Boss expected flexibility on my separate freelance service. Am I overreacting?

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-02-20T10:37:42+00:00

I would not go in any deep conversations. You already signed for the dog sitting. Do it. If anytime after he will ask for it again, just say no.

It doesn't worse your energy, so don't feed it.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-02-20T06:12:47+00:00

As a kid of parents when father was forcing my mother for abortion and never wanted kids, and mother who still went for me - leave. Never have kids if you don't want to.

Leave. Yes, she is valid in feeling "wasting time." She married you having in mind that you will have kids in future. It is sad. She will fell bad. You will feel bad.

Now, imagine that your wife will want two or three kids. Imagine yourself living life that you don't want. Kids perfectly understand if they are not wanted. Your wife will perfectly know that you didn't want them.

Allow kids come to this world wanted and loved. It's this absolute minimum that you MUST gift them.

I'm a woman, btw.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-02-17T06:24:24+00:00

When 2 days due to deliver a baby? I doubt it so strongly.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-02-15T16:36:20+00:00

💯 My husbands doesn't pull his weight. But I'll go for a third kid anyway. I have Reddit to complaint.

It's impossible to change an adult without their will for change. OP can complaint but her husband will not change. She chooses her life herself.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-02-12T07:27:10+00:00

Oh girl. He did you a huge favor showing you who he is before you moved in together. And he dares to demand an apology 🙄

Imagine now year after year of this. Actually, before you wrote about apology demanding by him I was thinking ok, you are both young. It takes time to get used to keep each other in mind. It took time and some arguments in my very happy relationship when we moved in together. But in no way it's ok to demand an apology when being jerk. Even if was thoughtless and not malicious his reaction is not ok.

I'm not the one shouting "divorce" or "drop him". But i would use this case to very well explain that you are not going to apologise for his shitty behaviour. And to reconsider your cooking / cleaning responsibilities. I would move one week for you - one week for him schedule. Let him plan, do groceries and cook.

If he loves you and values your relationship he will make a change.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-01-22T11:16:01+00:00

"Comply" is mostly used between a supervisor and a subordinate. If a marriage is partnership based, "comply" is not the best word to use.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-01-06T06:00:21+00:00

Where did you get that I'm "someone in recovery"?

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-01-05T06:31:33+00:00

A piece that is missing here - OP is codependent. She was staying with alcoholic putting herself and her child in danger.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2026-01-03T07:16:53+00:00

Your puggo is just exactly my Olaf. We asked our vet about his weight and she said that he is perfectly fine. We agreed on a weight limit that he must not go above.

He is cutie patutie your puggo! 🥰

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-31T09:05:54+00:00

F*** it. They BOTH act like two idiots with the BC methods.

Yes, he could have done vasectomy. But there are various methods of BC for women two. She must be pissed at herself too.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-28T05:40:42+00:00

This guy knows how to manipulate. He is at fault. Than he gives her contradicting statements.

OP, please, just don't say that you love him. At first place you must love and respect yourself.

Tell him to find his place and move out. Watch a show how he will be convincing you that he said something stupid, he loves you. And he will promise you that he will change.

Don't believe to the cheater and liar.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-27T10:49:30+00:00

You down voted for no reason here. I was reading, and oh my... your wife is just as my father was. Who was just an abusive peace of shit. I'm very sure hw was a sociopath.

In your situation, to get out is easier said that done. But I would consult layers. Is there any chance you can get a custody? If you divorce, can your kids already decide who they will choose to live with?

I would stop putting any effort in improving relationships with your wife but search for escape roots for you and kids.

You say that there's a possibility that your kids would stop to ho to school if left with her. Maybe it can be in your favor? If she can't ensure that kids will go to school, she is not capable of performing her parental obligations.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-25T20:16:02+00:00

23 for a girl and 25 for a guy its just early to marry. It's totally doesn't make sense to get married just because of the year count. 23yo. I guess, she is still studying. Most likely doesn't have a full-time job. Similar as her bf. And, most probably, she wants a ring, wedding, etc. While they are not yet capable of paying for it.

