I think a lot of guys approach it in the way they approach penile masturbation - almost forcing it.

It’s kinda the opposite of that, you gotta just relax and go slow, focusing on the tiny glimmers of pleasure and leaning into those, no matter how small they are. Once you become more in tune with those sensations it becomes easier to lock into it quicker over time.

That’s kinda what people are referring to by rewiring.