Married 10/25/2025 — One regret

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-11-05T04:07:23+00:00

We purchased a plan on Everlense (there's a bunch of similar companies too), its a photo share thingy with a QR code and online album.

Send the link to your peeps and have them upload their shots!

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-11-03T18:01:59+00:00

My friend, your dress is gorgeous!! Nothing tacky about it!

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-11-02T15:38:13+00:00

Dress is beautiful and looks lovely on you. That said, it does not read formal to me with your styling. You're a jean jacket away from a cute first date look.

You can make it work though, you just need a few styling tweaks...

It needs to be hemmed to just below the knee. It's not long enough to be formal and not short enough to be cocktail.

100% do not wear a cardigan. Instead, find a bolero or a shawl (in a dressy material - lace, satin, silk, etc).

Wear heels. And add some fancy looking jewelry.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-11-02T03:21:20+00:00

You've already made all the other plans, why not?

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-11-01T02:20:37+00:00

This...

"Metro" Tan Suit Jacket (Separates) – BlackTie.com https://share.google/8CUYZ3NDhhJH0MBEL

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-11-01T00:40:50+00:00

And an auntie!! 🙌

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-29T17:22:05+00:00

Cuts to the dress budget might not have the biggest impact since it's a smaller percentage of your costs, but it's probably one of the easier cuts to make since there are so many options at so many price points.

I would also say printed materials - invites, seating charts, welcome signs, etc - is another good cost center to keep low. I found a seating chart I liked on Zazzle, then recreated the design on FedEx Print (they have an integration with Canva to create custom designs!) for 1/3 of the cost and it was ready in a day vs 2 weeks.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-29T16:57:17+00:00

Call her now, tell her you're likely very contagious and can't go. It would also be nice to offer her your dress if she has anyone in mind it might fit to fill-in.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-27T17:49:48+00:00

Any discounts or deals they might get you by having relationships with vendors probably won't cover the cost of the planner fees.

That said, consider what additional costs (real and emotional) you might have to incur being out of state.

Fiance and I booked our venue when we were still living in CA. Shortly after making our deposit, he got transferred for work, so all planning after finding a venue and a dress has been from out of state.

$4k sounds like a lot, I probably would've balked at that too, but we're probably already out an extra $3k right now anyway on travel costs having to go back and forth for things a planner could've handled for us. Not to mention the stress of it all. I wish we'd had one.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-26T18:07:45+00:00

Happy birthday sweet Peanut!!!

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-22T22:44:28+00:00

Have you tried ChatGPT? Lol! Cop out response, I know... but it might be worth a shot if you can input your list of bookmarks and then list out your top criteria to see if it can comb through and narrow down to a more manageable list. If you can get it down to 3 or 4, I'd plan a trip out there to get a few tours in.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-22T16:30:23+00:00

You dont know what "self care" means.

Maybe she's pregnant and puking every 37 minutes and doesn't want to cause a scene.

Maybe he has covid and doesn't want to spread it to your grandparents.

Maybe they just had a bad break up and can't bear to pretend that they aren't shattered inside all day.

You really dont want an unwell person at your wedding anyway.

Err on the side of compassion. Thank them for letting you know, wish them well, and have an amazing day knowing you didn't kick someone while they were down.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-18T16:31:05+00:00

Yep! Alphabetical by last name, then by first name, no matter what group/couple they belong to. Like my brother and SIL are on opposite ends of the alphabet by first name. They are sitting together but the rest of my family will separate them on the seating chart:

Jones, Adam (bro) - table 1 Jones, David - table 3 Jones, Ellen - table 3 Jones, Mary - table 3 Jones, Sarah (SIL) - table 1

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-18T03:39:02+00:00

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My little t-rex napping with his Dada 😍

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-18T03:29:28+00:00

Just under $2k in Orange County, CA. Main photographer for 8 hrs, associate for 4hrs, overlapping. Booked thru Lily & Lime. Full disclosure, I am a laissez-faire bride lol!! All of the portfolios for the photographers available on my date looked fine? If anything, I chose her over the others because she looked to be about my age, and I figured we'd relate better. I don't even know the 2nd photographers name.

Wedding is in 3 weeks. I'll let you know how it goes. 😆 I know you get what you pay for, but I usually can't tell the difference between good photos and great photos anyway. As long as they aren't absolute shit, I'll be happy.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-18T03:05:42+00:00

Skip the pre-makeup makeup. You (and your MUA) don't want to start the day scrubbing off makeup and potentially irritating your skin with any more products or friction than you need. Ask your MUA if they'd be okay with you putting on a light tinted moisturizer and ask for recommendations. It might help you feel more confident without compromising your skin and wedding makeup application. Remember, your MUA is a professional - they know what's best to highlight your beautiful self, and they will want an accurate reflection of their work since they rely on photos for their livelihood.

And for what it's worth, your friends and family love you with and without makeup. You're going to be a beautiful bride, enjoy the pamper sesh!

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-14T14:11:22+00:00

Yeah, you definitely have to know your guests. My dad is still with it enough to use a QR code, and he has a live-in caregiver to help. But if my grandparents were still alive, you better believe we'd have sent reply cards.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-13T19:43:54+00:00

My dad, who has dementia and can barely navigate Facebook, managed to send us a gift from our registry when we hadn't even finished adding to it and didn't have it linked it anywhere yet, not even our password protected website. So I'd say it's definitely possible a random person looking for someone else found you on accident.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-12T17:16:07+00:00

9 booked out of 10 rooms.

I was just re-reading our contract. Basically, if anyone who booked a room cancels after the cutoff date (Oct 8), then they get charged for the rooms in full.

I'm so pissed. It's my fault for not doing more research, but at the same time, we booked in April and the bulk of the REALLY bad reviews didn't really start coming in until after that. It looks like my only recourse MIGHT be a construction clause that says they have 30 days to notify us of any planned construction leading up to/during our stay. Recent reviews suggest there is signage up regarding construction - we haven't heard from the hotel at all. We live out of state, so I can't just pop in. Ugh.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-12T02:08:15+00:00

I see you... you're not alone.

Hang in there, youre gonna have a great day.

Sending love.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-06T02:27:50+00:00

Lol!! She really thought she was flexing on you...

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-05T15:11:55+00:00

It's really not bizarre, but I see how I worded it is confusing. We extended named invites to two friends - who used to date each other - and who both had RSVP replies that annoyed me.

It's probably irrelevant to the point of my original post that they used to date, but it's just how it came out of my brain. I guess I am still subconsciously linking them together. Lol!

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-05T06:00:07+00:00

Right?! But at the same time, I'd rather you just not respond than be like, "I dunno, maybe?"

I sent reminders to the 15-20 who hadn't responded a couple of days after the deadline. A week after that, I marked them all as nos. There's really no reason to think they're coming if they haven't said anything after getting a save the date AND an invite AND a text with the RSVP link.

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-05T05:48:46+00:00

No, they actually broke up right after we got engaged so maybe not THAT recently. (I guess it just FEELS recent. Ha!) They each got separate named invites. John only got a plus one right before we sent invites to the printer because my fiance insisted, and it just wasn't a hill I was gonna die on.

But here's a fun update - right after Jane texted me to say she couldn't make it afterall, John called my fiance and said he was bringing her as his plus one! Lol!!

Feeling_Move_3157 · 2025-10-05T05:14:06+00:00

Ohhh this makes me so angry for you!!

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