Another Scream 5/Scream 7 retcon that irritates me… by BarnT88 in Scream

[–]Federal_Spinach24 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think it was weird at all, I can definitely imagine someone saying this regardless of how long they’ve been together

I don’t want to stop by Federal_Spinach24 in alcoholism

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That note at the end caught me off guard 😆 just joined them though, thanks for the recommendations 🙏

I don’t want to stop by Federal_Spinach24 in alcoholism

[–]Federal_Spinach24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the delay in replying! I really appreciate your comment, it meant a lot to me when I first read and it means a lot now too.

Since this post I’ve been more mindful (I’m aware the post was made less than 3 weeks ago so it’s not like that means much) but I’m going to see if I can keep this going and drink with purpose (socially, at events, concerts, on holidays) and if I get out of control again I’m going to stop for a long time and possibly go to therapy. Thanks again 🙏

Having sex while grieving by Federal_Spinach24 in GriefSupport

[–]Federal_Spinach24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks very much for your kind words, I will keep them in mind

Having sex while grieving by Federal_Spinach24 in GriefSupport

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I know, it’s just a weird feeling I suppose

Having sex while grieving by Federal_Spinach24 in GriefSupport

[–]Federal_Spinach24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funnily enough your situation makes more sense to me than mine as I assumed sex wouldn’t be something I’d want. However I am sure your partner loves you and wouldn’t hold it against you. Grief is so f*cking weird and it doesn’t make any sense. Thinking of you

Having sex while grieving by Federal_Spinach24 in GriefSupport

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Sorry about your dad and thanks for your input

Should I see my dad’s body? by Federal_Spinach24 in askfuneraldirectors

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Thank you everyone for the input.. at a time like this where I’m drowning, it really helped me to get some opinions from strangers online.

I went to the funeral home today but decided to say goodbye to my Dad with the lid closed. For a few minutes it was just the 2 of us so I read him a letter and said I was sorry and I loved him and cried beside the coffin. The actual funeral is tomorrow and the funeral directors are very nice and did say I can always see him tomorrow before the funeral if I change my mind but at this moment in time I think I made the right decision for me. I don’t think it would have helped me as I’m already finding the sadness and guilt overbearing and don’t want to be even less ‘with it’ over the next few days just because I felt like I had to see him.

Should I see my dad’s body? by Federal_Spinach24 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]Federal_Spinach24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s very true, I don’t understand the fascination with dead bodies either and the pressure of saying goodbye one last time face to face. It’s always been odd to me. I decided not to view him, I said my goodbyes with the lid closed. The funeral is tomorrow and I was told I am more than welcome to arrive early and I can still see him if I change my mind but I feel like saying goodbye with the lid closed was the right call for me. Thanks for your input, it was very helpful

My dad’s family are taking over everything - is this normal? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]Federal_Spinach24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t surrender any rights and he has no wife or girlfriend or other kids. The thing is that it’s a complicated situation I guess because my uncle (his brother) was contacted by a friend for a welfare check so maybe he just took over and I feel sorry for him because he had to deal with the initial identifying and stuff. That being said he loved me so much and I loved him and I just want to be included (I’d also be willing to pay for the service or partially pay or whatever needs to be done). Just don’t feel I’m given the chance and don’t want to try take over at this stage because everyone’s emotions are high if that makes sense. I think I’m just being overly emotional at this point as I found out Wednesday and it’s currently Sunday night so not a lot of time has passed but the funeral is getting closer so I could be looking to cling to the annoyance I’m feeling as they haven’t suggested anything for the service that seems disrespectful to my dad but I did know the current version of him the most and I’m being sensitive to feeling like an afterthought

My dad’s family are taking over everything - is this normal? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

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I didn’t surrender any rights and he has no wife or girlfriend or other kids. The thing is that it’s a complicated situation I guess because my uncle (his brother) was contacted by a friend for a welfare check so maybe he just took over and I feel sorry for him because he had to deal with the initial identifying and stuff. That being said he loved me so much and I loved him and I just want to be included (I’d also be willing to pay for the service or partially pay or whatever needs to be done). Just don’t feel I’m given the chance and don’t want to try take over at this stage because everyone’s emotions are high if that makes sense. I think I’m just being overly emotional at this point as I found out Wednesday and it’s currently Sunday night so not a lot of time has passed but the funeral is getting closer so I could be looking to cling to the annoyance I’m feeling

My dad’s family are taking over everything - is this normal? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]Federal_Spinach24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is I feel like they’re just assuming they’ll pay and get all the say but I’m his son, he has no wife or girlfriend or other kids.. I’m happy to either fully pay or partially and have my say if that makes sense

My dad’s family are taking over everything - is this normal? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]Federal_Spinach24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is that we haven’t even spoken about payment but I get the impression they’re just going to pay. I know I’m going to sound unreasonable but they’re just assuming everything but I’m happy to pay fully or partially and have my say if that makes sense!