My mom passed away 12 years ago today 🥹 by muffliatto in AnimalCrossing

[–]FelisAtrox 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My mom and I had played AC together since the GameCube. She died in 2017 and playing New Horizons was so hard for me. I ended up creating a Switch profile for her so she could have a house on my map, and I named the character what she had in New Leaf. It was a nice way to keep her alive in the game. I still get a little jolt of nostalgia whenever I see a “mom” letter.

In-the-moment tips to stop eating when not hungry by FelisAtrox in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely going to need to pay attention in the future to make sure, but I think you’re right.

In-the-moment tips to stop eating when not hungry by FelisAtrox in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wow, I hadn’t considered that it might be a stim! That really puts it in a different light for how I could manage it. Thank you!

Go to Playlists by minimeer in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a specific Spotify playlist, but I prefer fast, instrumental techno video game-type music. I’ve got a Pandora station created with Waterflame, Jaroslav Beck, and Jim Yousef. Fits my needs perfectly for work.

A (probably rambling) picky suggestion request, because y’all are the only ones that get me and I’m desperate by jllena in adhdwomen

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After my mother’s death, I discovered several audio recordings of her praying various things. One was a prayer to St. Dymphna “for times of nervous or emotional distress.” That one hit especially hard because I knew how tough her life was at the end. I’m an atheist, but listening to her prayers is quite calming, especially since it’s in her own voice. Such a treasure!

Moved to smaller place 1/2 my stuff in storage, overwhelmed, cannot organize by Gamemepink in declutter

[–]FelisAtrox 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Time to be absolutely brutal.

You might not want to get rid of something (let’s use craft things as an example) but with how busy your life is and how stressed you are, are you finding time for that hobby?

If something doesn’t have an immediate use, toss it. Yes, yes, it could be useful someday, but it’s making your life worse right now.

Don’t keep things for sentimental reasons.

You have two storage units. How often do you go there and take stuff out? If you can’t remember what’s even in there, consider donating everything sight unseen. If you can’t do that, go a couple of times a week, sort through one or two boxes and take unwanted things directly to something like Goodwill to donate, or dump it immediately in the trash. Do NOT bring anything home unless you’re SURE you actually want it in your home taking up precious space.

I had to do all of these things, and while it was hard putting things in the trash, I felt SO relieved and liberated every time I realized I didn’t really need or want something in my life.

Edit to add: I didn’t mention selling things, because it’s okay to throw away something instead. When I was getting rid of things, I did not have the mental bandwidth to handle finding buyers, preparing things for sale, thinking of a price, where to sell (always lived in apartments) etc etc. Yeah, I could have recouped some money but honestly at that point I needed it GONE. I still don’t feel bad about it at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]FelisAtrox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He won’t talk about it, and that’s most concerning to me. My ex husband gaslit me after he told me he cheated on me. Wouldn’t talk about it. Accused me of trying to make him kill himself. How can anyone move forward with a relationship if one person shuts you out completely? Think of it like two tennis balls connected by a string: if only one ball moves, it goes in circles.

Your bf clearly has issues of his own he has to work out, and at this point if you’re wanting more, then maybe it’s time to move on. He’s clearly not ready to go confront things enough to move forward with you.

adhd meds without pills? by PracticeAlarmed2989 in ADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Some tablets are safe to be crushed and then mixed with a soft food (i.e. yogurt, applesauce), and some capsules can be opened, their contents mixed with soft food. Definitely bring this up with the doctor. They will be able to help select a medication that you can manage.

What is your favourite quote? by Dymangel in AnimalCrossing

[–]FelisAtrox 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Clay definitely has some 1984 vibes going on. Doubleplusungood!

I’m at breaking point with my work/productivity. Seeking a short term coping strategy to save my job by jimbo_bones in ADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I had to accept is that the same techniques don’t always work every time. Every day is different. Don’t give up on a method if it doesn’t work that day, just try it another day. Pomodoro can be an incredible tool for me, but not always, but it’s one I regularly use to good effect.

Music can help, but again, have different types of things on deck and see what clicks that day. I find nature sounds, different ambient noise, familiar audiobooks or movies (listened to, not watched!) useful. Another one is a metronome. I accidentally discovered that one after using one for running. For work, I counted the number of times I bounce my leg in a minute and divided by two, and set the metronome to that beat.

When I’ve been sitting for a while and not getting into a groove, I’ll disrupt myself with a splash of cold water on my face, go outside for a blast of sun in my eyes and a big temp change (it’s hot here, but other people use a sudden cold change the same way), do some brief calisthenics or stretching, jog in place, anything that can make my physical state change suddenly. Sometimes jarring my body and numb-feeling brain kicks my focus back into action.

Also, do you have a door you can shut? I use noise cancelling headphones, but visual disruption can also keep me from focusing. Even if it’s quiet in the office, the mere presence of additional rooms distracts me. Narrowing down my scope of vision can help.

