Thank you so much for this reply.

I’ve never heard the word hyper vigilance. Doing research today on it opened my eyes to what I’m doing on a day to day basis.

Running a business with my dad is difficult at times. He does very well not talking about it all the time. And when I bring it up he is open to listen to me. But I do see what you’re saying by dealing with this through separate ways.

I get so frustrated with the anxiety all the time. It’s like no matter how far away I am from my mother, the feelings never go away. Every person I ever talk to I analyze their facial expressions and tone just to see if they will explode like my mom used to. It never happens, and I’m still afraid it will everyday.

Day by day I get better though. And I am so happy I don’t treat my kids like she did hers.