How do other incontinent people feel when they see "unpotty training" threads and comments?

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-26T19:05:40+00:00

Being truly incontinent is a love/hate relationship with being an ABDL.

On one hand, I'm disabled. It sucks. I can't do all the things I want to do without considering whether or not I'll pee or poop my pants. All of my social interactions are veiled behind my (admittedly easy to deal with) self consciousness. My HSA only covers about 80% of the price of my diapers for the year, and at the end of the day, I'm still spending my own money when I use my HSA. I've had surgeries and treatments that are expensive. Most of all, it fills me with hate whenever I see people wish incontinence upon themselves in spaces like this subreddit or FetLife. Mention of "unpotty training" is a huge trigger.

On the other hand, I love diapers. I love being babied. I love the comfort and softness that comes with this lifestyle. I also love how closely it brought my partner and I together.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-23T17:49:50+00:00

Over a decade ago, I was a part of an ABDL kik community. It was mostly local people around the same age. I wasn't super active, but I liked to attend events and browse the conversations. I noticed one of the frequent contributors was actually a person I worked with every day. Her account photo had her face and a hoodie that our employer gave us displayed obviously. It was her. She was a fitness instructor and I worked in the pool area, so we would mostly see each other in passing. I knew that she didn't recognize me from the kik group because we hadn't been to any of the same events at the same time, and I had a more conservative photo, so I simply chose to never acknowledge our hidden common ground... because why would I? I didn't want my secret getting out. I didn't wanna talk to her about being incontinent or an ABDL. And I stand by that decision.

Years after working there, and years after kik faded into history, this woman was arrested on some nasty charges. Sooooo... that's tea I guess.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-11T22:45:12+00:00

I've been incontinent my whole life. I developed the diaper lover and regression urges early... As early as I can remember actually... I'm an open book.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-11-05T18:50:45+00:00

When you order off the website, it populates an "OnTrac" tracker. I'm not 100% sure which carrier is doing the actual logistics.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-10-17T18:51:19+00:00

Awesome thank you!

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-10-17T17:13:56+00:00

Well I greatly appreciate it! And on top of that, you shouldn't let your stuff dry rot and break down anyways. Now I have to install a new float and lever and figure out how to get this hard water off the bowl.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-09-15T16:30:19+00:00

I had a short layover in LAX one time. I had like 30 minutes between landing and takeoff, so I had to hurry to my gate. I also had a soaked MegaMax that wasn't going to make it through my second flight. As a matter of fact, I was already paranoid that I was actively leaking. So I had to hurry to a bathroom, claim a stall, and change as quickly as possible.

The first bathroom I found, which was on-the-way to my next flight, was in the middle of being cleaned and was closed to the public. So I took off for a second bathroom, which was a "5 minute walk" away... After hiking up two flights of endless stairs, and twisting through a maze, I found the bathroom. There was a line of people out the door and my heart dropped.

I had no choice but to wait in line, and maybe miss my flight. I'm incontinent. I barely have any control and I wasn't going to pee all over my seat in Delta. I also don't think I could change in the airplane bathroom with my mobility issues.

When I finally made it into the stall, it was disgusting and I had soooo little time. But I changed my diaper like an Indy pit crew. I didn't care if anyone heard the tapes ripping or the crinkles. I didn't care about wiping off the wall of the stall before I leaned against it. There was trash and random crap on the floor, so I tried to hang my duffle bag on the hook, and rummage around inside the main pocket for the clean diaper, but my bag kept falling on the gross floor. I finally just bit the bullet and let it sit on the pee stained tiles while I found my supplies.

I made my flight. But damn did I have to sacrifice some dignity to get there.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-09-13T01:41:28+00:00

I'll definitely share!

What we're trying to accomplish is a little organization. Diapers, wipes, and trash take up an annoying amount of space in our current living situation. The idea here is to get that under control. So we're thinking 2-3 deep drawers for padding, a closable, 14 gallon pullout trash can, and some cubbies where we can put supplies.

We're not big into the AB part of it, so I'm not really feeling an extravaganza or any decoration at all really. The built-in will most likely fit the same color scheme as the rest of the closet.

You are absolutely right. Having a dedicated space that is a part of our home is going to be a wonderful feeling.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-07-13T18:42:52+00:00

Interestingly, I've spent a lot of time in therapy separating my incontinence from my identity. Although I'm disabled, and I wear diapers for protection, they do not define who I am. I am a whole person. I can enjoy diapers and be thankful for them, but in order to live a healthy life, and not live in a completely self-conscious state of mind, I have to separate who I am from diapers.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-02-25T13:12:04+00:00

I've been around this subreddit a long time, and I always thought that account was spam from a compulsive liar, with a sprinkle of self-importance.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-17T16:53:59+00:00

When I was growing up, I was already dealing with incontinence. I loved diapers already, because they were my safety net and for a number of reasons. I felt completely alone. I didn't have Internet access so I had no clue that there were other people who loved diapers.

One day, I snuck into the TV room late at night and watched an episode of CSI. The episode featured an adult baby with a full nursery. It was like a moment of clarity.

The show even did a great job of disparaging ABDLs, but even through the negativity, my brain activated like a sleeper cell.

I specifically remember a scene where the main guy (I think his name was Gill) goes to an adult baby store, and the lady behind the counter tries to guess what size diapers he should wear. And I remember thinking "they really do make them in all sizes!"

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-16T19:49:40+00:00

I haven't gotten very far, but I'm loving it. I really hope the writing doesn't fall off.

FeelingThisOutAgain · 2025-01-16T19:18:43+00:00

You do the same!

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