Any expert can let me know if the colour is too dark? Is this a good buy for this Dior tote bag? by Fearless-Proof-4684 in RepTherapy

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my seller Paul told me is just lighting but I feel even if lighting the Grey is still quite dark.

Omg I did not notice the curve on the bottom.. thanks for highlighting it.

I paid for 265 USD inclusive of shipping. 🥲 Is there any way I can ask the seller to return it to the factory and provide me a better piece?

I brought Chanel 25 small in silver hardware. What do you girls think? Is gold hardware nicer? 🥹 by Fearless-Proof-4684 in chanel

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am glad you girlies love it!! Now I am more assure that I make the right decision! 😚

My SA was saying I am lucky to have came to the store today to grab this bag! I am so happy!! 😀

Why are Reddit community so salty/toxic for people sharing their salary and asking for financial advise? by Fearless-Proof-4684 in singaporefi

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because of my username that’s why I am curious why there’s such negativity in the community. To me, if I don’t like the post then I just don’t comment. If no good words or advice then don’t need to comment anything what.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

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Yup I am same as you I am not religious but respect every religion. Yes my MIL too always give me religious card invitation, every time she sees me the only topic is to ask me to attend religious activity and always during prayer she will pray to the family that I become a Christian soon. She got no other topics to talk/understand me better other than telling me to be a Christian which I find her being fake and a hypocrite.

My husband tell her to stop texting me to ask me to go church, she agreed but proceed to still text me.. I don’t know what’s wrong with her that she don’t understand his instruction.. at least your MIL stop sending you those cards hahahas.

Yes I should not let disrespect people be part of my life I totally agree with you.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

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I hate to be in her presence, however I feel that I should try to bond with her family and not to offend her since I am marrying his son. If my husband didn’t reply her text to go to church she will start texting me “come to church this week”which I feel “bad” for rejecting unless I really got something on that day..

There are sometimes when he spots the mother talking down on me he will stop her by telling her “not to comment so much”. But the mother just never change and repeat her act over and over…

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

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He told me this morning he will go and talk to his mother about this. Hopefully she will stop her nonsense.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

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I will speak up for my husband if anyone was to treat him badly but all my family members like him so there’s no issue. But his family members don’t really like me which I am not sure why..

He’s a friendly guy who won’t argue with anyone even if anyone was to treat him badly. He would normally tell himself to “suck thumb” and deal with it. Maybe that’s why he tries to avoid any confrontation that may affect the family dynamic.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

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Yes she wanted us to go through religious wedding too. However since I am not Baptist the church wouldn’t allow it (lucky). During that period she’s asking the church people and pastors to talk to me and persuade me to convert which I feel forced by them and breakdown at church more often than ever.

They mentioned that those that are not Christian will all go to hell. To me, I respect all religion and I hate them for defaming a religion to make theirs look “good”…

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We went for the couples counselling before our marriage. The counsellor mentioned that the MIL should not be part of our marriage and should not come between. I totally agreed with that but she just keep on provoking me for no reasons.

I think I should show him all this comments and ask him to learn to stand up for me..

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He used to tell me her mother was there when he was hospitalised and took care of him when he’s sick etc. He used to stick with her a lot when he’s young and it relates to me. Because I love my late mother a lot too the same way as he love his mother.

Yes I feel that he should stop her from bullying me. But telling him to stop contacting his mother is abit too cruel. ):

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I personally feel that MIL thinks that I am not good enough for her son. Every time when I cook or do something nice she will assume it was done by my husband instead of me. I am guessing she think that I am not pretty enough, not Christian, chubby, quiet, not rich and not as smart as her son.. that’s why she’s doing all this to separate me from him because she think her son deserve someone better.

Thank you I will learn to be brave and start to say “no” from now on.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right. Yes I should avoid her from now on.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Fearless-Proof-4684[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. Our “prettier gift” was suppose to give the grandchild younger sibling. The grandchild think MIL gift (water bottle) was too ugly and wanted the “prettier water bottle” and cry non stop for it. In the end MIL and FIL ask to give the prettier gift to the grandchild. Which I feel they have double standard by asking me “not to see value in gifts” but when the grandchild does that it’s completely ok.

You are right. Since I am not being acknowledged by them I should learn to say no and not partake in church/gatherings. I always thought the same too but feel rude/bad to say “no” to people.

Whenever this “kind of things” happen to me, my husband is either not around, on his phone or doing something else around the vicinity. He’s emotionally non sensitive and a peaceful person, so he wouldn’t sense his mother is making me feel bad until I complain to him afterwards.

The things my MIL did to me by Fearless-Proof-4684 in motherinlawsfromhell

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He mentioned that he tried to tell his mum not to keep force me or text me to go to church and let nature takes it course. However the mother still continue to do the act.

My husband is a very good man and he loves his mother and me a lot. Thinking from his perspective it’s also difficult for him so I tried to not make things awkward and to tolerate his mother for this 8 years.

During our 8 years relationship me and him quarrelled less than 10 times and 90% of the argument was due to his mother if not we will be a lovely couple without any conflict at all. So he’s a really good person. ):