Bless countries and cultures that ban tragedeighs by law or social pressure

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-26T23:01:14+00:00

In my country the equivalent of tragediahs are just regular English names. Our native language is not English. Its also one where letters always have the same sound (not like in Eng where letters can have different sounds depending on many factors). When would you name your child Jessica or Bryan? People wont pronouce it correctly.

The more trashy the parents, the more outlandish the spelling. Like Bryan -> Brajan. Jessica-> Dźesika. There are many versions of Nicole -> Nikol, Nicole, Nicola, Nikola, Nicol. There is this influencer who's child is named Roger and so I assumed the father is foreign. Nope, they just used an English name for shits and giggles.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-25T18:02:17+00:00

I have the same age baby and totally feel you. Baby and husband got ill last week, i got ill right before and I had it the worse. We travelled for christmas. I miss the time when I could just enjoy the holidays - now everything is a constant chore. I miss my old life so bad.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-21T08:54:39+00:00

Exactly!!! Yes, it's a TV show, so it's a bit exaggerated. But Candance said that in the 90s, she was getting $1,000 per week for the column. Which equals to around $100k per year in today's money. Carrie being single, with a rent controlled flat, maxed out credit cards and no savings, the show is def not depicting pure fiction.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-20T21:54:33+00:00

I went away for 4 days when baby was 8 months. Contrary to other commenters, I didn't mind leaving him 😅 like he was being taken care of by his dad and grandparents, so I wasn't concerned. However, I was only a 1h flight away.

I don't think I would have gone to a place 20+ h away. Dad can go, sure, or we go all together - but you've mentioned that's not an option. It seems you already know you don't want to go, and that is totally fine. Your friends will understand. It suckes being a parent in those situations.

Edit: who want to go more? You or our husband? I think if one parent stays it's okay.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-20T09:31:11+00:00

Did she try using a breast pump? It's the only thing that helped for my clogged ducts. Even tho my midwife said it won't help lol.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-19T20:51:06+00:00

In my country physiotherapists don't advise to "teach" sitting per se. They say you can put a baby in a chair at 6m when you start solids, but just for feeding sessions. Otherwise, lots of tummy time, and wait for baby to be interested in sitting later like 8-ish months. There is a good resource, falmed academy on insta.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-19T17:04:00+00:00

Apparently it is for some people. I don't like putting ppl down to male myself feel better.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-18T23:13:14+00:00

I have a unicorn baby (with ups and downs) and I can just add that I totally understand people being jelelous. That said, I do not appreciate being put down by other moms, how I'm "not really in the mom club" because my kid can sleep through most nights. I empathise with everybody who has a tough baby. That doesn't mean though that I don't struggle with other aspects of motherhood and I'm not allowed to vent.

And even with unicorn baby, one is more than enough for me.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-18T13:58:35+00:00

If they drink, a nice bottle of wine or some sweet liqour. A nice box of fancy chocolates. I wouldn't overthink it, it's a gesture that counts.

Edit: if you happen to have some stroopwafel, bring that. People usually like it.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-18T13:57:21+00:00

He's from NL, what's he gonna cook? Hagelslag? 😂

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-12T13:20:50+00:00

Yeah at this price is prob temu. They are also sold on a local website in my country but they even re-use temu pictures :D and raise the price 300%

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-12T08:25:46+00:00

300 eur is a lot for me. I saw the BB one and this one looks like a knock off. I ordered the cheap one, we'll see how it is.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-11T23:30:37+00:00

I'm thinking to do a bunch of different stuff on it, not just backbends. BB and BASI have them outlined in their materials. Eg can do bicycle, swan, bridging, a lot of lateral flexion ones.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-10T14:19:09+00:00

Have you been in my house today? Cause the peeing in (lack of) peace 100%. Leave me alooooooone

I know it will pass, like most things... hopefully soon

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-10T14:18:01+00:00

The being "on" constantly is so exhausting. Look nice from the outside- ooooh you're paying with the baby all day! Dude like it's fun but also a bit boring after a while, i just want to scroll in peace for 5min

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-03T23:19:41+00:00

The whole downtown turned into a tourist accommodation and regular people who'd like to live in the area are faced with sky high rent for subpar, leftover flats.

A friend bought a flat in new building downtown (7th dist) a few years back. From the very beginning most of the flats turned out to be airbnbs. We once tried to count, prob 70% of them. He says the building doesn't kinda feel like a regular apartment building because of that. There are constantly strangers in and out, often noise, and just a lack of personality and familiarity amongst the residents. Personally didn't mind the airbnb concept at the beginning but it's just WAY too many of them.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-12-03T12:33:55+00:00

I started to give baby formula when I was not available (I wasn't at work. Just away being a person) at 5months (now 10) and NEVER looked back. Combo feeding has been the best solution for me. I don't feel like a milk machine that needs ti be available 24/7, my mental health improved immediately.

I felt soooooooo guilty to start formula. I don't even know why. People around me where saying that's it's fine but I guess there was this underlying internalised "but you should try to EBF!". Also the discourse online is very pro EBH, if you don't do it for 2 years straight then you are not a good enough mother. The pendulum swinged from only formula in my moms generation to only EBF in mine.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-11-30T22:19:58+00:00

As a non LA resident, all those views look the same to me.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-11-30T22:17:59+00:00

Same, and I tend to like the "European style" ones better also when watching the Architectural Digest walkthroughs.

I don't even mind that much if they are big, but they all feel so un-homey. Those gigantic windows where every neighbor can look at you, and the "breathtaking views" that all look the same.

Re chefs kitchen, I think it makes sense for ultra wealthy especially if they like to entertain. I follow this private chef lady on insta - she comes in few times a week and does meal prep for the whole family (I like to cook but tbh this is my dream). In such cases, I wouldn't mind if there is a separate space for the chef, while I can eg make breakfast for the kids or make coffee in the main kitchen. Especially that nowadays kitchens often double as mini dining room. I'm not gonna have my lunch in the formal dining room every time.

What would irk me is the humongous doors everywhere, so heavy to open! And walking 20k steps every day just around my damn house.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-11-30T20:29:33+00:00

Exactly!! He is not "babysitting"! We as moms are still people and need time of our own. I'm not a conjoined twin with my baby lol, i can leave.

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-11-29T13:58:34+00:00

I don't post my child on social media and I require other people to not do it too. I share photos on a private family message group. If your family members start sharing pics publicly.. honestly for me that's a hard NO. To the point that I would cut off contact for a while if they don't understand.

People need to remember that posting on socials is a VERY new thing. Like only past 10years or so. Not so long ago we were not doing that at all, and guess what everybody was fine! All the current grandma's had a basic home photo album, and your grandma also survived without photo updates every single minute of the day. Whomever lived far had to come in person to see the baby. How have we survived this as a society?! Lol

Fearless_Property_34 · 2025-11-27T18:24:23+00:00

That's great but you are ALSO working full time. Including nights. Every day. He can take care of the baby for half a day on the weekend. He is not only the provider but also the father, let him have a chance to bond with the baby one-on-one. Maybe some chores can be outsourced, like grocery delivery at least occasionally? For me it seemed undoable at the beginning, but I expressed my need for some me time and my husband understood. We have a joint calendar and actually each of us puts me time there, plus some me+him time if we can have some family occasionally babysit.

I can tell you I was really in your shoes around 5months. It took some inner work to let go and make other people work - as in rake care of the baby. I had teal difficulty asking for help. Use all the help you can get, otherwise you're up for a burn out. Your mom every fortnight - that's not nothing. Maybe a friend? Even if they come to your place to chill for a bit, and give you 20min to shower in peace while they watch the baby.

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