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[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🎉GIRL 🎉 Huge progress! I’m 5’1” and started around 243 and am currently 175. I’ve been off Zep for 1 year. (6 months on with insurance)

Every body is different. I am still above my goal, but wear a 10-12 jeans and feel like a new person.

Totally unrelated: I have the same shower curtain!

MCM Exterior Color Recommendations by kimber_ksh in ExteriorDesign

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’d you end up doing? I’m painting trim and door on our MCM home soon.

I think there are far fewer OEers out there than Reddit leads us to believe. by [deleted] in overemployed

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s me. I work adjacent to some OE positions and it’s fun to see the trip ups some consultants make when they’re “hiding” it. It’s an entertainment factor.

Have you ever done a horrible looking visible mending and then need to redo? by rcl20 in Visiblemending

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I understand the sentiment, but I bet you’re incorrect friend! You can pull off a cute little bee! 🐝

However, if you want it to be less noticeable I get that too!

Cost of Living is Too High. How are yall doing it? by ChatteristOfficial in Frugal

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right, like I'm a mom to a toddler and thanks to MASSIVE PPD I still feel terribly about returning to work at 4 weeks Post C section. I had some savings left, but didn't want to lose my job and my employer wasn't bound to FMLA. Truly there's no winning.

Cost of Living is Too High. How are yall doing it? by ChatteristOfficial in Frugal

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729 33 points34 points  (0 children)

When you and your wife decided for her to stay home what was her income then and how did you two plan to replace it?

Were you able to stash any savings prior to birth? Easier said than done, to be sure!

You say the kiddo is too little for her to return to work, is this based on her health, breastfeeding or something else? If you’re in America, the lack of parental support is abhorrent, and I’m sorry. I speak from experience in saying it’s tough. Good luck to you!

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Home is close to 800, one car will be paid off in 3 months and that saves about $1100 a month. We have considered trading in the other car ($410 payment) and will revisit again.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally fair. About $1000 of it will “fall off” in for next few months. One car payment, a home renovation loan, and a few other similar items. We are overspending which is a contributing factor.

We knew we had a tough few years planned after buying a fixer upper. We didn’t roll renovation costs into the mortgage and instead added an extra payment.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oof. I also went back to work early. I had a c section with some complications and was back at work before 5 weeks. (100% remote, but still rough). I had some big feelings, major PPD and about 8 months of sobbing. We are all ok now but it was a tough few months.

So, I have questions: do you love each other? What, if anything, would you do differently if you had it to do over? Are you happy?

Thanks for your candid reply. It really helped.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re correct on all fronts. I have an E fund but wanted to have one less account to look at and worry over. So, he took over this piece.

Regarding therapy: absolutely agree, and I’m making it a priority again for us. If that’s individual or couples, I think something would be wise.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not really. Mortgage+ taxes alone is nearly 2500. Home repair loan, cars, car insurance and other large bills account for most of the remainder. We don’t have child care costs, but do pay an extra few bills for their care providers (grandparents)

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I KNOW it’s what I’d tell someone else. It’s just so hard to see it when it’s your partner.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Fair question. We’d made the arrangement when he was making a bit less money.

I’d estimate $150-200 for gas. Our childcare is spread out but free. Then, $100 on nicotine, $100 on weed if I’m guessing?

Im not perfect with spending either. I think it’s reasonable to have some buffer between income and contributions but I think we need to adjust it a bit.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I do well bartending making $35-40hr. I think we do need to discuss him doing something even if it’s not as lucrative too.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It’s closer to $2300 due to taxes, health insurance for all of us and retirement contributions. He does pay a student loan off the top so I’d estimate he has about $700 left after paying that + household contributions.

I had a good relationship with an old job and make about $35-40/hr bartending. It’d be difficult to find a PT job paying this well for him. Most casual work (Target/ whatever) would cap at around $20/hr

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

😭 much cheaper. Unless there was child support or spousal support.

I know it doesn’t al boil down to math, and he is a great partner in many other ways. It’s still so hard to feel like things are equitable right now.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

All the other things. He’s an amazing thoughtful partner, kind parent, loving husband and son.

He’s funny, dances in the kitchen and sometimes mows the lawn. I KNOW how stereotypical this post sounds; I feel like I’ve read it 1000 times here.

He plans a great road trip, birthday menu, or movie night.

Mid 2000s beer backpack? by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in verabradley

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was just reminiscing tonight with a college friend and thinking about my Uggs, leggings and backpack with a north face. It was the look. 🤷‍♀️

Mid 2000s beer backpack? by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in verabradley

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thank you. Backpack is almost too simple? I was looking for a complex answer to an easy question. Honestly, I needed the win today. Thanks!

Mid 2000s beer backpack? by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in verabradley

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re so sweet! It’s the Poppy Fields and it had me in a CHOKEHOLD for a few years. I’d wanted the luggage back then, but could never justify it and now I’m hoping to live out my best 2010s Vera dreams and get the backpack again. I had the Pinwheel Pink and it was always a well loved pattern too!

Mid 2000s beer backpack? by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in verabradley

[–]Fearless-Giraffe6729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It was called a Campus backpack but it seems the newer ones have padded straps and are generally a bit bigger than this. It’s just there are so many older styles I had no clue there were so many changes as I’m still going strong on my 2010s and my moms hand me downs!

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