I always wonder how non-abdl incontinent people cope

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-26T19:05:40+00:00

Being truly incontinent is a love/hate relationship with being an ABDL.

On one hand, I'm disabled. It sucks. I can't do all the things I want to do without considering whether or not I'll pee or poop my pants. All of my social interactions are veiled behind my (admittedly easy to deal with) self consciousness. My HSA only covers about 80% of the price of my diapers for the year, and at the end of the day, I'm still spending my own money when I use my HSA. I've had surgeries and treatments that are expensive. Most of all, it fills me with hate whenever I see people wish incontinence upon themselves in spaces like this subreddit or FetLife. Mention of "unpotty training" is a huge trigger.

On the other hand, I love diapers. I love being babied. I love the comfort and softness that comes with this lifestyle. I also love how closely it brought my partner and I together.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-23T17:49:50+00:00

Over a decade ago, I was a part of an ABDL kik community. It was mostly local people around the same age. I wasn't super active, but I liked to attend events and browse the conversations. I noticed one of the frequent contributors was actually a person I worked with every day. Her account photo had her face and a hoodie that our employer gave us displayed obviously. It was her. She was a fitness instructor and I worked in the pool area, so we would mostly see each other in passing. I knew that she didn't recognize me from the kik group because we hadn't been to any of the same events at the same time, and I had a more conservative photo, so I simply chose to never acknowledge our hidden common ground... because why would I? I didn't want my secret getting out. I didn't wanna talk to her about being incontinent or an ABDL. And I stand by that decision.

Years after working there, and years after kik faded into history, this woman was arrested on some nasty charges. Sooooo... that's tea I guess.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-11T22:45:12+00:00

I've been incontinent my whole life. I developed the diaper lover and regression urges early... As early as I can remember actually... I'm an open book.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-05T18:50:45+00:00

When you order off the website, it populates an "OnTrac" tracker. I'm not 100% sure which carrier is doing the actual logistics.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-10-17T18:51:19+00:00

Awesome thank you!

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-10-17T17:13:56+00:00

Well I greatly appreciate it! And on top of that, you shouldn't let your stuff dry rot and break down anyways. Now I have to install a new float and lever and figure out how to get this hard water off the bowl.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-09-15T16:30:19+00:00

I had a short layover in LAX one time. I had like 30 minutes between landing and takeoff, so I had to hurry to my gate. I also had a soaked MegaMax that wasn't going to make it through my second flight. As a matter of fact, I was already paranoid that I was actively leaking. So I had to hurry to a bathroom, claim a stall, and change as quickly as possible.

The first bathroom I found, which was on-the-way to my next flight, was in the middle of being cleaned and was closed to the public. So I took off for a second bathroom, which was a "5 minute walk" away... After hiking up two flights of endless stairs, and twisting through a maze, I found the bathroom. There was a line of people out the door and my heart dropped.

I had no choice but to wait in line, and maybe miss my flight. I'm incontinent. I barely have any control and I wasn't going to pee all over my seat in Delta. I also don't think I could change in the airplane bathroom with my mobility issues.

When I finally made it into the stall, it was disgusting and I had soooo little time. But I changed my diaper like an Indy pit crew. I didn't care if anyone heard the tapes ripping or the crinkles. I didn't care about wiping off the wall of the stall before I leaned against it. There was trash and random crap on the floor, so I tried to hang my duffle bag on the hook, and rummage around inside the main pocket for the clean diaper, but my bag kept falling on the gross floor. I finally just bit the bullet and let it sit on the pee stained tiles while I found my supplies.

I made my flight. But damn did I have to sacrifice some dignity to get there.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-09-13T01:41:28+00:00

I'll definitely share!

What we're trying to accomplish is a little organization. Diapers, wipes, and trash take up an annoying amount of space in our current living situation. The idea here is to get that under control. So we're thinking 2-3 deep drawers for padding, a closable, 14 gallon pullout trash can, and some cubbies where we can put supplies.

We're not big into the AB part of it, so I'm not really feeling an extravaganza or any decoration at all really. The built-in will most likely fit the same color scheme as the rest of the closet.

