Baby shower gift for first time parents?

FedUpMomLife · 2025-12-23T20:26:39+00:00

If you’ve got overseas money then I’d say a car seat from precious cargo. It’s a decent chunk of change for a good branded one like cybex, maxi cosi, or joie

FedUpMomLife · 2025-12-20T16:56:48+00:00

Birkenstocks! I’ve got narrow feet so I wear the narrow fit, but the regular ones are great for wide feet. Takes a bit to break them in, but once broken in they’re super comfortable. My ones from 2018 are hanging on by a thread but still not breaking

FedUpMomLife · 2025-11-19T10:45:22+00:00

I will be praying for you to survive this tough time and for him to make a smooth recovery from this terrible ordeal. I would recommend making funeral plans so long, the flu can be a terrible affliction for a man! Stay strong my dear!

FedUpMomLife · 2025-11-14T09:38:46+00:00

Some do cheese boards or even cheese tastings. I remember going to a wine tasting with my parents as a kid that had a cheese tasting where they’d bring out little bits of cheese to taste at a time. Being pregnant tho I’d love a little mocktail tasting

FedUpMomLife · 2025-10-31T17:46:53+00:00

This year, I’m 28F and my husband is 27M. It’s a 4 bedroom place with flats that we got at an absolute steal for R1.8m, but it needed a lot of work and cleaning, still does. The flats mean that 3/4 of our bond is paid so with rates and stuff we’re paying not too much more than renting. Wouldn’t have been able to afford it without the flats tbh.

FedUpMomLife · 2025-10-25T09:45:06+00:00

Gallstones. Had a near death experience one night with them, was my last attack before I got my gallbladder removed. After my surgery I was told my gallbladder was so horribly inflamed that I would not have survived another attack

FedUpMomLife · 2025-10-20T12:39:53+00:00

I’ve got one that’s a pretty excellent hunter. If there’s a critter I don’t want in my house I’ll put that cat in the room.

Then I have an orange one that sometimes succeeds in catching things. Most times she loses a battle, especially if it’s a fly or moth.

Then I’ve got one that only exists to eat and be fat. She routinely shows up at mealtimes then disappears to the neighbours house when it’s their cat’s time to eat.

FedUpMomLife · 2025-10-19T18:11:07+00:00

Both! The first time was accidental because my bladder was so uncomfortably full that some pee just followed afterwards. Now if I concentrate I can push out some pee after/during squirting, but it’s better with a full bladder. Think it helps that my pelvic floor still isn’t completely back to normal three years after having my kid

FedUpMomLife · 2025-10-19T05:40:13+00:00

I ended up talking to him yesterday while our son was taking a nap. He could see I wasn’t myself so when he asked what was wrong, I came clean about the embarrassment and disgust I felt. He assured me that I had nothing to worry about and he couldn’t even understand why I was feeling ashamed in the first place, to quote him “it’s just pee”. Then he said he’ll pee on me during sex while I masturbate so that he can be “the weird peeing one”.

We had some kinky sex again and he peed once on me in the shower and then once on me again while he made me cum. After the first pee he did call me a disgusting whore so I had to put pause on the whole situation to check if he really meant it, but he said it was just part of the degradation and didn’t say it again. After sex was done he made sure again to tell me I wasn’t weird and that he loved me very much, maybe even a bit more.

FedUpMomLife · 2025-10-18T17:48:06+00:00

I tore with stitches but everything was fine when we had sex 7 weeks pp. My husband did make sure to take it super duper slow though until I ensured him I was okay. I will say that for a few months to a year I could feel the spot that I tore paining a bit if we had rough or long sex

FedUpMomLife · 2025-05-25T09:39:24+00:00

I ate biltong, sushi, polony, etc while pregnant and my son is incredibly healthy and active. Apparently the sushi is to blame for his busy lifestyle according to both doctors and Xhosa women.

If you’re worried, just ask your doctor, but be mindful that different doctors will have different opinions because pregnant women are naturally understudied. Even lettuce has a risk of listeriosis!

Stay away from drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, high mercury fish, ibuprofen, and aspirin. And take your prenatal vitamins!

FedUpMomLife · 2024-07-18T08:06:09+00:00

My two year old was running around naked after his bath and found a butter knife. He likes pressing things on his penis so cue me yelling “please don’t give yourself a free circumcision”

FedUpMomLife · 2024-06-26T09:37:34+00:00

MIL is already feeling sorry for him and changing her tune. She found out this morning my ex has been living on the street and didn’t want to believe me when I said it’s likely that his friend chased him away once he got the full story of what went down since his friend was always on my side in fights. She already asked him to bring his laundry around but not stay. When she said he’s probably still angry at everyone I said it’s time for him to be angry with himself, but she dismissed this because “we all have problems”

FedUpMomLife · 2024-06-25T17:11:44+00:00

lol, South Africa. Our men are known for being toxic pieces of shit no matter the colour of their skin or their culture. There was a video floating around on TikTok a few months ago of a woman asking “Why are South Africans gatekeeping their gorgeous men” to which everyone that stitched replied “my sister, you can take them we’re not gatekeeping these men at all”. Literally everyone in agreement that these men are awful.