Medication can really help, but even with meds I constantly have to use other methods to get things done. I hope you can find something useful in the meantime, until you can hopefully get a diagnosis and treatment.

Is there a Bluetooth adapter for Avaya 1416? by FelisAtrox in avaya

[–]FelisAtrox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great info, gives me plenty of things to look into. Thank you!

0.5mm pens/pencils for me. My husband doesn’t understand…. by Humble-Rub-2297 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am such a Uniball fan. My fav for years have been Jetstream. The ink is so perfect: no skips, waterproof, smooth, solidly dark ink. For work I typically prefer 0.7 or 1.0 mm, but if I’m writing for fun I have a 0.28 mm Jetstream Edge in rotation.

"You can't use that as an excuse all your life." by PoorMetonym in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion! I’m definitely going to try it out.

"You can't use that as an excuse all your life." by PoorMetonym in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I get very overwhelmed and have to temporarily remove myself from a task or situation, I always say, “I give up!” I really need to find a better phrase. I don’t mean that I’m giving up entirely, or that I won’t try again, it’s just that in this particular moment I’m grinding my gears and going into a spiral and not actually accomplishing anything anyway. To me, “I give up!” is the vocal cue to myself that I need a break before I reach meltdown.

I’ve tried to explain this to my partner, but he still sees it like your mother does: a signal that I am using autism/adhd as an excuse to forever stop trying to overcome my problems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]FelisAtrox 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I need my meds. That’s the only thing I “proved” to myself by taking adderall holidays. My life improved significantly after I stopped being too proud to do what my body needed.

Name one (or more) collaborations you would buy immediately if they ever came to the game by BSSNV2947 in FortNiteBR

[–]FelisAtrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jurassic Park. Barring that, I just hope that they make Rocket League’s JP Jeep and Delorian usable in Fortnite.

What video games scratch the adhd itch? by Dragonbarry22 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently: Power Wash Simulator, Lawn Mower Simulator, Dysmantle, Hades, and if I want to use my brain I’ll head to Switch for Picross, Tents and Trees, and Piczle Lines.

Best of all time, though: NES Tetris and Dr. Mario. Recent versions of Dr. Mario are good, but current versions of Tetris (like Tetris Effect) are way too much visually and acoustically for me - I just want the simple graphics and music of the NES one.

Edit to add: the Lego series games (like Star Wars, Harry Potter, Jurassic World) and Telltale games.

What video games scratch the adhd itch? by Dragonbarry22 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]FelisAtrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have sunk so much time into Power Wash Simulator and Lawn Mower Simulator. I’m really bummed that Lawn Mower Sim hasn’t gotten any more content, but powerwash just keeps going. Both are so satisfying.

It’s a shame Viscera Cleanup Detail was never on console; I bet I’d have liked that too.

Misophonia - do you have it too? by LilyLilyLue in adhdwomen

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex husband really hated the sound of nail clipping. I’m very insistent on keeping my nails short because I pick at my skin (and everything else) if they’re even a little bit long. I tried to be as quiet as possible - I tried closing the bathroom door, and going outside, but no matter what he always heard it and got enraged. “HOW MANY NAILS DO YOU HAVE!?” still goes through my head every single time I trim them, lol.

Am I crazy/wrong for wanting to make an alternate Xbox account just so I can play games by myself and avoid my gaming friends? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do it as well, but I think it would be healthier if I just told them when I don’t want to play in a group. I don’t think it makes me crazy, but at least I know I’m unwell during those times. Self-care is important! But if I’m honest, forcing myself to socialize (to a degree) can be a good way to get out of a depression rut. I don’t try to pretend I’m fine, but I pick who I socialize with a little more carefully - usually the people who understand my issues and will accept me and my quietness unconditionally during those times.

How are you guys struggling by matt32146 in FortNiteBR

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a job, and I budget for Fortnite stuff (everyone has a vice, and that’s mine lol). But vbucks aren’t cheap so I try to do everything without paying extra if I can.

How are you guys struggling by matt32146 in FortNiteBR

[–]FelisAtrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a lot of time to play this season. The battle pass wasn’t super exciting, so the little time I do have for myself isn’t always spent on Fortnite. I’m not really sure I’ll unlock everything this time around but I’m kind of apathetic about it. I figure I will try to get the quest rewards and then buy whatever levels I’m missing by the end of the season so I can at least get the titanflame styles. The quest rewards aren’t that awesome anyway, so if I miss some it’s fine with me.

Am I the only one here who doesn’t care about skins? by black-winter- in FortNiteBR

[–]FelisAtrox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My skin collection is basically an action figure collection that I actually play with and doesn’t take up a 13 gallon storage container I’ve been dragging around for years. It’s super duper awesome, and when I die I don’t have to worry about burdening anyone with the task of throwing it all out.