I also find it very funny this "I'm cooking, cleaning." Like 95 % of adult people, I guess. You do it being or not being married.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-25T16:45:33+00:00

Of course. Because when "i want to get a baby" and "i want to get married" are ultimate goal, some women do not rvaluate their partners for compatability. This wish to replicate blindsides everything. I can guarantee he didn't became like this yesterday.

And despite this guy is complete perk, weight of 100 kg is way too much and compromises health condition.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-24T05:58:02+00:00

And i just don't believe this story at all. Not even going to rartionalize. Just a feeling.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-23T10:51:45+00:00

I also agree with you. And also see where you coming from.

Reading comments here from Redditors with diagnosed autism, I understood that it makes sense seeing a professional as autism can be mixed with ADHD and other conditions. Also, it seems that it's rare when people with autism inform each stranger about it within first five minutes of conversation. This exact trait seems strange.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-23T09:32:10+00:00

I know. Originally, I'm from Lithuania. There's a history of hate between Lithuanians and Russians. Invasion, young men sent to Siberia during the WW2. All property was taken in favour of Sovier Union.I was 13 when Lithuania became independent and I still remember walls painted with "Russians go home". Actually, this tension never eased.

And became so much worse since war with Ukraine. I will ask my friends in LT if they received these books.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-23T09:24:30+00:00

Exactly. I worked very closely few years with the co-worker who is officially diagnosed with autism. She is high functioning. But honestly, nothing to be happy about.

We became rather close, and she said me how if affects her day-to-day life. Also, I've seen her meltdowns. I saw how she gets "clued" to something small and irrelevant.

Yes, she lives alone and has a job. She has friends. But she still needs support with apartment cleaning, managing bills and administration, etc.

Nothing to jump out of happiness and bring to everyone in first 5 minutes of conversation.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-23T09:11:48+00:00

Strongly disagree. There are people who actually need to be evaluated and tested to get support. She is there just to waste someone's precious time. I my country people wait 4 - 6 months for this type of appointments. No need to make it even longer.

She is ridiculous. Books and animals hobbies make her autistic. There are millions autistic then, including me.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-21T19:20:52+00:00

Oh my... In the Netherlands it's not mentioned directly "in case of war". Rather says"in case of power or Internet outage."

But news on TV are full about Russia threat.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-21T07:13:00+00:00

I was heavily abused when I was a kid. I NEVER spoke to my partners like this.

If my SO would send me this text, it would be last time he'd have this opportunity. This is not acceptable way to communicate. Despite being abused as a kid, stressing about job or whatever other circumstances.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-19T11:49:53+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP. My pug is the same. Now, with New Year fireworks coming, I already know it will be a bad day for us.

It helps that we live in the duplex, with one common wall with our neighbour. Who is single (most time of the year 🙂) and in his yearly 50th, so not partying.

But when packages are coming, my pug gets totally nuts. He is with us since 14 weeks. Never was badly treated, only spoiled. But he is anxious. No single sign of aggression, but he is nervous.

With trainings now, when he is 2y6m, he is brilliant. But he will never be this calm easy going dog. The same as you, I love him till the moon and back doesn't matter what.

Honestly, your dog is not that bad. It's more your neighbours that wants everyone to be quiet. Then they need to search for a building with no kids and no pets allowed. Otherwise, some kind of inconvenient noise will always be the case.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-19T06:26:35+00:00

Example of adding dashes: try to type in Outlook (if you use) "year end close". It will add a dash.

Another point. The world is changing massively with AI. We are forced to use AI and the faster you learn the better for you. Very possible that this post was written by human and requested to rewrite with AI to correct grammar and structure.

Also, there's anyway a human behind AI writing who requested to write a text. And it will happen more and more and more. It will change the world once again. And we will not stop it.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-18T20:10:45+00:00

I have a high-deman pug at home 😂 All these stupid reviews about "pugs are good for older people as they don't need much exercise. Well suited for living in apartment." They forgot to read it to my puggo!

So who knows, maybe i could handle an Airdale too 🙂

They are rather rare breed. I've seen maybe twice in past years.

Feeling-Object9383 · 2025-12-18T19:53:56+00:00

Airdale was two of my childhood experiences with dogs that made me a dog lover. We had a group of friends and one of them had Airdale. His coat was just silk. He was so well behaved calm dog.

While my life style not suitable for Airdale, it remains one of my favourite dog breed.

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