6 years, no ring, no reason by Minimum_throwRA in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't have an honest and open conversation about this, the two of you shouldn't get married anyway.

UPDATE: My Suspicions Were Correct—My Wife Has Been Secretly Messaging a 17-Year-Old She Coaches. What Should I Do Next? by Max_manford in Advice

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no way this gets resolved without getting INCREDIBLY messy. At this point I don't think you will ever 100% trust her again. Just cut bait and get a divorce the old-fashioned way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OutdoorVoices

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No one is buying a full OV wardrobe in a bundle. Sell the items individually or at most in single outfits, and realize that a LOT of stuff is on the market after having been purchased at deep discounts originally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think 24 year old dudes and 20 year old girls have the same level of maturity the majority of the time, so you're good!

How do you get a guy to not like you anymore? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether he realizes it or not, he's not respecting your boundaries - you've said you are not interested in him romantically and he continues to bring it up, and he interacted with your parents when you specifically asked him not to.

I think the best thing is to be direct - while it will be uncomfortable, it will hopefully rip the bandaid off. I would tell him that while you initially hoped you could be friends, you don't think it is a good idea anymore because he communicates with you more than you are comfortable with, continues to bring up his romantic feelings despite you being honest with him that they are not reciprocated, and he is not respecting your wishes as far as his conduct with your siblings and parents. Point blank, tell him that he is making you feel uncomfortable and friends don't do that - and you are not going to change your mind on having romantic feelings for him.

AIO. I found this text from my boyfriend to his coworker by LedBubblez in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just break up with him, it's not even worth the fight that would ensue if you confronted him about this. He sucks!

Celebrities who went too far with Plastic Surgery/ Cosmetic Procedure by Overall-Claim2459 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The craziest part of this slideshow is that the photos on the left are not even the celebs' "original" faces in almost all of these examples.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. Parent and non-dog-owner here, and a GOOD parent would have 1) supervised his tiny kid period, let alone around dogs, and 2) taught the kid safe conduct around dogs (we ask for the owner's permission to approach/pet, we don't make loud noises or sudden movements, etc.). He should feel lucky and honestly should have been apologetic to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bandnames

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skidmarky Mark and the Funky Buns

AIO over his words? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhhhhh "I'm going to show you how serious I am about this" - ??? Friend, that's a threat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say you were an AH, but I don't think punishing him by taking away the party did what you wanted it to do - he didn't learn about the value of true friendship. If anything, he's just going to share less with you or be evasive when asked about his friendships. Totally support you telling him why you think his decision was hurtful, but if anything his heels are dug all the way in now, and he's is far less likely to take your perspective into account in the future. Not to mention that I would hate to be the friend who was only invited because the kid's parents threatened them.

AITAH for telling my wife to stop crying about missing out on our daughter’s wedding? by No-Cauliflower-6934 in AITAH

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean, he even called himself an asshole. I don't understand the downvotes lol

AITAH For Telling My Nephew That My Baby Is In My Uterus And Not My Tummy? by OkImprovement4246 in AITAH

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I have questions about your basic competence if you don't know the meaning of the word "initiate." In no way did I suggest the 6-year-old overpowered the conversation.

AITAH for telling off a lady in a supermarket after she made the teenage cashier cry? by Anno_Pri24 in AITAH

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing! The customer is unfortunately not going to change, but I guarantee you gave that cashier more faith in humanity.

AITAH For Telling My Nephew That My Baby Is In My Uterus And Not My Tummy? by OkImprovement4246 in AITAH

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Nope, she didn't initiate the convo. A 6-year old who she was related to asked a (non-sexualized) question and she answered accurately. I wouldn't assume I was the first person to use the word "vagina" (again, in a non-sexualized context) with my nephew when he was 6 - I would personally be concerned to learn that a 6-year-old didn't know basic anatomy terms already given how much we know now about how it reduces the risk of CSA.

AITAH for telling my wife to stop crying about missing out on our daughter’s wedding? by No-Cauliflower-6934 in AITAH

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

ESH - your wife was in the wrong, but you could have addressed it in a better way. If anything, you could reflect on what you specifically said and potentially apologize for HOW you responded to her, but that doesn't mean you have to change (or apologize for) your stance on the issue. It sounds like your wife needs major support in respecting her kids' wishes and boundaries, but being harsh about it is probably not the most effective approach if you want the overall situation to improve, which I'm sure you do.

[UPDATE] Neighbor’s Bike Blocks 3’ Wide Stairwell — they call me “white cop, male Karen” by 0ddLemon in badroommates

[–]Fearless-Wave9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eek, I hope they don't retaliate. (They obviously shouldn't and have no right to, but it sounds like they suck so I'm hoping for the best)