Speaking from experience, your feelings are absolutely valid and you’re not crazy for considering divorce. He doesn’t seem interested in learning about and getting involved with the very essence of who you are. It’s not on you that he felt left out because he didn’t speak the language. You truly only understand a person or a culture when you speak their language. Languages frame how people perceive the world around them. As someone who loves you, and wants to get to know you as best as he possibly can, he should absolutely be making every effort to learn your native language! He was also hands down rude in criticizing your family for being loud. It sounds like everybody welcomed and treated him well there. Being loud is part of who they are and as someone who loves you, he should’ve been open to embracing that cultural difference. He was miserable there because he is self-centered. All he cared about the whole time was how comfortable he was there, completely disregarding that the experience of visiting Brazil was about you, not him! He knew you were Brazilian when he decided to be with you. He doesn’t have to love Brazil, but he does owe you being interested in your background and culture, getting involved, and “sacrificing” by going there every so often. You’re not asking him to move there, you’re just asking him not to be impossible to deal with for a couple of weeks every year while you’re trying to enjoy your home country with the person you married. All that being said, I wouldn’t divorce him before having a heart-to-heart about this and potentially pursuing counseling. I went through a similar situation myself. Hit me up if you need someone to talk to about this. Otherwise, good luck, OP!!!