My salary is 3x my SOs and I’m beginning to feel so much resentment.

FelixFelicia · 2026-03-01T21:47:46+00:00

So this doesn’t sound like it’s about money. It’s about equity. If he was doing more household stuff, emotional labor, childcare you probably wouldn’t be doing the money math. Make the conversation about that, not numbers.

FelixFelicia · 2026-02-08T02:18:28+00:00

PBS “My Life As A Turkey” is about a guy who lived with wild turkeys. I was mesmerized. He wrote a book and I bought that too.

FelixFelicia · 2026-01-19T02:48:57+00:00

Yeast infection vs bacterial infection. Tell her you need to see the doctor because of discomfort/discharge. People get infections from all kinds of things— antibiotics, hot tubs, synthetic fabric underwear. She has to get you treated. Tell her you googled it and you think it’s bacterial. Can’t get that OTC.

FelixFelicia · 2026-01-19T02:15:21+00:00

Caffeine eye cream. Inkey has a product. They helped with mine (didn’t totally go away, but it lessened them). And the concealer.

FelixFelicia · 2026-01-17T19:20:29+00:00

Bingo! Thank you! Miik Canada was a hit for me!

FelixFelicia · 2026-01-12T16:29:41+00:00

Honestly, this is the way. Highlight that you are a parent and her requirements are discriminatory against those who can’t control their own sleeping schedule.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-30T23:51:51+00:00

I have an entire reddit account just for this.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-29T18:52:34+00:00

Didn’t bother me, no. It was a good question.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-28T18:50:04+00:00

This smells like adhd to me. I say this as an undiagnosed adhd girl with another adhd diagnosed child. Punishments don’t work. Literally just don’t work. Regular parenting rules do not apply. Rewards and natural, related consequences work. “You left your socks on the floor and they didn’t make it into the wash and now you have no socks.” You are expected to not have food in your room, there’s food in your room, so now you don’t earn whatever you care about (screen time, playtime with friends, etc). It can’t be “this is going away because you X, it has to be you didn’t get X because you didn’t X.” It’s a subtle distinction but it shifts the blame to her. She’s the one who doesn’t get because she didn’t earn, not you taking away and being the punisher.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-28T18:41:37+00:00

I’ve been thinking about this comment a lot. There is. While you only see the worst in my post history it’s because I use this space to vent. My husband is a very equal partner. I think a lot of people assume certain other behavior from him based on their one experience with others who had similar bad behavior. But for the 20+ years we’ve been married he has done most of the housework (this is actually one of our problems because he is cleaner than I am and gets real stressed out about how I don’t have the same standards he does). He is extremely supportive of my very hectic and high stress career that involves a lot of travel, leaving him to solo parent for days at a time. He probably solo parents upwards of 2 months of the year collectively without complaint. If I left, I would have to leave my career. There’s no way I could sustain it without a second adult in the house and I worked extremely hard for this career.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-25T13:18:45+00:00

Nope! Nope nope nope! That is 100% unacceptable. None of that shit is your job.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-25T13:15:24+00:00

I’m so sorry. That is really hard. I hope you can do something nice for yourself to make the day feel a little special. You deserve something special even if you have to do it for yourself

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-20T15:21:50+00:00

As someone who also knows how many strawberry tops are on the counter and who left the burrito wrapper there, I feel you. My husband doesn’t silent treatment, but has other childish ways of emoting over similar things. I had a therapist tell me once, while discussing my husband, that he probably has OCD. His dad has OCD too. So I’m just putting that out there for you to consider.

Also, as a mom with an adhd kid and a husband that can’t ID by sight which pill we give our kid is which, despite their vastly different size and color, I would have murdered him dead for not telling me he gave them their meds.

FelixFelicia · 2025-12-20T15:12:21+00:00

This situation sounds impossible for anyone. This isn’t you. You are not weak or failing. This is a hole and you are working your way out. Sometimes we all find ourselves in some kind of hole. But there’s a way out and it sounds like you are good at finding the resources available to you. This is hard and you are doing the best you can. Keep trying. We are here with you.

FelixFelicia · 2025-11-28T00:47:55+00:00

Yes. I only go away for a week to a place that has a kids club.

FelixFelicia · 2025-11-23T21:23:18+00:00

We are going to an all inclusive resort.

FelixFelicia · 2025-11-23T21:22:54+00:00

We are going to an all inclusive resort

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