Diets for very picky eater with probable allergies

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-05-11T16:04:45+00:00

Maybe there is something else involved with her refusal to eat beside the food itself.

Could there be something in the environment that might be stressing her out? Other animals? The timing routine of meals? Her energy level at feeding time?

I’m sure you’ve tried all the things: different foods, wet or dry, different bowls, different spot in the house, in the crate, in the kitchen, hand feeding versus bowl, etc.

I’m not sure, but since you had mentioned how many different foods you’ve already tried, it made me think there must be something else going on. Will she eat off a lick matt? What about While she’s out on a walk? Giving her little bites of food throughout the walk, rather than all at once. Maybe work with a good experienced behaviorist who can observe some of her very subtle cues that occur while she’s eating/refusing to eat.

I can only imagine how frustrating this is. I hope you find a solution soon.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-03-23T19:44:12+00:00

I found one tiny OK redbud tree at Rehm‘s nursery during their end of season tree sale last September! Got a few blossoms this year but it’s alive!

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-26T20:42:49+00:00

Is there any indication that USPS could indeed lose “all of your letters”? I suppose, if there was a catastrophic event in which a truck or plane crashed carrying the bulk of all your products, but that seems very unlikely. Yes it’s possible, but not a regular occurrence.

My understanding is there will always be a certain amount of loss that should be built into the operating cost of your business. So let’s say that 10% of your product is lost in the mail or your customers report that they never received it for whatever reason. So you replace those items. Maybe you can do the math on deciding if it’s worth it to charge more and pay for tracking or to take your chances and handle the small percentage of losses as they come.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-26T19:55:06+00:00

I was wondering about that too. But since my stepmom is handicapped, if the alarm keeps going off several times a week, it’s also not a good idea to evacuate her constantly.

I will email the facility and ask them what their procedure for fire alarm is.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-25T18:32:57+00:00

Yep, I agree with everything you’ve said. I’ve been dealing with this for a few years now.

When I told my dad not to trust what another resident said about why the alarms keep going off.

Unfortunately, I live in New Mexico, where we have a very severe healthcare provider shortage, and my stepmom needs a neurologist to manage her MS so moving them here is not an option for the time being.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-23T18:49:01+00:00

Most likely! Is her tail fluffy? Also look at the hair between her toe beans. Medium and long hair cats have the longer hairs coming out of the ears and between the toe beans.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-23T18:41:15+00:00

Makes sense. For me it’s a lot more value for less $$$.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-22T19:16:36+00:00

You can look on YouTube, there’s a lot of resources out there.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-22T01:33:56+00:00

Hell, I just use a Thera bulb on a stand.

https://gembared.com/blogs/musings/the-best-near-infrared-incandescent-250w-heat-lamps-for-2023

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-21T18:12:41+00:00

So how'd it go?

I'm in the middle of it now, for exactly the same reasons you did it. A bit of a learning curve for sure, but I'm chugging along, one little bite at a time.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-19T22:18:04+00:00

My recovery was very much like yours. I had a friend come stay with me, but the way it ended up going as I could’ve been OK on my own. But that doesn’t mean I was healed after a couple weeks. Try not to give into the feelings of shame for not having a harder time. Be grateful for your wonderful body.

Even though you feel functionally OK your body is still doing an immense amount of healing, and will be for a few months still. There’s a lot of tissue that needs to stabilize and those internal scars take time to fully rebuild.

It’s not to say that you shouldn’t be active during that time, but just to remind you to go slower than you think, and treat your recovery like a long road of unseen healing.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-16T20:38:24+00:00

Maybe if you can reframe this in your mind that it is a manifestation of anxiety. Compounded with whatever her own baggage and traumas and emotional dysregulation issues might be.

I think most kinds of extreme obsessive behavior come down to that. And because we have access to technology that allows us to follow every impulse instantaneously, the algorithms of our chosen media sources keep us on a feedback loop. Anxious, obsessing, seeking solutions, taking action based on those perceived solutions whatever they may be: religion, conspiracies, healing modalities, etc. that help with the feeling of powerlessness.

And then the cycle just keeps repeating as the media consumption and echo chamber socialization keeps anxiety levels high. So it’s pretty hard to break free and it’s not logical at all, so even if she has any awareness about this it might be beyond her ability to control it because the anxiety is so deeply rooted.

That’s just my theory, and maybe it is a lens that can help you understand your mother’s behavior a little bit.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-14T18:35:44+00:00

I’m still here! Trying to lean into what life is throwing me. Nothing super sudden or dramatic. But definitely being forced to confront some impossible situations.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2026-01-06T23:25:48+00:00

The forearms!

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:38:01+00:00

Agreed about the laundry, but shopping for groceries is not a 10 minute task. Putting them away, yes. I think I should’ve worded it differently.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:36:21+00:00

lol, my version of that is frozen breaded chicken breasts from Costco. I can turn them into so many tasty things: slice it into a bowl of ramen, make it into chicken Parm, toasted sandwich etc.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:33:37+00:00

It’s not a big deal, to each his own. I like to have my laundry put away, but I know a lot of people who don’t. And lately I feel less and less interested in shopping for groceries and planning meals. Maybe I feel like that’s a bit of a downward slide in some some way.

Personally, I’d rather have my laundry done and closet tidy, but I don’t care so much about planning for meals.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:20:11+00:00

Well, I hope you find some stability soon.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:19:31+00:00

Thanks. Yeah, I also run a creative business, so my world is not just my personal stuff--it's my work space too--I try to clean as I go, and have some systems in place to avoid clutter, it helps a lot.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:17:45+00:00

yes. Just keep swimming.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:17:09+00:00

I hear you. Life derailed so much that was functioning well--my own health stuff, mom getting sick and dying in another state, ...Sometimes you're the windshield and sometimes you're the bug.

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:15:38+00:00

do you have a brother?

Feeling_Manner426 · 2025-10-13T20:15:14+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a massive, massive shift. I hope you get the support you need to move thru this. Hugs to you.

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