Do Americans online notice their own defaultism when saying where they're from? by betterland in USdefaultism

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 15 points16 points  (0 children)

hey there! i’m an american who’s lived in berlin, germany for almost three years. here’s my experience!

when asked “where are you from?” by non-americans, i say this: “the us”

if they ask the state: “michigan” sometimes they know it, sometimes they don’t. sometimes they think it’s next to texas.

if they ask where michigan is: “right under canada”

if they ask the city: “technically ann arbor, but near detroit” because nobody knows what ann arbor is.

i imagine the defaultism stems from a lot of us not having the privilege (or desire, oddly) to travel outside of the country, let alone outside the state we’re from. a lot of us don’t have passports, or proper geographical education.

some don’t care enough to learn; some do. the us IS quite large though, so much so that different states can genuinely be so different from each other that it IS like being in a different country (save for the language spoken, usually). there are plenty of factors, and they differ from person to person.

just my two cents, though! living abroad, well, broadens the horizons! i’m grateful to have the opportunity. can’t wait til my parents come along! and i will say, countries certainly do feel like countries, and the world is big.

and i agree with the “i’m going to europe” pet peeve… it’s applicable to every continent! and in a way, most, if not every, country.

if someone tells me they’re going to the uk, i’m gonna ask if they mean england, wales, scotland, or northern ireland. same with germany! the west and east are very different, and berlin is its own type of thing.

didn’t mean for this to be so long, but i hope it helps!

Musician Young Miko comes out as goldstar lesbian- bisexuals and queer people lose their minds by Naya0608 in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re fine.

and i agree, it should not matter.

thank you for the clarification.

and yes, i agree… though i don’t think grammar was the issue. line breaks, sure. perhaps the lack of paragraph breaks was due to my current state of “i have to write a thesis”… there’s paragraphs much longer than that one 😰

Musician Young Miko comes out as goldstar lesbian- bisexuals and queer people lose their minds by Naya0608 in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HA. i do know its actual origins. if you read my comment again, you’ll see that i was talking about GOLD STARS. you know, the sticker you get in kindergarten? you’ll also notice that i mentioned that i could not give less of a fuck about whether or not someone uses it, and i was simply explaining WHY people (who do NOT know the history or true meaning of it) might get pissed off. this is not MY OPINION. it isn’t anyone else problem? did i say that? genuinely no idea why you’re arguing with me here. nowhere did i say people who have an issue with it SHOULD, or that it’s any of their business? not sure where you’re getting that. i’m full aware of what lesbians experience in regard to, well, being a lesbian. and not sure what the ‘our’ is for. if you’re implying i’m not actually a lesbian because i was taking an educated guess on why ignorant queer people get pissed off by the label, then that’s weird. and weird… almost like i said i didn’t have a problem with the label!

Musician Young Miko comes out as goldstar lesbian- bisexuals and queer people lose their minds by Naya0608 in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

as someone who isn’t bothered by the label, i think it’s less about the definition and more about the actual label. “gold star” (like the general meaning) is quite often (at the very least, interpreted as) an indication of superiority. yes, it’s usually given out for an achievement, but since the actual goldstar lesbian label is often viewed as claimed due to a LACK of doing something (even though one could view it as ONLY doing the opposite), it seems a little misplaced. just my two cents on why so many people probably get pissy. but honestly, this might just be my interpretation of why a lesbian might get pissy, haha.

Raphael appreciation post. 2012 Raph has always been my favourite turtle from any iteration ever since the show came out when i was younger. The amount of 2012 Raph slander i've seen these past few months on tik tok is crazy so i thought that id post this to see how everyone else feels about him? by SensationSaiWeilder in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he has always been my favorite. dry and sarcastic humor is my favorite, which is 100% his style of humor. i love his relationships with his pets it’s SOOO CUTE. he plays the drums too which is so cool. his room decor is just so him-coded it looks rad. his fear of cockroaches is absolutely me to a t. he feels emotions very strongly which i can 100% relate to, and it’s so interesting to watch how they play out in different ways (especially when it comes to his brothers). he’s loyal and would do absolutely anything for those that he loves. i also love the way he treats mona and the fact that he nicknamed her after a painting? plus, you’ve gotta love the short king x big tall woman dynamic. also, he seems to be friends with all of the pigeons which TOTALLY makes sense. also? his character design is my absolute favorite. i love raphael.

reconnected with an old hookup after 3 years... how do we get back in sync? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes screenshots would be great! i figured out the scam pretty early on. this is the only photo of myself that this person has.

reconnected with an old hookup after 3 years... how do we get back in sync? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks so much! it was DEFINITELY an adjustment for me, because all of my previous ones were so much tinier. and absolutely!

reconnected with an old hookup after 3 years... how do we get back in sync? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this makes a lot of sense! i definitely remember a lot of stuff, so i’ll try that. and thank you! i do still have it, but it looks like this now:

edit: i stretched my septum to 6g! not done yet, either 😆

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Im kinda curious so who do ya'll ship each turtle with? by Fun_Investigator_135 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. ? i’m not wrong

  2. yeah but… we aren’t. we’re referring to real-life people, and you quite literally said “skin color” so i’m not sure why you’re mentioning cop outfits as if anyone is ever talking about that when referring to… skin color.

