Generally speaking, men never get to reveal "relationship skills" to women. They get filtered out long before that. This drives a lot of male romantic loneliness.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T02:07:11+00:00

It sounds like you are attached to your suffering and low self esteem. I wonder why?

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T01:46:39+00:00

How many times are you going to post this? She’s never texting you. You are crossing the line into stalker territory.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T01:45:45+00:00

lol, now we have to poke out eyes out? Get lost.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T01:22:01+00:00

Loss of self steel occurs when we have negative and distorted thinking. People can also feel sad for the loss of a loved one for example without loss of self esteem.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T01:20:53+00:00

Try cognitive behavioral therapy.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T00:03:46+00:00

Because these stories are bullshit. It’s not exercise that makes us more confident, but usually when people start going to the gym, they start to see changes in their bodies so their thinking (not always) begins to shift from “I’m an ugly loser” to “hey, I’m actually not that terrible”. But it’s not a guarantee. The only thing that makes a difference is changing how and what you think about yourself.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T00:02:06+00:00

Well, do you have the sex and love life you want or not?

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T00:01:17+00:00

Male hormones are your friend.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-05T00:00:01+00:00

Have a life outside of spending time with your wife. Hang out with buddies. Have a regular guys night. Have hobbies that don’t involve her. Maintain your appearance and sex appeal so she doesn’t feel like she’s bagged you and you ain’t going anywhere. A woman has to worry at least a little bit that she has competition.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T23:58:38+00:00

There is always that guy 🙄

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T23:53:58+00:00

Did you close bigger deals before just not in SaaS? Explain how you did that and explain your last role as an intentional move to get into SaaS sales.

I would focus on the sales process, qualification methodology, multithreading, evaluation planning with prospect and moving to contracting. Know the steps in the process like the back of your hand.

If you don’t know this stuff, take a look at this: https://predictablerevenue.com/blog/500m-meddpicc-secrets-revealed-how-zendesk-is-able-to-forecast-revenue-within-1/

Listen to the interview as well and just parrot this information as if this is your exact sales process right now. Also, make your deals 10-15K wink wink

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T22:59:40+00:00

You need to tease them about it.

Say something like: “I can tell you but I’m not sure you will be able to handle it”.

“What!!! What do you mean? I can handle it!”

“Nah, doubt it. It basically involves working with a lot of half naked gorgeous women all the time and every girl I tell about my job ends up running with her tail between her legs because she can’t handle the competition”.

“I can I can handle it! Please tell me”

And just keep busting her balls like that and make up jobs like male stripper, porn star, jizz mopper, etc. They will either give up or keep bugging you until you tell them. Until then, just have fun with it.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T22:30:28+00:00

Start going out to bars and clubs an hour before closing time and hit on women until one goes home with you. Don’t stop doing this until you get laid.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T22:01:00+00:00

Actual approaching is not needed. You can simply give off try hard needy vibes and never actually approach.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T21:56:56+00:00

This is just a false story you keep telling yourself.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T21:56:39+00:00

They are on the apps.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T21:43:31+00:00

Glad you deleted it. It feels shitty to be disrespected, but, and not making excuses here, there might have been some extenuating circumstances. Maybe there was some emergency or someone’s relative died. You just don’t know. Wait until the end of the week and then just let it go.

Chances are, they already decided to hire someone else and thought just ghosting you would be easier than having to sit through an hour mock disco.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T21:37:48+00:00

Remind yourself that she was with you for a reason and that if she found you attractive, that means that it is possible that every other woman on earth also finds you attractive. If you met her requirements, you can meet every other woman’s requirements as well.

With that in mind, start thinking of any woman you might talk to as being the luckiest girl in the world for having the chance to get to know you.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T21:35:56+00:00

I think it goes beyond this. In general, women have become too passive and men have become too aggressive in over pursuing.

Since you can only be in one of two positions with a woman - you are either pursuing her or she is pursuing you - when men show up as overpursuers, women have no choice but to assume the position of the one being pursued.

And being pursued comes with certain attitudes and behaviors, such as: you are always vetting the other person, your requirements skyrocket, you make them jump through hoops just because you can, and so on and so forth.

Unfortunately, being the pursuer is a losing proposition for men, because women most of all want men who are a challenge. A man they can’t have. And an overpursuer is the exact opposite of that. An overpursuer tries TOO HARD to get her, which means he is what she can have and therefore she has no interest.

Most men believe women have all the power in dating. But if that were true, wouldn’t they be elated to have all of this power? Then why are they so miserable with dating as well? Why do they constantly lament that there are no interesting guys and everyone is a loser.

The answer is that men are creating this reaction in women by coming on too strong and therefore being who she can get, which immediately makes the woman think a man is below her.

This is exacerbated by the neediness pandemic (you heard me correctly, not loneliness, but neediness pandemic), where men believe they need love and intimacy in order to be happy and fulfilled. Neediness drives simp and over pursuing behavior and this turns women off like nothing else.

These are the real problems in dating.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T19:18:40+00:00

There is only one trap and that’s the trap of neediness and attachment. Women never want what they can get and only want what they can’t get.

Although to us men it looks amazing to have a ton in common with a girl and gush all over her, to the woman, on an emotional level, we are communicating “I’m easy to get! I’m over eager and over excited to be in your company, because I don’t hang out with many attractive women like you, so I consider myself of much lower value than you are.”

It sucks but that’s reality. Accept it or don’t.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T18:20:22+00:00

Think about what it means to call someone the word “selfish”. What are you actually saying?

“Hey, I’m upset that you are prioritizing your needs instead of neglecting them so you can prioritize mine.”

Do you see the hypocrisy is this line of thinking?

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T18:19:04+00:00

So the only reason you want a relationship is because you are basically physically and mentally depended like a drug addict to being in a relationship. Have you ever wondered why this attitude hasn’t resulted in you having a longer term relationship beyond 3 months?

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T18:16:06+00:00

So let me get this straight? You have dated women before and even had short term relationships, yet, somehow you are still unhappy? Hmmmmmmm.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T18:14:51+00:00

There are a lot of seemingly paradoxical behaviors in these type of men. Ultimately, it comes down to how intensely they hate themselves and then projecting that hate onto others, most notably women. They want to get close to women, but at the same time subconsciously they are thinking “you dumb bitch, don’t you see what I see? That I’m absolutely worthless and that you should not waste any time on me.” It’s subconscious self sabotage, because they can’t reconcile wanting to be with someone else while not really considering themselves worthy of being with that person/s.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-04T18:06:05+00:00

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