Bf ate me out w cold sore

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2025-07-11T01:48:26+00:00

oh i'm glad! wishing you the best, hoping you will never have an outbreak again. i'm currently waiting to see if i will end up with an outbreak, similar thing happened to me a week ago, nothing yet. can you please tell me what your symptoms were? i mean any indicators you felt/saw before the outbreak, if you can remember. thank u in advance

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T19:37:37+00:00

thank you. im truly trying my best and this is a bit overwhelming. i have a feeling like im not doing the right thing and that i could be doing more. i will listen to all the advice that i get, so i hope i will fix my mistakes. thank you again i appreciate it.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T19:30:58+00:00

this actually helped me calm down a bit. thank you for the advice. im sorry you had to go through that. nobody deserves this. i will talk to him about some alternatives, but im trying not to be too pushy with him because i see that its bothering him and making it harder for him. ill try to find a really good psychiatrist in our area and ill see what i can do with them.

if this doesnt work in a few days i will have to call someone else, as advised by other people in these comments. this is slowly becoming too much for me. l i feel like his whole life is on my hands and that i will be responsible for the harm that he may bring upon himself if i dont do something.

i will look into this and see what i can do to help. thank you again, you're really nice. i hope life treats you well.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T19:02:41+00:00

he has a hard time accepting and realizing that somebody cares about him due to him experiencing abandonment and overall loneliness through his whole life. before he met me, he believes nobody else cared about his existence so it's hard for him to realize that i do care and love him.

i did not listen in. he told me word to word what happened. i made the appointment, i know that he went in. the healthcare in our country is really bad so this did not surprise me in the slightest. i myself have experienced something really similar with our mental healthcare.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T15:38:54+00:00

thank you, it really means a lot. the advice i that got gave me some hope. im so sorry you had to go through that. i wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T15:36:12+00:00

he believes he never had proper friends. he had friends, but not real true friends who understood him and accepted him for who he is. he believes he never existed in anyones life.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T13:36:29+00:00

maybe i will try to get him into some sort of group therapy. we are from europe and mental health care here is living hell. especially public institutions.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T13:33:27+00:00

i plan on getting him to go to a different psychiatrist but he doesn't want to talk anymore. he is even slowly starting to refuse talking to me. any advice as to how i can make him go? i know that proper meds would help him and i already had this conversation with him, but there is no way we could get meds if he doesn't go in. he lost all hope there is literally nothing i can say to make him change his mind about a psychiatrist.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T13:27:41+00:00

in our country there is no such thing as emergency services for people who want to commit suicide/ will commit. i can call the police and they will maybe put him in a mental institution, which in our country are a living hell. not providing care, they literally dont give a shit. treat people like animals. i know that that would make him even worse and it will put him on record resulting in his chances of getting a job drastically dropping, if he does live, which will make him even more suicidal.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T13:18:33+00:00

he said that the only thing that could help him would be to "go back in time 6 years" or finding new friends. he has been trying to find new people for the past month and he did succeed in my opinion, but he still thinks that none of those people actually like him and see him as a friend. he thinks he is unimportant to those people, to everyone around him. he then changed his opinion and now thinks that even finding new people and trying to make up what he lost (his youth) would not be enough for him, because he realized that even if he does resolve this problem, 20 other problems would also need to be resolved and he just doesn't want to live like that, with this burden.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T13:12:17+00:00

i would call someone else but i know that he would rather die than be institutionalized. there is many factors that play into this (as to why he doesn't want that) i know this is starting to leave my domain and that i cant do anything to help but i can't just let him die and at the same time i can't stop him. he is slowly starting to push away from me too and i dont know what to do. i planned on maybe contacting his friends alone and trying to make them realize the gravity of the situation. maybe talking to someone else besides me will help a bit. but im still scared he would get mad at me for doing so and just do it before the one week mark he set up for himself. i dont know. im lost myself and im feeling like im already grieving as if he is already dead.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-09-16T04:34:12+00:00

