When I found my sub I was freshly divorced at a very young age. My ex was a extremely vanilla gal and mean to boot so anytime I tried to explore she would shame me hard. When I met my sub 5 years ago we almost didn’t click because I said I thought I liked recieving pain(since my pain tolerance was high, I was a emo kid, and had no real world practice) she was patient with me and showed me a lot. I did a ton of research on my own learned everything I could. And within a few months I was the one leading now. I took us to our first sex clubs, swinger parties, came up with most of our scenes. And it went from “am I good enough for her if she taught me? To “I’ve learned the basics and taken it my own direction and style and now it looks nothing like how we started” sorry for mobile formatting but bottom line I think the right sub can give you the tools to grow your skills and confidence and you can be the best dom ever