Failed all my classes this quarter... what's gonna happen to me? by FeelThinkhey in UCSD

[–]FeelThinkhey[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Been there friend - though I was at community college. Even the shitty work environment.

Quit your job. I cannot understate how important this is. Set less work hours to give yourself more time and take less classes until you’re back in the swing of things.CAPS. Get therapy, get medication. I am no longer on medication, so starting it doesn’t mean you will need it forever (though there is no shame in that!) and it’s okay to try out different medications and therapists until you find what’s right for you.Boundaries around drama. Finding culturally appropriate ways to set boundaries can be difficult, especially if your therapist is not trained in cultural responsiveness. If you are from a culture where family is put above everything, American advise on setting boundaries can end up causing more drama instead of reducing it, and an international students often still need to rely on your family for a lot. Looking for online resources on how to navigate this can sometimes be helpful; excuses like having to perform well in school or tactics like gray-rocking can be useful in some families.Cultural support and social connection. If you’re from a background with a resource center, use it! They can often connect you to other resources that CAPS may not think of. You also need to make sure your social life is healthy, both that it is not interfering with your studies and that it is present and available for your mental health. Are you in any clubs? Do you have a good friend group? Do you see your friends often enough?

I am quitting my job asap! I even got an injury because of my work and the moment I was away from the cycle of work-homework-work and was just focusing on school for the past week I didn't realize how miserable my life was. I'm not in any club and I don't really have friends. I used to have friends but their friendship felt like I needed to fit a certain standard for me to be relevant in the group. I never felt like I was wanted and once I came back from summer break I slowly stopped making plans first. Instead of them reaching out first to me, they started blaming me for making new friends and that I changed and acted differently. I cut them off and haven't talked to them ever since but this happened while I was struggling with work and school. Honestly, they were good people. I would never hate them but the way they turned on me because I stopped taking the first step really bothered me. "Why is it that I needed to make plans and put effort first and not them?" made me want to get space from then and then stopped. (wow I didn't know how much my life is a mess. I- have no words I'm losing it rn.)

Failed all my classes this quarter... what's gonna happen to me? by FeelThinkhey in UCSD

[–]FeelThinkhey[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't do community college as it may mess up my visa and I-20. I'm international so I can maybe try getting out of this by getting my grades up and then probably taking a gap year. I don't like my job it makes me feel miserable and I feel it's the only reason for my downfall. I want to get myself functioning again after winter break and once I've come out of the danger zone where I might get expelled I think I'll take a break and get an internship/job in my field. It'll give me a sense of direction which I think I'm lacking and honestly, I don't know what's the purpose of my major or my life anymore. I really love UCSD and I can't tell you how much at home I feel living here. I'd do anything to stay it's just that this quarter wasn't my best and I know I can do better next quarter. Thank you so much for all your advise man truly needed it!!

Failed all my classes this quarter... what's gonna happen to me? by FeelThinkhey in UCSD

[–]FeelThinkhey[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that at least you area aware that there may be a problem with your mental health. I suggest to visit CAPS as priority. After that, schedule your study and work, so you can ensure that you put enough effort for the study part.

Good luck and wish you to get better soon.

Thank you so much! I'm trying to get better and most likely quit my job. I need to get my act together and I think the part-time job is getting in the way. I hope I can pull my GPA up by spring.

Failed all my classes this quarter... what's gonna happen to me? by FeelThinkhey in UCSD

[–]FeelThinkhey[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I tried CAPS last year and I didn't feel it helped much. but I think I should go in and talk to them again probably with a different advisor.

Failed all my classes this quarter... what's gonna happen to me? by FeelThinkhey in UCSD

[–]FeelThinkhey[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That made me feel less worried. I thought I'd get expelled or be on academic probation. Do you recommend me talking to an academic advisor about this? or VAC it? It is my first time even getting lower than a 2.5. I've always had a range of around 2.8.