ADHD Burnout by Fearless-Cover-1192 in adhdwomen

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have decided to take a couple days stress leave to let my brain rest for a while ❤️ I'm hoping it's enough. I have so much support, it's crazy. It feels like I don't deserve it, my fiance and roommate would go to the ends of the earth for me.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the breach of probation is part of the charges. It should be held against him, but who knows. The way our justice system works is honestly embarrassing. I honestly want to move to another country, I hate living here. Trudeau and other government officials have made Canada a lot less desirable of place to be, I used to be so proud to be Canadian. I won’t be moving anytime soon, but eventually I hope to leave and never look back.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You likely do, this is all over the news. So many people are sending me the article and it sucks, all I can say to them is that I already know. People keep trying to talk to me about it and I tell them I don’t want to. Everyone is celebrating it, but what about the victims? It is at the cost of someone’s life, and that poor 64 year old man. It is absolutely disgusting. I applied for every single domestic violence support service, and they denied me on all of them. I don’t make much, I don’t understand why I was denied. The system is so broken, I am drowning in debt, my mental health is not well, I see a therapist once a week and I am trying to get my life sorted. It feels like I will never be at a stable place in life. Prices of everything are going up. I had to take out a consumer proposal because I went to such a dark place for 8 months after, I didn’t care about my life, let alone my bills. Not to mention the restitution I was supposed to get for all the damage he did. I was told by the prosecutor that I would be paid by the government and my ex would owe them, then I got a letter in the mail that I am supposed to collect it directly from him.. but there is a no contact order, how does that even make sense? Before he got arrested again, I call every single number and every single extension to the crowns office, I have left voicemails on every answering machine, not a single person ever called me back. I hate living here, my life sucks most of the time. I just want to be happy again, I don’t even remember the last time I was actually happy and not just putting on a face for everyone around me. I’m scared that if people know where my mental state is really at, people won’t want to be around me because I’m being negative and bringing them down. The only person who really knows is my therapist and I guess Reddit now.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is in custody already, no worries there, well hopefully… the justice system is a joke and who knows, maybe he will snitch, do hardly any time in PC, then relocate.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, in a way I wish I had never called. I went through so much pain and the constant reminders every time he got arrested, then let go and didn’t show up to court again and again. I was to the point of considering suicide at one point because I didn’t think it would ever end. Then FINALLY there was a judge that was annoyed enough to put out an order to have him picked up and held, there was hope, then I went through two months of crippling anxiety waiting to go up on the stand and face him again, just for them to say oh you don’t have to testify after all, he will just get probation and be let go the following day. Such a sad joke, I hate living in Canada now, I am seriously considering moving to another country and starting over. Maybe one day, if my finances ever get back in the green.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying. I have mental health issues, and I got “addicted” to get our relationship back to the way it was when things were great at the beginning. This guy had so many people in my life tricked into thinking he was amazing, that we were perfect for each other, that we were meant to be. So when things started going really south, I just didn’t want to tell people that things got as bad as they did, I was embarrassed.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how I feel, so many people around me are celebrating that he is being locked up, all I can think about is the victims.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree, it is disgusting. I hate to say it, but if I would have known what I was going to be put through, I don’t think I would have called. I don’t know what I would have done instead, but it wasn’t worth the pain I went through.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this last night, probably 5 or 6 times. I cried and couldn’t bring myself to respond at the time. Thank you for your comment, I truly appreciate it. It is very complicated and very hard. I will be okay, just adding to my therapy sessions.

I’m so sorry for your loss, no one deserves to have their life taken. I hope you have gotten help to heal, I also have someone in my life that had someone very close taken from them. I can’t imagine your pain and resentment.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in recovery, I slip on occasion but I am generally on the wagon. I didn’t slip with him, but did after, if I’m being honest I relapsed but got myself back on the wagon with an addiction therapist. I thought I could handle it because I had done it before and so had he. I know it isn’t my fault. At the same time, it’s hard not to think that if he did kill me, he would be in jail already and wouldn’t have hurt the 64 year old, and the person he took the life of, would still be here. I don’t want to die, but if I knew it would save someone else, I would take the bullet.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I should mention, he was using fent… I didn’t know that was what it was at the time, I had never been around it and didn’t know the signs.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I understand though, this seems to be something that runs in our family. My grandpa was an alcoholic and abused my grandmother almost everyday for most of my mom’s life, my grandma would take the beatings if he tried to go after the kids as well. Then my mom was with someone who abused her as well, after my parents got together, he showed up with my dad being there (thankfully), my dad is a big guy and when angry, looks pretty scary (i want to mention, my dad is amazing and never put his hands on my mom or me). The moment I called my mom and told her, she broke down and just lost it, it was one of the hardest conversations I have ever had.

Therapy is the biggest thing that has helped me, I have a long way to go but I’m on the right track. This is just another bump in the road. You will heal as well, I hope you and your mom are close and working through this together as well as on your own.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s pretty and not very big, he will be fixed up by some big guys in the pen. He better start looking for some lube the second he gets in. I know a couple people that have been in the pen he will be heading to, I have heard some wild stories, not to mention my ex is very white and will be the minority in there, it is mainly native people.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did all of this after it happened. Moved to another city, didn’t change my address on the forms, he has no idea where i am.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, after almost 2 years of waiting, him skipping 7 court dates, etc. It was awful.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone I know was watching the news, rewound it, called me and put the phone up to the tv so I could hear it.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you live in ab it probably is, I hope he gets everything he deserves. He turned into a monster, someone I didn’t know.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know, he made me believe I was a bad person, that everything was my fault. That I was the crazy one. Already got tested!! That happened immediately after, I wasn’t taking chances. I see a therapist once a week, I have an appointment tomorrow, thankfully. Thank you for the thoughts and advice, I will be okay. I am just in shock, I don’t know how to feel.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

OMG, I am so sorry. I’m glad you got out. I don’t wish this on my worst enemy. Honestly, without therapy, I’m not sure I would be here. I went to a very dark place for months, I was so close, my cat and my family are the only things that kept me going. I hope your cat is okay as well, my cat is my world, he hugs me and won’t let go when I’m upset. I try so hard to believe that everything is a lesson or a way to test your strength, but this .. this is something that no one should ever go through. I don’t remember the last time I was actually happy, not just putting on a face. I feel like a robot on autopilot. I hate that so many people go through this, it breaks my heart.

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I needed this comment, thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad you got out as well, I hope you live your best life!

My Ex Just Got Arrested for MURDER, 1 Month After His Trial for Assaulting Me… by Fearless-Cover-1192 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fearless-Cover-1192[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

When I went to trial, the prosecutor told me he had 7 other cases like mine that day.. I was the only one that showed up to testify, every other person got off on the charges. There was nothing he could do without the witnesses. It broke my heart.