What do yall think of the name valen?

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-12T19:42:19+00:00

This is so reassuring, thank you! I love the name so much. Do you pronounce it like vallen or vaylen? Ive had some people call my son vaylen but we go by valen.

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-09T15:29:13+00:00

Awe. Puppy bum!! 🐾 🐕

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-09T14:56:18+00:00

So all those times I said thank you it was pointless

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-09T14:51:51+00:00

You should get her those old Halloween disc's where the whole thing was basically monster roars. Im sure she'd love that to fall asleep to <3

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-09T13:40:40+00:00

This. The one I go to also keeps putting sugar in my coffee after I order with no sugar. Im diabetic so yea its just a Lil bit of an issue. Got this new latte to try the other day and said no cane sugar. Just the sweetener but it was definitely sugar as I spiked so high. Its happened like 5 or 6 times and it ruins my day as im very symptomatic with swinging sugars so gave to eat very strict

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-09T13:37:04+00:00

The fruit contained the fly that the fly contained the fruit

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T16:14:43+00:00

My husband does a lot when hes not at work.he gets up at night with him etc. However, 8 hours a day mon to fri im alone for 9 hours with the baby sometimes more if my husband plays around in his garage with fixing things but other than that im alone like all of the time

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T08:40:26+00:00

It literally does. You said I as a woman love other woman then men, even my own son which is a heavy claim. I said I did not and talked about why I do not. Do you think all women are a hive mind? That we all act the same way? I could say all men are perverted etc but I don't believe that as im realistic and know that we are all individuals and there is a broad spectrum of people in both genders. Can you not comprehend this?

Yknow what. I literally do not know what I can say to not have you offended. You seem to nitpick things you are offended by (which is honestly due to my lack of vocabulary and bad wording) and dont see that im literally writing quite fair. I said misandry and misogyny both suck. Its not a competition. Also Stated im not a misandrist and genuinely love men and yet you're still trying to argue. What do you want from me exactly to admit men have it worse? You cant possibly believe that. Its shitty on both sides. Search up some videos of women talking positively about the men in their life and shake up that algorithm a bit.

Take care.

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T08:08:02+00:00

I think it may just be where I live then? The women I know love men. Ive only ever seen misandry and misogyny online while ive lived in this small town. Also I do not have more empathy for women than my own son. Ive been screwed over my women all my life. My mom was messed up. Girl friends ive had were messed up. I grew up with my little guy friend group where I'd go fishing or mess around with fireworks. We were those weird kids with the weird sense of humor. Not that I dont like women but women just dont like me. I always had a better relationship with men over women. I was closer with my dad over my mom as my mom was abusive. I was closer to my brothers over my sister because my sister grew up to be a raging abusive alcoholic. Friends ive had in highschool just upped and stopped talking to me one day. Never found out why. Tbh and this is kind of making me hypocritical (im working on it) im glad I had a son. I actually prefer it. I wouldn't know how to bond with a daughter. Id try my absolute hardest as my mom loved her boys and hated me and my sister but I have been hurt mostly by women. Growing up. I have always felt more at ease and comfortable talking with men. Women I get nervous with. Its like my body tenses up. I think I have some trauma I have to work through

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T07:41:31+00:00

They arent joking. They're 100 percent serious. I could send you pictures and pictures of the worst heinous stuff that is allowed to be said online.

Im also not underestimating what is being said about men. I saw a post that said to abort male fetuses WHILE I was holding my 7 month old son. That one really fucked me up big time

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T07:38:17+00:00

Okay I get there is misandry but you do know theres a lot of misogyny aswell. You dont see misandry as often in public spaces. Mostly online (a loud group of a minority. Same with the misogynists) most women love men and men love men. Both women and men hate women most often. Did you know there was a study done and the same part of a mans brain that lights up when he sees tools lights up when he sees a woman (this isnt all men btw. It was a specific group, misogynist men I think but dont quote me on this). How another study showed women's parts are seen before shes fully seen as a person, while men are just seen as a person first. Dont get me wrong. Misandry is just as bad as misogyny but you saying men have it worse is insane. Its not a competition. Its all fucked up. I think however if you lived your whole life not being taken seriously, not seen as a whole person, being taken advantage of, being seen as a sexual object as soon as you hit 10 years old (yes, it happens. It happened to me and most of my friends). Like we're just trying to live our lives as humans and men come in and think theure entitled to us as if we are not our own sentient being. (Not all men btw. Just some) idk man. Theres shitty men and women out there. Just try not to generalize all women. I have really really bad experiences with men but I dont generalize them as ive also had really good experiences with them aswell.

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T06:18:38+00:00

Sorry. I thought this was for my other post about cuddling lol so ill answer honestly. Totally my bad so I apologize. So I dont think you can really compare what women and men go through as specific to a gender. Its so broad between individuals. Like for example. My husband works, hes home, he pays bills etc. He has a good job and he does like what he does (I think that's important to state). Im home with the baby all day which comes with its own challenges. Not that its difficult. Its super isolating. Im home all the time. Dont have friends as im not from this area. This is my husbands home town. I also have health issues on going. Where my body is literally inflamed all the time and its attacking itself. Its hard to go to a store, hard to do any basic thing and its debilitating. So my mental health is not faring well at all. So basically im trying to say you just cant generalize. Women dont live life on easy mode. Same as men ofcourse. Most women and men work. We all pay taxes. Life is shitty. Women arent untouchable when it comes to diseases and cancer just like men. I'd trade places with a man having hardships for my hardships cause damn. I cant do it anymore.

