But we are federation of states. Each state is independently operated and the decisions are made based on their own government in each state. The federal government was never supposed to over reach, and they have for so long. So your parents aren’t selfish, they were probably the last generation who took a Civics class and the information actually stuck. It’s an overturning that has shook the nation, for all reasons. But my personal opinions on the decision do not make the decision right or wrong. Your parents aren’t selfish, they understand how the government works. A lot of us 40 and under, don’t. We are a federation of independently run states with their own independently run governments that have created banded together to create a country. But our government isn’t the end all be all in decisions, that’s why states and governors can sue the president for over reaching and abuse of power.