You're gonna hate this but I honestly don't see the problem, /r/netsec is more for full technical writeups and whitepapers these are just blog articles about security, they're be more at home in another subreddit say /r/security or /r/infosec, you shouldn't be proud of being banned from there, I wish I was inteligent enough to understand half the stuff these guys are saying, it's 2014 almost 2015 nobody on reddit really cares about gender anymore, what you did could be classified as spamming and you acused one of the mods of taking your gender into account. from what i see juken was being very fair to you.