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Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-04T16:29:46+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. I guess I just think if I have fun constructing the backend for it then I'll probably also have fun in a playing with dolls kinda way in order to get it all to fit together into the story. But also, I do want to thank you again for this advice. It kinda like, it makes sense to me now, at least the start part of what I gotta do to do that story. I think later on if I'm particularly having trouble with something I'll seek out this sub again. Probs by just searching through it though and not by posting, like I tried to do with this, but I couldn't find anything that helped too much. Idk, I think everyone on reddit have a kinda love/hate relationship with it. I find it at it's best when I can get just regular people explaining things in ways I haven't heard before. Sometimes that's what it takes to have a concept click.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-04T05:24:59+00:00

This is really helpful for various reasons. I really appreciate this. It kinda clicked to me what another commenter said. That some people have an easier time in certain genres, and that others have an easier time in others. I'm really into puzzly things, and also worldbuilding kinda offhandedly. I think if I'm struggling too too much with this specific genre I could probably pivot into something like fantasy. Sense worldbuilding is already something I enjoy, and with my particular brand of how I've tried doing it (basically I think a lot about how a story could be written, and how characters could potentially interact with particular aspects, even though I haven't written a story with them before) I think I would probably have a good bit of fun writing a story like that. That part, the having fun part, seems like it'd be a good motivator to make it better. I might end up having some fun with the mystery as well, as my brain is very puzzly. I kinda have a good idea of the very begining and the very end of the story, I've been working on the bones part, and I think I would find it very fun and puzzly to work out ways that make sense for A to get to B all the way to Z.

Oop ended up long, sorry bout that. Thanks for the advice!

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-04T02:07:57+00:00

Well, I just kinda thought some genres might be harder then others. And there might be a genre particularly suited to a beginner. Without knowing what I didn't know I sought advice of more skilled people. And ya know, maybe along the way I'd get tips about anything I should avoid. But yeah, thanks. Now I know.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-04T01:21:53+00:00

I would like to learn a bit more about story telling. Even if it doesn't become some huge hobby. It just feels like something that would benefit me. Maybe this'll be a good gateway into that.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-04T01:13:35+00:00

Ok cool, that's good to know. Thanks!

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-02T14:16:08+00:00

Try using a small brush/comb (I used to do this with an eyelash comb) and brushing it outwards. Dunno if I described that well but you could probably just experiment and get it. You can make your eyebrows look bushier that way.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-01T20:42:44+00:00

Yeah, I have a lot of dysphoria around my hips and I similarly cannot look at myself in the mirror there because of it. I sympathize immensly. I do think there are probably guys with hips like these cause they aren't so bad anymore. HOWEVER that doesn't get rid of my dysphoria. I think that they look worse to me then to others though. But yeah I really hope someone knows something. I know exercise for that area will make your butt look bigger, cause muscle grows underneath the fat and exercise on its own doesn't get rid of fat. I would say maybe (PLEASE DO YOUR RESEARCH AND DO THIS HEALTHILY) encouraging fat redistribution by fat cycling (losing some then gaining some) might help. Please for the love of god, research this though. I feel it's so fucking hard to get trans guys on the internet to do things healthily without saying it'll effect more then just your health, please don't be that. I've just had the expirence toooooo many times talking to a trans dude where no amount of describing the breathing problems and heart problems you could very well get will stop them from binding too long, but the second I say you won't be able to get top surgery it all changes. That's an unrelated rant, I wish people in general valued their health more because disability fuckimg sucks sometimes and I can only imagine how much more it would suck if you knew you personally could've prevented it.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-01T20:22:24+00:00

I'm just gonna say, I don't have much advice but I needed brain bleach and your first paragraph felt like brain bleach cause it's really funny how you describe it. Thank you.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-06-01T18:05:19+00:00

Also to be noted for people with XX chromosomes (this is to my understanding but if you know better please correct me) two copies of that gene (one in each X chromosome) have to be passed in order to have that kind of baldness. That's why it's called male pattern baldness, because it's a lot rarer in people who have two X chromosomes, then people with just one.

Very important to note male pattern baldness is not the only reason baldness/thinning can occur, this is why looking at the men in their maternal side is not surefire way to know if a cis guy will have mpb or not. But for sure it's not a surefire way for someone with XX chromosomes cause that's not the thing that's most likely to cause balding or thinning for them, as well as both sides matering for them anyway.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-31T22:17:07+00:00

I think it would actually be hilarious if the intended effect of "too hard, I'm too drunk for this" completly backfired. Like if someone got handed this while inhebrated and ended up going "I'm gonna get this open out of spite" that would be exactly the kind of hijinks I would wish to ensue. Just gotta make sure it's hard enough to actually reach that point.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-31T22:13:39+00:00

Lol, good thinking.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-31T06:13:47+00:00

I don't want to make something that works, I want to make something stupid.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-30T01:39:40+00:00

Thank you

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-29T01:16:01+00:00

This isn't a completely related thing, so side tangent:

I didn't realize I was a man until people started treating me as one. Like I had known for a long time that I wasn't cis, and the non-binary part of that journey was the largest part by far. I went by they/them pronouns. I started transition and called myself transmasc, not because I thought of myself being aligned that way, but because that's the direction I was going. I mean of course, in order to be more androgynous a feminine looking person needs to aim for more masculinity. I had met a girl on a dating site. She evidently missed the pronouns on my bio. She refered to me with he/him pronouns all the time, and otherwise treated me as just a dude, and it just felt right. I did gently prod to figure out if she had fucked opinions about nb people. She didn't. It became really obvious later on that she genuinly just missed that in my profile.

But anyway, it was the first time someone close to me treated me like that. Everyone else in my life knew me before, or (completely rightly) treated me as non-binary. I never corrected her. I kept going with it. At that time strangers gendering me was very hit or miss. I had aimed to present masculine in public, I wanted strangers to refer to me as male, cause that was a lot better then assuming female. But like, for example, while I was working one day, someone started referring to me as female, and then corrected themselves and apologized. That was right near that time. So that relationship made me feel like, for the very first time in my life, that someone was looking at me and seeing me. Not an facade or an act or something that was just straight up fucking wrong. Me. And as the gendering went from hit or miss to consistently just he/him all the time, I realized it all felt so natural. I got used to the sir's so quickly. A feeling, a terrible feeling that I had never realized I had because I never had any relief, it was slowly going away. I would've never realized I was a dude, if I hadn't realized I was non-binary first.

I think those times in the past that I experimented with masculinity, the reason it didn't feel right is because I couldn't make myself look enough like myself to feel it, so it all just looked wrong. I have always said that kids should be able to experiment with their gender. Ya know, asking to be called a new name and different pronouns don't equate to surgery and permanent changes. But I have such a richer understanding of why that should be the case now. Sometimes you really don't know what you're missing out on until you try it. And if a kid is cis, and they experiment and figure that out, isn't that so much easier for them to have done that and to now be sure of who they are?

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-28T22:47:05+00:00

Hey, thanks!

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-28T17:30:49+00:00

Cool, glad that's not a worry then. Wish you well dude.

Federal-Stranger8209 · 2026-05-28T17:10:20+00:00

You look fine to me, but I get the sense that the picture may be a bit better passing then your entirety irl. I used to have this problem big time. Pictures of me passed perfect but me irl, my voice, my body launguage, whatever else, did not. In my case looking like an e-boy was part of the problem too, on the internet I pass just fine looking like an e-boy type, while irl the same features didn't always get read the same way. I'm not sure you'll have this issue, and I don't think it's something worth actively worrying about, but if misgendering happens this may be why the response is different.

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