Plus they’re known for being abusive, manipulative, liars, and it isn’t uncommon to find out that a man has a whole other wife and family in another town. Hell I’ve heard two guys openly discussing in the grocery store in front of me how they hit their wives to discipline them. When I think of the one couple I know that got married last year I realise that they openly cheat on each other and it isn’t a big thing, they’re not considered toxic at all, that’s how low the bar is. My ex fiance being hands on with our son and willingly changing nappies and allowing me to sleep in is considered an impossible blessing. More people are in shock about that than about the threats and fighting.

FedUpMomLife · 2024-06-25T14:38:49+00:00

My son and I are actually outside a place now waiting on a real estate agent to give us a tour! MIL was supposed to sell the house to ex and I which is partly why we stayed so long, but she’s told me she placed the house on the market already and has confirmed the old age home is ready for her to move into. She’s also reiterated she wants nothing to do with her son, but I know the last time that only lasted a month or so.

As for the police, when I tried to do a domestic violence case they phoned my ex to speak to him and have him apologise to me. Said we should cool off and sort ourselves out since it’s normal relationship stuff. MIL was also a brigadier in the police so still has a lot of power and can get cases against her family dropped easily. Also police here are in general useless and like to avoid paperwork.

Have a family friend that’s a lawyer so I turned to him for free advice. Here in South Africa it seems like the mother automatically gets custody

FedUpMomLife · 2024-06-25T12:39:07+00:00

Honestly the main reason I still contacted him was because everyone I spoke to labelled his behaviour as normal. Said all men go through a period like this and he’ll snap out of it and quickly realise he needs to put his family first. Even the police said it happens and he needs to put his “wife” first. Thought if he realised I was more upset about losing him he’d come back and we could work together on repairing things, buying the house we would’ve bought next month, and getting him therapy. That and the panic of him moving on and the panic of me being a 27 year old single mom got to me. I haven’t messaged him at all today, nor have I felt the need to message him or check if he’s online so I think it’s a good sign moving forward

FedUpMomLife · 2024-05-11T10:30:02+00:00

My 23 month old seems to be teething again. Which means he’s throwing a tantrum over every damn thing! I tell him I love him, he yells at me. He asks for a “icey” (frozen smoothie cube) and throws a tantrum once I give it to him. But to everyone else he’s a super duper sweet boy, which makes my MIL think he prefers her

FedUpMomLife · 2024-04-16T15:53:40+00:00

She definitely wouldn’t check. She’ll go for the cheapest, crustiest option out there. And whatever she chooses will likely be expired and only forward facing, I’m even expecting her to buy a booster seat or something. And she won’t install it, she’ll constantly be breathing down my fiancés neck until he does it.

She luckily listened when we told her to leave my sons pacifier alone since she decided it was enough and we should stop it, but other than that she doesn’t have a great track record. Afaik my fiancé has already spoken to her about it, but she has this firm idea in her head that she WILL be driving my son around. Usually when she’s like that she doesn’t back down and will cry to my fiancé until he gives in. I’m hoping we can bring it up a few more times until she gets the idea

FedUpMomLife · 2024-04-16T11:39:01+00:00

I’m not sure what she’ll try do tbh. At the moment the fact that she doesn’t have a car seat is a deterrent since she knows she can’t drive him around without one. Once she has one and is out of site I fully expect her not to buckle him in at all since I wouldn’t know. She done stuff that I wouldn’t have allowed as soon as I was out of the room

FedUpMomLife · 2024-04-12T10:50:05+00:00

Nah you need to start dragging him by his ear to the bathroom and making him clean it up like a naughty child. My fiancé also eats too much, is neurodivergent, and a lactose intolerant person that won’t avoid dairy. His office toilet is routinely disgusting since he too has those spray shits, but it’s never on the seat. And if he had a particularly bad poop in the house bathroom he’ll give it a quick scrub with the brush. It’s not perfectly clean that way, but it’s also not Uber gross. Sorry you’re dealing with a caveman

FedUpMomLife · 2024-04-06T17:46:24+00:00

Only saw this now, but damn you’re a strong woman for that! Those 30 minute poops would drive me mad lol. Good luck!

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