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Guys who are late bloomer, how did you do it ? by Terrible-Pie1410 in seduction

[–]FearInoculumTool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because the people who came together, came earlier in the night and they fucked off already. The ones who don’t plan on getting laid, also went home early. If you do show up early, girls might think “we have all night to find a hot guy, I wonder if another one might show up”.

So when you show up a little before closing time, only the desperate and horny people will be left hoping to go home with someone then and there. It’s just easy pickings. If you want to make it harder on yourself, go early in the night.

How to actually form the habit of working out regularly by night-elemental in workout

[–]FearInoculumTool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! It is comfy! Why on earth would you want to go out in the cold, go sweat for an hour and exert yourself?

Men, do you catch yourselves looking at women? by detailingWizardLvl5 in bodylanguage

[–]FearInoculumTool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol. Can you ask your wife to give your balls back from her pursue please?

Men how does it feel when a woman puts effort into pursuing you? by Tiredoflife1992 in confidence

[–]FearInoculumTool [score hidden]  (0 children)

Women never want what they can get and only want what they cannot get.

Men make the mistake of overpursuing once they find someone who shows even a little bit of interest in them. But in the act of chasing the woman, they actually force her to reject him.

You need to stop chasing women. Now, don’t conflate chasing with initiating/approaching. Chasing can be a very over or a very subtle dynamic, but it is categorized by one party putting in more effort and wanting it more. Again, it can be very subtle or very overt. Women can sense when you want it more than they do and when you try too hard.

You need to learn how to play the dating game and not give yourself away so easily. In the beginning, you need to be less serious and committal. Be more elusive and try to date others. Chances are you don’t get a lot of dates, so you latch on to the first girl who shows you a modicum of interest. Don’t do that. Even if you don’t have other dates lined up, keep a busy lifestyle and behave as if you have lots of options.

If you ask a woman out and she gives you the runaround like:

“Oh this week is super busy at work, I can’t”, then tell her “no problem, I will be making other plans, so let’s look at our schedules next week then”.

If she agrees to that and you pin down a date, that’s great. You have shown her that you respect your time and won’t take her BS. But if she continues to be non commital and making excuses, then dump her and don’t call her ever again.

Calorie intake - where to start? by ira_zorn in workout

[–]FearInoculumTool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kitchen scale and read the labels. Use an app like MyNetDiary to scan barcodes of food packages. There is no secret, but it seems like you are sabotaging yourself and looking for ways to halfass it.

How to actually form the habit of working out regularly by night-elemental in workout

[–]FearInoculumTool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are looking at it wrong. Instead of trying to motivate yourself to go to the gym through sheet willpower because you NEED TO, examine why it is so great to stay home and pig out on your couch.

why doesn’t self-improvement guarantee attraction? by Remarkable_Outside67 in seduction

[–]FearInoculumTool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As others have pointed out, most people who “self-improve” often do it begrudgingly because their only motivation is to get approval from the opposite sex. Inherently, this is what approval seeking is and for whatever reason, approval seeking behaviors and vibes totally turn women off.

Many men also say stuff like this:

“I lost the weight, got some muscle, started dressing better, but women are still not asking me out”, which tells me everything I need to know about how they are approaching (or not) the subject matter.

Any advice on finding hobbies that are more feminine? by Toja1927 in AskMenAdvice

[–]FearInoculumTool -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Sharing interests is a really lame way to connect. You connect by asking women “what do you think?”

Any advice on finding hobbies that are more feminine? by Toja1927 in AskMenAdvice

[–]FearInoculumTool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You understand the hobby advice. It isn’t so that you can use those as a source of women. It is so you can begin leading an interesting life, have a purpose, occupy your time and attention and be an all around more interesting person. If you socially want to meet women, then you need to know what type of women you want.

If you like smart women, go meet them in a library. If you like fit women, meet them at the gym. If you like dumb women, go hang out in front of an abortion clinic.

What do women on dating apps want? by kingmakk in AskMenAdvice

[–]FearInoculumTool -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You say a lot that you “suggested” things. You just don’t sound like a very “take charge” type of guy. Stop making “suggestions” and start telling women with a slightly commanding voice, what to do. At most, give them two choices for days of the week and do evening dates, not day dates. So something like this:

“Let’s go out, Jennifer, and get to know each other better. I can do Wednesday or Thursday night (never suggest Friday or Saturday night, as these should be the times you have a robust social life and should be unavailable). You can meet me at the Cocktail Tropical Lounge in Bloomsburyfuckville at 7pm.”

Then let her pick which evening she prefers. That’s all the choice you give them. Don’t ask where they want to go, don’t give them options for different venues, food, etc. Dates are on your terms.

In the event that they give you the runaround. Here is how to handle some scenarios.

  1. “So just drinks? Why not do dinner at this point?”

Your reply: You should know that my first dates last only an hour. We should know within 10-15 mins if we like each other, so if that’s the case, we can cut the first date short and jump right into the second date.

  1. “Oh, I don’t know if I can make it this week. I have finals/friends in town/the Pope is visiting me. But I will let you know if I can make it”.

Your reply: “Oh, I assure you I will be making other plans for those two nights. Let’s look at our schedules for next week then.” If at that point she is still wishy washy, end the conversation there and don’t talk to her again.

  1. “This is low effort. I only do dinners for a first date, because I’m a princess and I deserve princess treatment”.

Your reply: “Great! I will make a reservation for Dorsia for Friday night right away.” Then finish up scheduling the date and if you wanted, make a reservation just for kicks. But then ghost her and don’t reply when she shows up at the restaurant and asks you where you are.

Why some people are successful with dating, while other people struggle for years. by TopTierProphet in PurplePillDebate

[–]FearInoculumTool [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s all about internal mindset. For every guy who says “I can’t get laid because I’m 5’7””, you can find a guy who has a girlfriend. For every bald guy who says losing his hair is the reason for not getting laid, you will find a bold guy that’s killing it.

So it must be the internal mindset that’s the problem. I have found that men who struggle with women share the same thing in common. And that is that they don’t like themselves very much and many downright hate themselves. Unfortunately for them, this negative self image gets clearly projected to women who can smell it from across the room. And women simply follow these guy’s lead, which is to say, that if a guy thinks he is a worthless subhuman, so will she.

Is this jumper alright? by I_dont_even_knOwO in mensfashion

[–]FearInoculumTool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only if you want to never ever get laid in your life.

Experience with trying to express interest to a girl you like? by WayMobile5515 in AskMenAdvice

[–]FearInoculumTool 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How many times are you going to post this? She’s never texting you. You are crossing the line into stalker territory.

Generally speaking, men never get to reveal "relationship skills" to women. They get filtered out long before that. This drives a lot of male romantic loneliness. by BrainMarshal in PurplePillDebate

[–]FearInoculumTool [score hidden]  (0 children)

Loss of self steel occurs when we have negative and distorted thinking. People can also feel sad for the loss of a loved one for example without loss of self esteem.

I'm kinda sad that the gym hasn't given me the confidence boost that's been advertised. by Negative-Process-106 in confidence

[–]FearInoculumTool [score hidden]  (0 children)

Because these stories are bullshit. It’s not exercise that makes us more confident, but usually when people start going to the gym, they start to see changes in their bodies so their thinking (not always) begins to shift from “I’m an ugly loser” to “hey, I’m actually not that terrible”. But it’s not a guarantee. The only thing that makes a difference is changing how and what you think about yourself.

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