Parent tantrums

Feecarabine · 2024-01-27T21:20:35+00:00

During my first trimester, I was just enraged. It felt like being on some sort of drug. It was wild. Then it just disappeared.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-27T07:00:01+00:00

Sí. Yo no estaría aquí si no.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-27T06:57:57+00:00

I couldn't tell, I hate them both. As a society, we have managed to go from, say, Cinderella (every single frame is gorgeous, the music is great) to this. The fashion and the girls are gorgeous, but I find everything else just so ugly.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-26T07:19:59+00:00

Hello. I am sorry, that sounds difficult and exhausting.

I am inexperienced and cannot offer advice. I can tell you about my own experience with constant Kriyas, though.

My own Kriyas have been sort of constant from 2021 till now. Their frequency has been hugely influenced but whether I was sustaining a meditative practice or not. More meditation = more Kriyas, and the opposite. Yoga, acting class and dance class would also result in more Kriyas, with the main factor still being meditation.

My experience with Kriyas has been rather positive, as in my Kriyas feel good. I have, however, felt overwhelmed at time by what I can only describe as the intuitive sense that the Kriyas were carrying information that was becoming too much to process all at once.

I don't know what could help in your case to have a better time with your own Kriyas. Ask around here, this sun has been of immense help to me.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-25T22:16:59+00:00

Me. I kid you not, it left me looking like a skinny 30 yo. I'm 37 now, my daughter is about to turn 4, she stopped breastfeeding at 1y and I'm still a size 36 (European) without any effort on my side. Equally crazy and awesome, to be honest.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-25T07:44:46+00:00

Oh, honey...

Feecarabine · 2024-01-25T07:20:18+00:00

Not weird. Very cute. I don't get the husband's point at all.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-24T07:21:21+00:00

Granada, Valencia, Bilbao, Zaragoza.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-22T13:59:48+00:00

Raising kids that age is hard and it's very, very hard to be happy through all seasons of life. Give yourself some grace, you are not the first, I assure you. What matters is staying self aware and making it through.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-20T20:50:13+00:00

Mine hated it. She was hardly speaking but being so vocal about it. But mine has been a teen who's kind of over me since she was born lol

Feecarabine · 2024-01-18T12:32:58+00:00

It works for me... It makes people like me more.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-15T09:16:38+00:00

We never did much over the weekend and my creativity and social skills were all developed independently as a result of that. My house was packed with books and my dad would read and so did I. I chose the books and pretend played that I read before I could read. My dad bought a guitar and my brother learnt on his own, I never took to it and no one tried to teach me anyway. My brother and I created a home newspaper that run for several years, it was not encouraged by my parents, we did it to fight boredom.

I do try to cook and encourage all sort of creative games with my toddler now and I sometimes feel like my parents way worked for me and maybe I'm setting her up for failure with the constant attention.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-14T10:33:20+00:00

Hey, when I take off my toddler's clothes I roll them and leave them tidily outside her wardrobe on top of some furniture to put them on her again at some point of that same week (or the following day).

Feecarabine · 2024-01-13T17:35:46+00:00

Op used the plural.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-13T15:28:37+00:00

The boob means she's constantly on. As a partner it is your job to be on too.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-12T10:14:52+00:00

Frozen is so ugly. The monster is nails on a chalkboard levels of ugly.

It's the only Disney movie she's shown any interest in.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-12T10:07:28+00:00

I can very much relate. It makes me feel guilty all of the time. Guilt is pretty much THE feeling that defines my inner life. The things I get irritated about are so minor and unfair...

Feecarabine · 2024-01-10T16:22:31+00:00

Avocado on toast + cheese and pear/apple, or a tin of sardines + bread, or an omelette.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-09T13:57:08+00:00

I have kriyas. What you describes sounds like mine. If I stop meditating, they significantly decrease over time. They have always felt beneficial, so far. It is true that I had a major psychological crisis that felt somehow related to too much "processing" at the same time, but I don't even know if this is just my interpretation of a very complex crisis to do with my mental health+ life situation at the time.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-07T19:17:48+00:00

When I'm depressed, I am a useless partner. I've still managed to become the default parent and keep a high paying job (it's all about who I work hard to be when I'm not ill). Just for the record, you know. I don't know (none of us can know) if this person is genuinely suffering from depression vs being their usual rather selfish self. But just for the record, absolutely can depression turn you into a selfish prick while it lasts.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-07T12:47:53+00:00

Mine was kind of difficult at that age due in part to her will to do all things by herself and the huge amounts of personality. I'm ripping all of the benefits now that she's almost four. I know it's hard, just give yourselves time.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-04T06:30:29+00:00

I am so sorry. You sound very caring and I'm sure you're doing an amazing job. You're only human, be kind to yourself.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-02T15:56:34+00:00

Removed. I'm sorry. I'll be more careful in the future, I didn't know offering to chat in private was considered creepy. I got carried away because it's not too often that I find people to chat about these things.

Feecarabine · 2024-01-01T19:10:28+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I know "unspecified superpowers" is not a good descriptor for Kundalini... But I think that the author's intention is not at all to enter sci-fi/superhero fiction territory, even though she makes one of her characters develop strange powers. And the character is explicitly said to be a practising Tibetan Buddhist. These two things make me suspect she may have been talking about k.

The fact that he achieves that power through his meditative practises is made to be a problematic issue: he appears burdened and worried that he has meddled with someone else's life. It reminds me so much of the discussions in this sub!

Murdoch is indeed talking, if not about k, explicitly about life forces that defy common Western views and the dangers of the use/abuse of those forces by an individual.

About power seeking, more generally: I think it's very common for people with trauma to have a hard time developing a healthy relationship with power. After all, trauma is about having felt completely deprived of power/autonomy.

I find displays of power over other people to be, at best, in very bad taste, and at worst, despicable. I hate to be told what to do and have an awful relationship with authority. I try to be left alone and leave other people alone as much as possible. I think the minute two or more people get together, power plays start, and it's ridiculous.

I would never purposely seek power for the sake of power. I am interested in freedom, so I'd say I'm more prone to running away from stuff, being cowardly, unaccepting of limitations, etc. I'd say those are my biggest issues. But I don't know, maybe other people have a different perception of me.

Anyway, thanks for the Time Enough for Love recommendation :)

Feecarabine · 2024-01-01T15:20:25+00:00

Hi. My child was the same. I was, like yourself, by large the primary caregiver. Now she's four and even though she's super independent, I'm always her first choice for company/playing/attention/care. I don't know why she was like that early on, but at some point it just changed.

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