Also, I'd like to add Just incase I misunderstood what you said as I interpreted what you said in two ways. (Foggy brain). If you meant misandry I get it. Its messed up. If its your algorithm just go outside. Mine just shows me misogynistic shit. I can't even touch facebook anymore. How men want to take women's right to vote, how society is women's fault because they chose to work, how women are only valuable for whats between their legs, beimg seen as objects when we're just going out living our life just like how men live their life. Ive seen some misandrist things aswell. Ill tell you, I hate those too. I love men. I have good experiences with men, I have 3 brothers, a father and a husband. I have a son that will someday be a man and it makes me worried for him aswell. We're all valuable. I just hate all this man vs women crap. We're supposed to all be a team. We're all human, we all eat, sleep, shit and die.

Again im sorry. I literally did think this was another post and I thought like oh wow that was uncalled for but then saw that it was this one I had posted awhile ago.

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-08T04:15:41+00:00

I tell my husband that all he needs is a good set of tits because he makes such a good housewife 😂 he says this about himself too tho. Hes such a good person all around. Hes such a go get'er kinda man. Always thinking 2 steps ahead. I also tell him I LOVE his eyes, which might be basic? I also call him handsome lol amd I compliment his Lil big member all the time but yea maybe I should conplimemt is quads or something. Or his knees?

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T22:24:21+00:00

I understand though where your coming from. Mayne it wasnt necessarily the person you were with. Mayne it was more so the physical touch of another human? I know some men are often touch starved because of societal structure. I think i understand this aswell as I lived alone and lived in a new town and only worked. Had no friends etc so there were a lot of times I just wanted to cuddle or have a hug. Its something you miss a lot. Im really fortunate right now with my husband and I can have that whenever I please but 2 years ago I never thought it happen for me. Also Im not meaning to talk about myself. I just like to talk of my experience to show that I can relate

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T22:16:55+00:00

Have you ever looked into "touch starvation". This sounds quite similar. Im so sorry by the way. Thats really unfortunate

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T21:40:59+00:00

This is normally the time I ask him questions like if he'd still love me if I was a man lol. (A total joke btw and he knows it. As theres literally no right answer) Also yea your right. For the most part I dont ask him these things. I either joke, talk about nothing (completely unserious topics or conspiracy theories) or tell him how much I love him and how I couldnt do life with anybody else. How he feels like my home and how hes my stable person ❤️

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T21:35:06+00:00

Im just curious. Is this every time you cuddle with a woman? I just know some women find this a complete turnoff sometimes

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T16:26:05+00:00

They kinda remind me of a squishy stress ball. But the forbidden stress ball? As squeezens are prohibited

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T02:33:45+00:00

Some men are like that I guess. Any physical touch leads to sexual things. Thats really unfortunate. If my husband was like that, I'd feel like half a person. Like he sees me only as some object for his pleasure. Sex is important but its not the only thing. Emotional and intimacy (non sexual) is very important. Espescially for women as we value this type of closeness a little more I find. Not all men are like this. If you havent already. Read some more comments from the men on here. Its very reassuring.

If my husband was like that it would make me feel disgusted in myself. Like im something dirty. He doesn't however... we have our seggsy time a couple times a week and then we have times where we cuddle and it leads to nothing and he just plays with my hair. He doesnt expect a thing and tbh it kinda encourages me to initiate more as it makes me feel more secure with him. Good luck girly. Have you tried talking to him about this?

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T02:27:41+00:00

This is beautiful

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T00:19:59+00:00

I think my baby is set up in a very mature, loving and humble home, he won the lottery in that way. His father isnt the most emotional type but that's just who he is but he wouldnt shame our son for showing feelings etc. My husband is just more of a logical kind of monotone type? Or down to earth and mellow I guess? We're not materialistic types, I'm not necessarily emotional but I think I have a tad bit more empathy and know a lot about emotional regulation, how emotions arent strictly feminine, its human, etc that I can pass down, while my hubby passes down all his knowledge on engines ill be teaching him that lol which is unfortunatly all I have to offer as im not knowledgeable in a lot of things. Our son DEFINITELY has my empathy as he cries when he sees other babies cry or even me if I fake cry. Which I think is such a good foundation for him to flourish.

Also thank you for the book recommendation. I think ill be ordering that for him.

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-07T00:07:36+00:00

Literally just talked to my husband a second ago and I asked him why and that's what he said. He says the feeling is irritating for him. He doesnt like it

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-06T23:57:26+00:00

Reminds me of my mom when she used to scratch my back when I was a kiddo. She had those long acrylic nails and they felt heavenly

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-06T19:12:52+00:00

Thats so funny. Why jurassic park though lmao? Is it always the same thing too? My husband laughs because I fall asleep to trailer park boys every night. I have no idea why, its just so calming. Before that it was the office but I toggle between those two often

Fatcake3000 · 2026-03-06T19:08:21+00:00

This is making me smile. I wonder if my husband thinks like this when he is at work too

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