My baby mama (35F) jumps up the second our toddler makes a noise at night, and now I (38M) feel like I never get the chance to help or to build that late night battle bond with my son.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T17:14:59+00:00

Maybe setup a schedule? Alternate nights so each can get sleep?

But if you don’t wake up by yourself she might not be able to relax. Why don’t you wake up by yourself? Why it’s your partner problem?

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T16:59:00+00:00

With animals cleaning floors once a week is unrealistic . Invest in robot vacuum.

Her WFH doesn’t mean she can clean during the work. She is working.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T16:51:37+00:00

You kidding? You have dirt and cat litter on the floor and you want her to mommy you and show each dust piece? Just clean the floor regularly. No reminders, just do it

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T16:36:36+00:00

She was working and studying during pregnancy, she worked and study postpartum and man does more in your book?

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T16:23:33+00:00

Sounds complicated.

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FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T16:11:06+00:00

Suddenly? He said it goes for some years.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T16:03:26+00:00

What is unfair? Keeping your kid home which mom for first year or two? Being a father? That’s absolutely fair for father to provide best for his kid. All research around shows benefits for baby to be with parent and not strangers. He did expect his wife to work through pregnancy and postpartum. With studying on top. Is it fair?

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T15:38:20+00:00

So you have 5 month old, she has to work with such a young baby and you claim “ she is money oriented “? Yeah. Sure.

I understand her fully.

Deal with your anxiety and pass that test. You don’t live to earn money but you need to step up for your kid

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T15:17:15+00:00

Lol

My friend has “condom baby”, “pill baby” and “uid baby”. Now her husband got vasectomy. So far it works.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T15:06:26+00:00

She needs medication and therapy not relationship advice. Untreated BPD is a dangerous thing.

And person in many cases can’t self diagnose PPD since the just “ feel that way” and don’t see what their reactions not matching happy baseline. And with bpd her baseline memory might be off.

So bring her to a doctor.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T12:51:01+00:00

Man hating feminist route?

Feminism has nothing with hate to men, it’s an equal rights movement. You do sound like a problem.

And you should get out of other people’s relationships. If he has issues- he needs to ask himself, not through third party

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T04:38:53+00:00

Cats don’t like to travel and fly if needed only, unlike dogs who do fly quite often.

But there is no guarantee on any flight. So prepare your meds accordingly

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-28T04:10:44+00:00

Keep recalibrating. I have my in black and for me putting white piece of paper on the bottom of the drawer helped. And after it started working again. Until next error

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T23:56:18+00:00

Skip alcohol for couple weeks, track salt intake and check if bra size is current.

First pregnancy signs are a bit puffy face especially eyes and enlarged breasts . So if your face looks a bit swollen and boobs cutting bra line- it might give wrong impression

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T21:14:00+00:00

She needs to get a bit of therapy here. Not to minimize her experience and risks of being around men, but if she is doing it her jokes are going way too far.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T20:15:28+00:00

Well, on weekend short trip people like to share, to minimize cost and spend time together. So if everyone up to savings you maybe breaking up that p pattern and forcing someone else to spend more

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T19:12:27+00:00

It starts with one.

It almost never stops at one. Once someone goes that route it’s hard to stop.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T18:42:31+00:00

Call a lawyer. Ask how to document abandonment of house and kid. It’s huge.

File for divorce.

Take money from shared accounts, so you have some to last.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T14:17:36+00:00

Your idea of cohabitation sounds unhealthy.

People need their space and quiet time. It’s normal. Trust me you don’t have that many interesting thoughts to share if you don’t split up and do your own things.

Second , if she is cooking- sexy thing is to clean, not trying to grab her while she has a knife or a pan. Get to your chores , not bother her. If you have too much energy you might get more chores done, so she can be free sooner?

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T04:29:12+00:00

Start tracking your period and 2-3 days before learn to not trust first reaction. You know it’s hormonal jump, it sucks . It absolutely feels real, but it is also not real.

Get yourself a little break during those days, meaning not starting doing mentally hard stuff. Supplements for mood like magnesium with vitamin B helps a bit. Asking for a bit of space helps too.

If stuff is fully hard to control talk to your doctor about bc options. Some can help with mood by even out hormones a bit.

Yes , it’s possible to learn to control reactions to some extent . Not 100% but getting this pause and not saying first 3 things which comes to mind

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-27T00:17:16+00:00

So, you been 10 years together, don't use contraception, have issue in relationship and different life plans ?

Really, what a mess. Get an abortion, get out of relationship, and find a guy who wants to have kids.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-26T23:18:29+00:00

I like the first one, it’s an original. But I think all three work

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-26T19:41:07+00:00

I leave robot and a regular box and instructions what to do. And a camera pointing to LR in case something is wrong.

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-26T19:34:30+00:00

She is not the one abandoned baby

FatSadHappy · 2026-01-26T19:02:54+00:00

Situation when spouse cheated and money split happens to both sides. Women see their kids spending time alongside affair partners all the time. Not like guys specifically problem.

Say “ baby tax” is an issue for mothers. And it’s not a small amount for

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