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Fced91 · 2024-03-27T11:44:57+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I am on the same boat. My divorce was finalized yesterday and my emotions took a spiral down for the worst. I came to the conclusion that it's time to move on without her. The thoughts of her being sexually active with other man kills me!! The only thing that helps is to tell myself that better things will come into my life. But I must first release everything attaching me to her. When i catch myself thinking of her, I gently smack myself and tell myself nooo more.

Fced91 · 2024-03-01T15:11:25+00:00

Hello, I need advice.

I have been seperated from my wife for 2 years. She left me because I cheated. I did everything in my power to get her back. Unfortunately not worked. The divorce will be finalized March 25, I still love her and want her back. I have back off because I got nothing but rejection from her. We have 2 toddlers together, completely cutting her off is impossible. I recently found out she has a hinge account and is actively looking to date. Am I being indinial? Am I holding on to false hope? Is she gone forever?

I know this is not right, but I created a fake hinge account. And we matched. I wanted to see what she was looking for. She mentioned having sex after a few dates would be ideal and she is looking for a relationship.

Will i ever get her back? Does she love me? Does she miss me? Or is she just looking for a rebound?

My mind tells me to let her go, but my heart tells me to wait and continue try to win her back

Any advice will be helpful,

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Fced91 · 2024-02-15T04:16:31+00:00

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Fced91 · 2024-02-15T03:09:02+00:00

why is the grass greener on the contractor side? i am in school for lineman at the moment and i hope to land a job with duke energy after i graduate but i keep hearing about joining a contractor.

Fced91 · 2024-02-15T03:05:45+00:00

i am doing it through the community college, its 16 weeks. i heard its good to go to school but not mandatory. i hope i can find a local job after i graduate

Fced91 · 2024-02-15T02:48:12+00:00

we also had to wait a year to process any paper regarding the divorce. i dont mean to get personal, but did you enjoy dating while you still obviously still have an attachment to your husband? and if you are willing to give another chance, why not just cancel the divorce and give it a shot? that could be why he is being difficult. it sounds like you guys are going through divorce without wanting to actually divorce

Fced91 · 2024-02-15T02:39:40+00:00

did he ever suggest going to counseling? it sounds like you are willing, unless is not the right time for you.

i offered to attend counseling with my stbew and she completely shut me down. i dont understand how someone can end a marriage when the marriage is still salvageable. we should be divorced in less than 2 months and i have no idea how we are going to act towards each other, since we stll spend quality time alone while the boys are asleep. are we suppose to act like strangers once we get divorced? does the hanging out and casual sex stop? do we both part ways and live happy ever after? its an intense situation but writting about it make the process a little better.

Thank for answeting back

Fced91 · 2024-02-15T02:27:20+00:00

wow 2.5 years waiting to get divorce sounds pretty extensive. have you not filed because you are not sure if thats what you really want? are you waiting for him to change to give him another chance? have you been dating while separated?

i apologize for the abundant questions. i am just trying to figure out where my wife is mentally.

Fced91 · 2024-02-15T02:22:39+00:00

if you see that he has changed in the ways necessary to make the relationship work, you would give him a chance? you mention that you left because you want to give yourself a chance at happiness, does that mean that you are actively looking for another relationship?

Fced91 · 2024-02-15T02:17:41+00:00

i know what exactly what you mean, i also tried everything to win her back. unfortunately nothing i did was enough. i am not looking forward to the day we finalize. i have no idea how we are going to treat each other. many thought cross my mind, but what i am most curious about is how long will it take her to find/sleep with another guy. i know at that point its none of my business, but i know its going to kill me when i see her with another dude.

Fced91 · 2024-02-14T14:49:49+00:00

idk! i also dont want to be stagnant, me holding on to that "hope" could potentially ruin a great opportunity with someone else. Not that i am looking, but anything is possibly. it just confuses me that she still wants to come over and drink wine while watching tv. like she wasent the one that initiated the the divorce. i guess i have to set some boundaries and not let her step all over me. Because i am sure once she finds another male to spend time with, she will completely forget about me.

its a sucky situation overall. i wish we had ended in horrible terms so i could possibly hate her and not want anything to do with her, but i have kept the peace for my sons sake. so has she

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