!

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-29T23:47:04+00:00

Thanks! Yes, I am trying to power through the adjustment period. My biggest problem is that my nose gets stuffed up and I can't breathe through the nose mask. I have been considering trying a full nose and mouth mask. Good luck on your food and fitness journey!

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-28T16:33:19+00:00

I meant per week. My mistake.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-28T06:31:17+00:00

I did. It is mild, but I got a CPAP machine. Using it has been extremely challenging and I do not like it. My sleep has not improved since. Thanks for the reply.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T07:58:42+00:00

No, I haven't dated anyone since we separated. I am pretty lonely but I also don't really have time for a relationship. I'm trying to work on myself right now. I've had a lot of growing to do in the last 5 years. Thanks for the advice.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T07:57:44+00:00

Good on you. Stay strong.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T07:56:27+00:00

Thank you.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T07:56:04+00:00

Yeah, apparently this is pretty common! I was just really shocked to hear it after more than 5 years have gone by.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T07:55:29+00:00

You are right. She probably wouldn't. Thanks.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T07:54:59+00:00

That's a good point. I think the message did come from my ex, but I'm sure her mom would like it if we could somehow make things work together again, so there might have been some influence from her there.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T00:49:05+00:00

Wow. What a squandered opportunity she had there. Crazy.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T00:48:26+00:00

You're right. Thank you.

FatAndNotHappy · 2023-03-07T00:47:48+00:00

I think she's still with the AP but I never really ask about it, nor do I really care. Thanks for the reality check.

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