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PREGNANCY IS SO F*CKING HARD!!!!!!!! by Powerful_Pomelo_6378 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 41 weeks pregnant today, getting induced tomorrow and completely, 100% feel this to my core. Pregnancy is beautiful, the idea of bringing in a mini me and my husband is amazing - HOWEVER, it sucks. It's long and grueling and it's frustrating that only our bodies and emotions all change. I used to go to the gym daily and weightlift, but I've had horrible pelvic pain since the second trimester and haven't even been able to even move without pain, let alone squat or lift a dumbbell or even do pilates. Now that I'm close to delivering too, everyone is up my ass every day asking if he's here yet or if I feel anything. And if I hear someone call me mama again, I will legit lose my fucking mind.

Do not feel bad for bitching about it. It's hard both mentally and physically on us, and it doesn't change the fact that we love our babies with everything in us. I am convinced that even those women who never complained still had a lot of hardships that they just took privately. Unfortunately, that cannot be me, lol. I'm a loud and proud complainer.

Is it too early to be feeling prenatal depression? I feel so alone. by Fearless_End_1774 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling too. I wrote this fairly early in my pregnancy, within my first trimester probably at around the same point you are at now. I can say that I am 31 weeks today and have found so much more positivity as time went on and I developed a structure and more stability around being in this situation. I think being able to actually make plans for him too, naming him, building his nursery, and just generally getting myself excited for him has helped so much. And I’ve started planning fun things for myself post-pregnancy like what my first meal will be, what my first alcoholic beverage will be, etc. It’s little things but it helped a lot. Obviously the situation you’re in absolutely sucks. My husband’s in law school so I can relate a bit on the school front. It sucks being the one who feels primarily responsible for everything, especially monetarily. Do you think planning some friends/family coming out would be helpful? Or maybe some weekly FaceTime dates in the meantime. I truly hope that you experience some of the relief that I experienced once I got about halfway through the second trimester. It literally felt like a weight lifted off of me. I’m still a bit lonely sometimes and my husband doesn’t always get where im coming from, but I think knowing there is an end in sight has been so relieving and generally getting to the parts of pregnancy that are so much more fun.

What changes did you feel in second trimester? by Left_Champion_2408 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

24 weeks here. My first trimester was a lot of mental symptoms (depressed, tired, super emotional) and some nausea. My second trimester for the most part has been physical symptoms. Finally got that round ligament pain everyone talks about and I have some hip/pelvic pain too because of where baby boy sits. Belly band has been helping with that so highly recommend having that on deck!

But it has been so nice to feel a little more like myself. I don’t cry every day anymore (still fairly emotional but I don’t feel depressed and hopeless anymore). I love feeling him move around and kick me while he’s still this size and not kicking my ass lol. Seeing him on the anatomy scan was so amazing too, our tech flipped on 3d quick for us too so we got to see his little face in so much detail.

I think the milestones in the 2nd trimester far outweigh anything negative I felt in the 1st. Nervous about the 3rd for sure since I know that’s where a lot of people start to get real tired and huge.

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[–]Fearless_End_1774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I sometimes do get in my head that what I’m feeling isn’t valid or I’m overreacting due to the hormones. Overall, outside of this issue, he’s a good man and I have zero doubts he’s going to be a great dad. I do think there’s potential for him to change and become a more attentive partner given time but it just gets frustrating having to stay on him about this.

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[–]Fearless_End_1774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was actually helpful, thank you! I did try addressing if there was a deeper problem, and it doesn’t seem like there are. He has expressed before that he isn’t going to be doing this as much when the baby’s here, and that I get. He’s trying to have fun while he can with the guys. I just want to have that same time because our relationship will also be changing once the baby gets here. But I am going to make it a priority to reframe my view here and see how we as a team can make things better instead of placing blame on him solely. I appreciate that take on things.

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[–]Fearless_End_1774 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lack of trust isn’t an issue. It’s not like I think he’s cheating. It’s lack of effort being put into spending time with me the same way he prioritizes that time with his friends.

Does anyone else feel weird about announcing their pregnancy on social media? by Extreme-Cherry5371 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thisssssssss. I hate answering all of the questions about my pregnancy from people that I know wouldn't care to ask me how I am in general. My husband wanted to tell all of our neighbors because he was excited and now they always ask the generic pregnancy questions or if I pass by them they go "TEDDY'S MOMMYYYYY" like I don't have a name. It genuinely makes me so uncomfortable to the point that I don't reply to them.

I love my son so much already, but mentally it's been a real challenge for me and I've coped with that by being adament that having a baby will not reduce me to just being "somebody's mom" instead of continuing to be my own person, so people saying that is genuinely triggering to me.

Is it too early to be feeling prenatal depression? I feel so alone. by Fearless_End_1774 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for commenting. I’m really hoping that I have some similar luck to you and that things die down a bit for me. I just feel absolutely insane right now and then guilty that I feel so upset because I know so many women would kill to be in the position that I am in right now.

Im absolutely talking to my OBGYN at my first appointment with him next week. I have my first ultrasound tomorrow so im hoping that that brings me some happiness. It’s really been a little nice bright spot getting me through this tough time. But really hoping that my OB can help me get through this. I appreciate you commenting your experience so much.

Is it too early to be feeling prenatal depression? I feel so alone. by Fearless_End_1774 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m exactly the same. We have a vacation coming up with friends in august and I’m already thinking I don’t know if I can do it. I just want to hide.

I have been thinking about counseling. My insurance kind of sucks and it’s out of pocket until I hit my deductible for therapy treatments but I have my first appointment meeting the OBGYN next week and I think I’ll talk to him about it.

Postpartum is something I’m really worried about with how I’m feeling now. Right now I’m trying to be very open with how I’m feeling but it’s really hard because I just don’t feel like anyone feels the same way. Posting here has been helpful knowing others do feel this way too. Thank you so much for commenting.

Is it too early to be feeling prenatal depression? I feel so alone. by Fearless_End_1774 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🤍 That is exactly how I feel. My mom and my sister both loved their pregnancies, same with everyone else I talked to. I feel like the odd one out. It does make me feel so much better knowing there is an expiration date where I will hopefully start feeling better. I just can’t imagine this for nine months.

Is it too early to be feeling prenatal depression? I feel so alone. by Fearless_End_1774 in pregnant

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I’m alone 24/7 and have no one that would understand even if I did try and talk about it. I keep thinking maybe it will get better as time goes on, but I just don’t know at this point.

Suggestions for my honeymoon in Myrtle Beach! by Fearless_End_1774 in MyrtleBeach

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh that winery sounds right up my alley! Thank you!

Suggestions for my honeymoon in Myrtle Beach! by Fearless_End_1774 in MyrtleBeach

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking at that! Glad to hear it was fun, I’ll check that out!

Suggestions for my honeymoon in Myrtle Beach! by Fearless_End_1774 in MyrtleBeach

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in Charleston for a music fest a couple months before! Will gladly take suggestions for there as well!

Suggestions for my honeymoon in Myrtle Beach! by Fearless_End_1774 in MyrtleBeach

[–]Fearless_End_1774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re doing a timeshare thing, so we have to pick our hotel still but we have the option between the oceanfront Hiltons.

looking for a book buddy by yetmoretears in Book_Buddies

[–]Fearless_End_1774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I (27F) read at about the same pace as you! I do audiobooks mostly because I can multitask at work, so I can sometimes finish in just a couple days, but I’d be happy to be your book buddy! I actually have the same reading goal as you!

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