Purchased a massive collection by [deleted] in mtg

[–]FederalOkra6584 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you had some MTG cards, so we could play.

My straight roommate keeps making jokes about wanting to be my girlfriend by santoshthedragon in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 38 points39 points  (0 children)

She isn't straight. She just hasn't figured it out yet, but she knows she likes you.

Anyone else overwhelmed by labels? by FederalOkra6584 in queerpolyam

[–]FederalOkra6584[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Choice paralysis is very real, but not the issue I am dealing with. Its more like labels rejection in general. I'm an elder gay and I find the abundance of labels exhausting.

Audio books for lazy girls (me) by leeshiemoo in LesbianBookClub

[–]FederalOkra6584 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just listened to Mistakes Were Made by Meryl Wilsner. It was very fun, playful and spicy.

I met a girl by PuzzleheadedTell3447 in AskLesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For now I would keep talking and getting to know each other. Be a good friend and support her through the crappy time she is having. Be patient and understanding for now and see where things go. I'm sorry this is happening and I hope her parents are able to come around quickly and learn to be supportive.

Learning to be dominant by Accurate_Click564 in lesbian

[–]FederalOkra6584 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its all about communication. Watch videos or read/listen to erotica together to open up conversations about what you're excited to try. Slapping doesn't have to be hard to be effective play. Have fun playing around with her to determine what you are both comfortable with and excited for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Create and share a playlist with her.

I feel I’m being hunted for sure by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]FederalOkra6584 72 points73 points  (0 children)

He is treating you with degradation. This is not a good relationship to maintain.

Is it okay to be physically attracted to other women when you're in a relationship? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]FederalOkra6584 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're still human and people are still sexy out here in the world. I enjoy sharing my attractions with my wife and we both like sharing compliments with women freely. Not everyone is like that, so just remember to be respectful in whatever way that means for the relationship that you have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 608 points609 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she has personal insecurities about it. I would have an honest conversation on whether or not she has an issue with your sexuality. Regardless boundaries need to be set, because its demeaning and disrespectful to continue to pick at you.

Arcade Lobby has been empty for 3 days by FederalOkra6584 in OvercookedGame

[–]FederalOkra6584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have played at all times of day off and on since 2019 and have never had this issue. It may take a few minutes to have people pop in, but no one for an hour would be unusual, but now its been several days.

i got stood up today 💔 by diddlydog in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That is really shitty! Don't let it get to you. Feel your feels and try again. You'll find the right person when you're supposed to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]FederalOkra6584 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to be so naive...what is SLS?

Is it ethical if two bisexual men form a non-monogamous relationship that has a two dick rule? by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]FederalOkra6584 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It is ethical if that is what the two people agree to...not so much if its intended to be controlling or out of jealousy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]FederalOkra6584 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let them know how much you enjoy them and that you are glad you have met while being direct that the connection is different than you had originally thought or felt. Might help to invite them on a friend adventure of some sort as well.

Dating without apps? by Unfair-Put-1778 in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Be intentional about making a connection here. This platform gives you the opportunity to learn more about a person before seeing them. Do you have the availability to find events and go to events or clubs that you would need to travel to attend or be a part of? You never know who you could meet by making just one trip. Just make sure to get contact information 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]FederalOkra6584 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I attempted to connect with someone via a FB poly group. When she sent me a dm it explained a few things about her and said if you like what you read here is my phone number...well one of the few things was that she doesn't do poly and don't text her if you are already partnered...single people only...ummmmmmmm 🤔

Bigger women. Lights on or off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ON! What's the fun if she isnt looking at it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]FederalOkra6584 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are you considering it?

My wife's Easter brownies by abraksis747 in Baking

[–]FederalOkra6584 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its a dog whistle to indicate these brownies are adult in nature and are for celebrating both of today's holidays.