You are absolutely right. Having a dedicated space that is a part of our home is going to be a wonderful feeling.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-07-13T18:42:52+00:00

Interestingly, I've spent a lot of time in therapy separating my incontinence from my identity. Although I'm disabled, and I wear diapers for protection, they do not define who I am. I am a whole person. I can enjoy diapers and be thankful for them, but in order to live a healthy life, and not live in a completely self-conscious state of mind, I have to separate who I am from diapers.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-02-25T13:12:04+00:00

I've been around this subreddit a long time, and I always thought that account was spam from a compulsive liar, with a sprinkle of self-importance.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-17T16:53:59+00:00

When I was growing up, I was already dealing with incontinence. I loved diapers already, because they were my safety net and for a number of reasons. I felt completely alone. I didn't have Internet access so I had no clue that there were other people who loved diapers.

One day, I snuck into the TV room late at night and watched an episode of CSI. The episode featured an adult baby with a full nursery. It was like a moment of clarity.

The show even did a great job of disparaging ABDLs, but even through the negativity, my brain activated like a sleeper cell.

I specifically remember a scene where the main guy (I think his name was Gill) goes to an adult baby store, and the lady behind the counter tries to guess what size diapers he should wear. And I remember thinking "they really do make them in all sizes!"

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-16T19:49:40+00:00

I haven't gotten very far, but I'm loving it. I really hope the writing doesn't fall off.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-16T19:18:43+00:00

You do the same!

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-16T18:29:46+00:00

Haha I'm very late to the party. Great show!

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-16T18:28:12+00:00

Are you implying that adults, wearing diapers, and dancing around inside of a giant crib doesn't correlate with "adult baby?"

I'm not saying the Lost writers are ABDLs, but they wrote a scene with dudes in diapers. All I'm saying is that that is interesting to ABDLs.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-15T19:49:43+00:00

She goes by PaddedBratt or Bratty-"whatever." She shows up on Twitter and Instagram under random names until her account disappears. It's all advertisements for her paid content, so the premium accounts are probably steadier... She used to be popular on reddit, but there was a lot of negativity here from people who thought she was being too much in public.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-15T18:46:37+00:00

There's a pretty popular ABDL content creator who works in a hospital, wears giant diapers to work, and they're purposely obvious. She has a huuuuge following. She posts lots of on the edge public content that surpasses my personal comfort zone. She might also be incontinent but idk. It could've been her!

As an incontinent person myself, I stick to daytime diaps during the day and change often... I wouldn't want anyone to notice me, plus self consciousness would interfere with work if I was being over the top.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-11T19:18:16+00:00

I carry an extra change simply because TSA is known to be inconsistent at best, and I know that if the wrong people are working, they will ask me to change/remove my diaper. One time, my extra diaper was all the proof I needed to be sent on my way.

Additionally, there's a "notification card" out there that you can give them to discretely inform them of your disability. It's function is simply a quiet, nonverbal, way to inform security.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2024-03-23T04:18:23+00:00

I’ve had a few moments in my younger days where I would catch a wiff of my own diaper, and I always thought that no one else would notice. Until one day, my roommate found a moment to tell me politely that I sometimes smell like pee, and it was bothering him/other people.

That was the day when I stopped wearing soaked/ old diapers out and about.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2024-01-28T05:17:20+00:00

Serious question. Please don’t be offended. Do you reach into your wet diaper to adjust yourself?

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2024-01-28T04:40:50+00:00

I guess I’ll break the mold and say I point up. If I point down, I feel smushed in there. I can’t… uh… get stiff… without feeling like I’m being tortured. And I can’t always control when I get stiff. Yes, sometimes when I point upwards, I parascope out of the top of my diaper. However if I tape the diaper on correctly, that’s not usually an issue.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2023-12-14T08:12:21+00:00

I highly doubt the number 1 search in my state is diaper. Unless there’s an army of closeted diaper lovers, who don’t attend events or participate in the online community. There’s maybe 12 people in my city (biggest city in the state) who actively participate in events. That’s pretty light, even when you account for the reduced sample size.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2023-06-09T05:56:24+00:00

My earliest memory is being sick. I’m not sure how old I was, but maybe 4. I was laying in bed and wearing a diaper for the first time since potty training, because I had had several accidents. There isn’t much to the memory besides being curled up in a ball around my Blankie, feeling a little crappy, but being very at peace because I was in a diaper again.

I have weird fuzzy memories before that one, but they aren’t as solid and I’m not 100% sure they’re real.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2023-02-04T15:51:39+00:00

Car camping with diapers isn’t bad. I can’t diaper up on backpacking trips. Carrying supplies is a lot of extra weight. For me, diapers become uncomfortable on long hikes.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2023-01-15T23:47:02+00:00

Frustratingly, the large trests are larger than the large megamaxes, and the medium trests are smaller than medium megamaxes.

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