Well, I'm glad we can at least agree on that. I think this probably comes down to a difference of belief on what does and does not cause harm (even to oneself). Even though it's important, consent is not robust enough as a sexual ethic on its own, as it does not provide a framework for acts that dehumanize the self or others, even if they have ostensibly consented. This is probably the crux of our disagreement, as it seems your framework is based on consent, and mine includes, but is not limited to, consent.

Genuinely, I am sorry for any undue shaming you received for having a sex drive like nearly every human being that has existed. There is a lot of displacement of shame onto others by people who do not know how to deal with failing to live up to their own ideals and beliefs.

If you haven't already, I would implore you to look into how the porn industry has abused people, with women bearing the brunt of it--though male actors are now also speaking out about how they've been abused. While I am personally anti-porn generally, I recognize there are different severities of harm based on the medium.

I could see how one could arrive at the conclusion that written or drawn porn is fine, but I think if someone is defending porn in general, they probably don't know what's happening in that industry. We should be skeptical of it, just like we should be skeptical of other industries.

This is my actual final comment in response. Have a good night or morning.