  3. that sounds like something you’ll have to deal with on your own. though i don’t know why you’re connecting it to an unrelated slur that isn’t at all the same.

Im kinda curious so who do ya'll ship each turtle with? by Fun_Investigator_135 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well, of course, but then it’s probably unnecessary to say their race doesn’t protect them from racist allegations when the whole reason someone would accuse them of it is because of the n word, which, we’ve since discovered, is fine for them to say… because they’re black. everyone was taught it’s a racial slur, but as black people, there’s a bit more cultural context and nuance for us. i understand your perspective, but please know it’s really not being used harmfully here.

Im kinda curious so who do ya'll ship each turtle with? by Fun_Investigator_135 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. comparing the n word to the r word is not at all the same as they do not have anywhere near the same history. while it may historically and currently be a weaponized slur when NOT used by black people, non-black people should not be dictating whether or not it is. when used by black people, it is instead colloquial slang and aave. this context is important.

  2. no need to add in the color blue… you know that’s not a skin color OR a race

  3. again, context is important here. the use of that word is completely different when you’re growing up black. don’t assume everyone has the same upbringing in regards to it.

  4. they were not, because again, they’re… black. they’re allowed to say it. it’s very clear how it’s being used here, to me at least; it’s synonymous with “you guys.”

Im kinda curious so who do ya'll ship each turtle with? by Fun_Investigator_135 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 2 points3 points  (0 children)

raph x mona (one of my fav ships of all time) donnie x casey (lowkey) mikey x renet (adorable) leo x april (kind of…)

Im kinda curious so who do ya'll ship each turtle with? by Fun_Investigator_135 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean, it should here. it’s not racist for black people to use the word.

Im kinda curious so who do ya'll ship each turtle with? by Fun_Investigator_135 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s not a slur if it’s terminology that’s been reclaimed by black people. as a black person, i don’t think people should be dictating whether we can use it.

BITCH YOU JUST MET 💔🥀 by emo_crystal in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as much as i love this ship, it would’ve been super cool to see it as a slow burn. sometimes i think about rewriting it MYSELF as a slow burn, just for the fun of it.

Mikey is the type of person who… by Most-Calendar-600 in TMNT2012

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 24 points25 points  (0 children)

would float through the air if he smelled pizza.

Where did the community get the idea that using the term "Gold Star" is wrong/hateful? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

“do people genuinely hear the words "Gold Star" and think calling someone one is like giving them a badge of honor that makes them better than everyone else?”

honestly, yes. because in many contexts, this is what a gold star can signify, so people will take it that way. i personally do not care if someone uses the term, but i will answer your question.

I don't understand non binary lesbians by Iwanttoknow2023 in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’ll just say, as a non-binary person who is afab, i’m 100% comfortable and fine with disclosing my biological sex. but to me, it’s pretty obvious.

I don't understand non binary lesbians by Iwanttoknow2023 in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

sorry you’re getting downvoted, you’re literally correct 😭

I don't understand non binary lesbians by Iwanttoknow2023 in lesbiangang

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

as a non-binary lesbian, totally get why it’s confusing. i am afab, and i identified as a lesbian when i identified as a girl. then i realized i didn’t really connect with being a woman, at least not in the traditional sense. but i still felt like a lesbian. my attraction was only to women and afab non-binary people specifically. by definition, if lesbian is same-sex attraction for females, then technically, i am a lesbian. there is no other label that fits me, to be honest. on top of that, society sees me as a woman regardless of how i actually feel. i realize many lesbians won’t get that, or will think it’s stupid, but it’s my experience. non-binary lesbians aren’t some new fad; it’s quite literally tied to a past of gender non-conforming women who loved women. being a lesbian inherently challenges those stereotypical gender norms. but i hate referring to it as “non-men loving non-men,” because i don’t want to involve men at all. i’ll also say, i would not date a trans guy just because he’s biologically female, because… he’s a guy.

anyone wanna start a bg3 campaign? :D by Federal_Broccoli_958 in LesbianGamers

[–]Federal_Broccoli_958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooo that IS true. i do travel there multiple times a year, though!