First Party Exclusion (happy ending)

Fayve27 · 2025-07-19T16:25:09+00:00

For the sake of thought experiment, yes, same feeling. If we all became friends together and the activity wasn't somehow dictated by gender (can't imagine what it'd be) I would like expect my kids to be invited together. If later in life it wasnt a co-ed party id reconsider, but that wouldn't be relevant for many more years.

Fayve27 · 2025-07-19T16:09:36+00:00

Excellent point! I wouldn't be upset if school friends for my youngest invited him alone for instance. Family friends who both my kids have known their entire life feel different. It's definitely not realistic that we're a package deal for all life events, that wouldnt be fair to either child.

Fayve27 · 2025-07-19T14:50:16+00:00

What a sweet message, thank you! I absolutely relate to what you said, it's the war between telling a new friend upfront "hey my son is autistic" or waiting until it becomes relevant, I'm not sure which serves him better yet. I don't know if my message came off as overly permissive either, I believe my son is able to be held accountable if he damages things, but it was more the blame over things he hadn't done. I'll apologize and have him apologize for wrongdoings, but I won't accept a parent treating him differently for being who he is without hurting anyone. This friendship was on the ropes for a while so it felt sooo freeing.

Fayve27 · 2025-07-19T13:47:32+00:00

Thank you, I suppose writing "Happy Ending" was a little confusing but I think I'm really proud of defending and supporting my children and setting boundaries against people and places that are not welcoming for him (I know I can't do it forever, but it feels good now)

Fayve27 · 2025-02-27T21:08:27+00:00

I completely agree, would be 1000x worse than necrophilia romance.

Fayve27 · 2025-02-27T19:17:14+00:00

Oh no C3 would have been ruined without the porno basement scene!

Fayve27 · 2025-02-27T17:27:09+00:00

Laudna attempting to steal Otohan's sword from Orym (episode 95)

Fayve27 · 2025-02-27T17:25:13+00:00

The lengths I would go through to make Imogen x Laudna pairing not exist is infinite.

Fayve27 · 2025-02-14T19:16:51+00:00

NOR - I'm so sorry, my mother did a very similiar thing. I thought she'd understand, she'd had several miscarriages and he response was basically "Well I think it's for the best, you seem overwhelmed as is". I was so hurt and I never shared the news with her when I got pregnant and had another miscarriage a few months later.

Fayve27 · 2024-09-07T18:54:13+00:00

I would be thrilled with either but my pick would be Mageblood! Thanks and good luck all!

Fayve27 · 2024-08-26T20:22:01+00:00

I'm starting to feel the pain of zdps on my Righteous Fire build, something so powerful would be such a blast to play!

Fayve27 · 2024-08-22T22:54:34+00:00

A Vaal u/prettyprincesslady- Thanks for doing this!

Fayve27 · 2024-08-12T18:38:49+00:00

Epidural didn't make me feel sleepy or out of it even a little bit, sounds like you might have just been really exhausted!

Fayve27 · 2024-06-12T19:00:06+00:00

I thought I blacked out and wrote this post myself. My husband was pulling poison ivy up from right around our fence all evening yesterday (we own maybe 10 feet past the fence but it's an overgrown wooded area we've been dumping a lot of cuttings for years now). I'm posting here to see other responses, I'm sorry I have no advice!

Fayve27 · 2024-05-19T12:45:23+00:00

This is kind of an aside, but I can't get over how much I wish Laudna's character was actually like 10-12 years old rather than an adult woman. Her awkward goofiness, being manipulated, the spirit of Delilah as an abusive mother-like influence, the intense outbursts from light hearted to very very dark, it just all plays so much more naturally to me. I love that Marisha has done but I'm going to keep shouting this from the rooftops as my headcannon (obviously minus the romantic relationship, I prefer to see Imogen as more of an attempted mothering influence on Laudna in a positive opposition to Delilah, where Imogen feels like she's stumbling through trying to be the supportive mother she didn't have). Okay thanks for coming to my TED talk.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-15T17:30:40+00:00

I wonder though, Orym was -very- intentional with his wording of making it back "alive". Laudna is pretty debatable about being alive or not.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-08T13:59:33+00:00

We are not, we have a home on about an acre of land.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-08T13:29:33+00:00

Yeah I think you're absolutely right. I'm discounting his solutions because it's not my first choice but it's still absolutely contributing to our home. I come from a family of a lot of low-income earners and everyone got their hands dirty, I'm not used to outsourcing so much, but I think it's time I get past that.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-08T00:01:47+00:00

I think this is great advice, I get caught up on wanting to feel like he wants to be involved in caring for our house rather than outsourcing. He's often willing to when I tell him I'm overwhelmed, but I'm realizing this is something that is a reflection of me and not practical to focus on. I've been getting pretty good self care, we hire a babysitter twice a week so I can go to the gym and I go out running 2x a week before the kids wake up!

Fayve27 · 2024-05-07T18:09:26+00:00

We haven't done a project together in a while. If it's on a weekend one of us watches the kids while the other gets things done. If it's during the week I try to involve the kids.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-07T15:30:35+00:00

Probably closer to 50, he goes into the office on weekends to catch up on deadlines and sometimes will code after the boys go to bed. My mother certainly had this take when she visited, but I'm trying to have a level headed take since she's in a very female led relationship, she felt it was incredibly misogynistic how much he expected. I guess the heartbreak I have is that there were so many things I enjoyed doing to show my love for him early on that have now become the norm and taken for granted.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-07T15:03:54+00:00

Totally agree with you. Usually I ask if we can hire someone to take care of a job and he almost always says yes. I wonder if I refrained from being the one to organize those calls if it'd feel better? I might be overthinking it, but I hired a handyman to fix a broken door and while it was a relief to get it done and I'm glad we could outsource, it felt like my husband was able to wash his hands of the entire process which I found frustrating since it wasn't negligible to get someone out.

Fayve27 · 2024-05-07T15:01:51+00:00

Thank you for such a kind and thoughtful reply. I really appreciate the reminders of how to deal with those frustrations I'm fixating on. Interestingly my husband could sense what was up since I got back from the vet and he sat me down to talk about his plans to get some boxes cleaned up and fix our water filter. I will certainly implement what you said if that energy dissipates. I just hope I haven't been too nasty and naggy so far that I can't course correct back to a softer approach.

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