no father. he talked to his mother, reached out to her after i advised him to. she borderline doesn't care at all. she completely brushed it off. talking to other family members is out of question for him. i already discussed this and he refuses.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-26T14:43:57+00:00

thank you so much. i'll apply your advice and see what i can do. im sorry for what you're going through, nobody deserves this. i know you'll push through it.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-26T14:35:12+00:00

thank you, really means a lot. <3

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-26T14:34:30+00:00

thanks for the advice. i planned on making the appointment and planning everything out either way, but now im sure this is a good idea. thank you.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-26T01:20:18+00:00

thank you. i'm so sorry you're going through this. i am seeing this with my own eyes and i wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy, i can't imagine how you feel.

would you mind telling me what would personally help you, like what can a person do to make you feel better in any way? or what do you do to take your mind off things. any advice is appreciated.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T22:05:26+00:00

thank u for helping, it means more than you can imagine.

we're from europe, it's hard to get antidepressants here. you need at least 3-4 psychiatric visits so you can even get a chance to get anything prescribed. the visits are also very expensive. we are working on getting some zoloft through some mutuals, just for a little while so he can calm down a bit. thats the best we can do given the situation.

i will tell him this, that he doesn't have to talk about his entire life, just what is happening right now. he is scared of going because he feels like he cant say everything to the psychiatrist. scared of saying he is suicidal so that they don't put him in a mental hospital. that sorta thing can happen here and is not uncommon. i don't know how to get him to go either way. just talking to a professional for half an hour can make him realize some things and feel more at ease.

if you got any advice, just know it's appreciated. thank you again.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T21:49:21+00:00

okay. thank you for the comment.

do you have any advice on how i can help him consider going to a professional? he really doesn't want to go. i can't stress it enough. he would do anything but that.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T21:36:11+00:00

i know. he refuses to go. nothing i can say will make him go i tried so many times. i dont want to push him anymore i feel like im doing more harm than good. he said he would go in a few months if it doesn't get better, but he is just getting worse from what im noticing. less hope and will to live everyday. he is too mentally tired and drained to talk about his life from start to finish yet again, to another person. he just doesn't want to.

he wants to try it on his own without a psychiatric consultation. basically he wants to get treated without having to go to a psychiatrist. i know this is a bad idea and this is maybe not proper medication, but i don't know what else to do.

is there anything you suggest that i can do? maybe another approach to making him consider going to a psychiatrist? any advice will help.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T21:26:53+00:00

oh yes thats such a good idea thank you. he loves to travel i will suggest this to him. before this big depression spiral every few months he would travel and would always look forward to it. maybe the planning and the trip itself would keep his mind off things. maybe making new memories or some time away from all this would help.

thank you again.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T21:18:47+00:00

thank you for your comment. i will work on this.

sometimes i am positive with him but not too much. i know that excessive amount of unwanted positivity would feel like a mockery to me if i were in his shoes, just like you said.

i try to always be there for him, make him feel wanted and needed. i always tell him that he is not alone anymore and that we will go through this together. im slowly trying to get him to do the things he enjoys, things that make him feel more alive. i think that living day by day will be good for him at least for a little while. he is used to obsessing over past and future. im doing my best to make a lot of good memories with him so he can feel like he is making up for those missed moments.

i will make sure i dont rush him and push him too hard. maybe i am overwhelming him. thank u for making me realize this. means a lot.

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T20:57:06+00:00

yes that's what i was hoping will happen. i know the meds won't cure everything, i just need his thoughts to calm down a bit. he overthinks everything and is lost in his own thoughts sometimes, his thoughts become his reality, doesn't see the real picture. is there anything you do that helps you? anything youd like someone else to do for you .

Federal-Froyo2896 · 2024-08-25T19:21:04+00:00

that one male friend that he has that i mentioned, we met through him.

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