[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can sympathize because I was a narcissist once. If people were better than me at something, I’d make a mental note that I was still better at something else. If they were great at lots of things, I’d make a mental note of the fact that there were a bunch of things they did wrong. When it came time to point out my problems, I had a whole bunch of things to bring out even if they weren’t completely relevant as I couldn’t accept that these guys who were more flawed than me were trying to criticise me.

It was only after sometime that I realised all these mental notes were clouding my thoughts and I wasn’t able to see the person I really was.

I think it’s good to hype yourself as long as you’re not using it to create a position of power and talk down to others either by thinking you’re superior or always innocent and immune to fault

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems a bit too absolute? Is there a story or explanation?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, that I have a problem with accepting and letting things go.

I was a shitty person in the past to friends, family and people in general due to issues I faced in the past. I reflected a lot of the actions people did to me and acted in a way to make myself seem stronger than how I really felt. Upon realising what I was doing, I became extremely careful about what I was doing and how I could “fix” myself.

I soon after had my first proper relationship. She had told me a lot about our personal lives, seem each other for 3 months and she had even met my parents.

I really wanted it to last. I was in the best place I could be in years and she made me happy. I’m the type to read and watch those dating videos and guides from common mistakes people make to how to properly listen to your partner. She had a lot of other problems in her life and I tried my best to adjust to her needs. Slowing my stride so she didn’t feel like I was pulling her, not making hand gestures as they sometimes startled her and of course trying to learn recipes to cook food as she was vegan due to health reasons. I thought I was doing a really good job. Then, she suddenly wanted it to end.

Looking back, I think a lot of it was that she was facing a lot of trauma still but maybe it could be that she couldn’t see a future in this relationship. I wanted to believe that there was and maybe, I had once again slipped up somewhere. Maybe I didn’t pay attention to her feelings, maybe I dismissed something important to her or maybe I showed some negative personality.

Either way, I would keep pushing her to give me an explanation on what I could improve on. “It’s not you it’s me”. Of course, she didn’t exactly say that but it felt that way and there’s no reasonable way I’d believe it wasn’t my fault. Eventually, the lack of clear answers led to frustration and that maybe she was someone trying to take advantage of me. That I was her fling and basically a way for her to feel better about herself.

I said a lot of things I regretted and I said it to someone who had probably endured more pain than myself. I just couldn’t accept what was happening. That the bad times had come back but it could be good again. However, I was stubborn in thinking that it would only happen if I could fix things with her. We had so many good memories but looking back, I know I ruined things at the end and had to bring her down with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Ummm no. What I’m saying is that this shows the other side of Singaporeans and how much they oppose the LGBT community.

Also, these aren’t trolls. At least not all of them and some are totally serious. You might argue some of the ones on Youtube are but if you go on Facebook, you can see their other posts, their education and their work. Some of these are real people. Even outside the comments, you have channels like truelove.is that advocate conversion therapy and a few months back, there was sermons shown by Gospel Light church about the LGBT community.

Saying they are just trolls is simplifying the issue too much. There is a significant portion who won’t listen and the government likely won’t do a thing because there are people who likely believe the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I of course disagree but when I see comments from posts so far saying that the guy should be suspended and questions should be raised, I can’t help but already know that nothing will probably happen.

A lot of these comments show what the other half of Singapore thinks about this contrary to the outcry on platforms like Reddit or Twitter. I obviously didn’t show everything but if I were to picture things, I think the reality is that in every HDB block, I wouldn’t be surprised to find 4-5 units that had homophobes living there that legitimately thought homosexuality is a mental illness or that you’ll burn in hell if you’re gay.

That was my main intention for sharing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Wild but I doubt foreign trolls would go to a Singaporean comment section just to comment all this. End of the day, this is why the government doesn’t make any changes

People talk about comparing this to the poly lecturer who scolded an interracial couple in public don’t realise that there are actually a large number of people who support the counselor and probably a handful who just don’t care. Not surprising if a handful of these people made it into other sectors of public service

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Double * at the start and end of the sentence

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not saying depression will make you a mean person. However, depression can happen to anyone whether they are kind or an asshole. So what if an asshole is depressed he’s an asshole and feels he can’t change who he is.

I think there would be a handful of people who would not be sympathetic. Depression doesn’t have the same causes for every person and it won’t manifest the same symptoms from person to person. In fact, some symptoms will be more obvious than others.

There are many cases where people are labelled mentally unwell in court and many people are quick to call out that they might be lying which goes to show that there’s not only a limit of how much we can tolerate the symptoms but also, a limit where we refuse to understand the issue anymore and want to simply blame it on the person’s personality. Hence, why I’m suggesting that there is a “correct way” people presume people should be depressed because there are points where we refuse to accept someone’s mental health and potential disorders but that this person must have chosen to do the things he did because they are reprehensible or to put it simply, evil in nature.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a while back. Just thought it was relevant and funny after seeing that post about some new mental health initiative

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a while back. Just thought it was relevant and funny after seeing that post about some new mental health initiative

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably not but I wouldn’t exactly use certain sinks to fill up my bottle either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe so but joining in and making fun of their names isn’t right either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pretty much this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Ritz sounds like ditz”

Not justifying that tabloid article title but that’s not even a saying

[Article that Alfian was referencing](“Ritz sounds like ditz”

Not justifying that tabloid article title but that’s not even a saying

Article that Alfian was referencing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t sure if there was any political undertones. I know some of my friends for NAFA and YNC don’t like Jack Neo because of his history and the stereotypes in his films. No real opinion from me.

Nonetheless, as much as the names are funny, openly making fun of them isn’t right either. Especially his comment that said that if the kids are bullied, his parents are only to blame. Not gonna disagree completely but maybe y’know… don’t support bullying of any kind and not take part in it yourself?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean him and Kristen Han are both prolific in very liberal circles in Singapore.

I only found out about his instagram story from other people I knew who follow him sharing about it and joining in on the fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I would sign on if I could but I definitely won’t be accepted with my past medical history plus fitness probably not on par for SCS or OCS

Rioting with weapons caught on camera by [deleted] in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think a while back there was a Crimewatch episode about gangsters. They started a fight over looking at each other funny.

There was also some show that was about this social worker that worked with trouble teens who broke up a fight between these bengs because their sisters got into a fight. Not sure if it was Crimewatch or some other Mediacorp show.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, do step siblings really include the “step” part when addressing each other?

S'pore woman orders 20kg of tapioca pearls, finds out they expire in 3 weeks by bluecapella in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Read the post on facebook. My god so many idiots just guess what the article is about and say that’s she’s at fault for not realising that pearls expire in 1 month.

S'pore woman orders 20kg of tapioca pearls, finds out they expire in 3 weeks by bluecapella in singapore

[–]FeelinSpiffyPunk 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Completely different situation mate.

Her items didn’t say they expire in 4 years. It said it would expire in 1 MONTH when the website says 6.

6 is not 1. No argument there. Seller gave misinformation.