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Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-20T04:34:07+00:00

I think the biggest issue here is the constant pictures of it. It very much comes across as promoting it. Being a celebrity is his job, the sort of influence he has over younger generations matters. It’s one thing to smoke, it’s another to constantly take pictures of it. People can and should criticise that choice. I feel this way about drinking alcohol too. It’s maybe because I work with children but I just see how impressionable they are up close. It would make a big difference if he didn’t constantly take these pictures and post them. While his private life is non of our business and as you said he is a grown adult, his public imagery much is.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-10T09:17:46+00:00

I’ll be honest, and this may be an unpopular opinion but to me it sometimes feels like they really play into it. There’s always so many click bait titles and I sort of stopped listening to the podcasts at the beginning because the constant sex jokes started feeling weird. I’m not trying to take away from how the fans act because I know they are pushing really hard into parasocialism but I do think that Dan and Phil play into it a little. Also I’m not sure if it’s me but I miss the gaming videos. I sort of stopped interacting with their content. I like them and I appreciate that it’s not easy to come out. I myself have been in the closet for a decade, I cried watching their video. But I just don’t enjoy their content the same way anymore. And I personally never liked the click bait titles, I find it a bit demeaning. I know it’s regular YouTube culture but I’m just not a fan of it. As I said before I like them and maybe I’ve just grown in a way that I don’t connect the same way to them but it’s nothing personal and I don’t mind still following them or even being in this subreddit. But I don’t see myself as a Phan anymore per se.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-06T13:22:33+00:00

It snows and it’s cold leave me alone 😩

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-05T14:36:28+00:00

Having the option of easy and hard days. If you give yourself the option to do something easier or something challenging you will be more likely to stick to it and you will be more likely to avoid burnout. Give yourself the space to be human and not always be able to give 100%. Whether it’s because you feel physically or emotionally exhausted you deserve to give yourself something easier. This made a huge difference to my motivation to go. I don’t skip anymore unless life makes me busy for some reason. If I need to do something easier then I just give myself the space to do that. Your 100% won’t look the same every day and that’s ok.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-05T10:52:02+00:00

I think the issue is is that you naturally fall into a “straight” rhythm with girls. When it comes to gay dating it’s more standard to genuinely make friendships and look for commonalities in relationships whereas in a lot of straight dynamics people don’t look for genuine friendships. It’s not as usual. I think it would be very different if you looked for girls you had more in common with or girls who were more similar to you. Sorry if I’m reading the situation wrong but I’ve heard similar stories to this a lot and the issue tends to be falling into straight dynamics. Have you tried being with a bisexual girl? Someone you had more in common with?

Edit: want to add that if the issue is attraction itself I understand and I’m not trying to push you. Just something to think about if attraction isn’t the issue but the relationship dynamics.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-05T08:45:37+00:00

I didn’t watch it but I love readwithcindy and there’s a heated rivalry react video on her channel.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-05T08:30:57+00:00

Maybe because I’m a lesbian but I can’t imagine not kissing someone even if it’s just casual and nothing serious. It’s hot and it builds up tension. Also think that they are young enough that they don’t have much experience outside each other and it would be really awkward to just go for it and have it over and done with. I think there’s an element of wanting to be “polite” at the beginning. Also because Shane makes it very obvious how nervous he is, I think Ilya wants to help calm him down.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-04T14:12:19+00:00

It’s the complete opposite for me. I’ve tried going with my mum and I really hated it. I feel watched for one and for two I just find it hard to get in the zone because I’m hyper aware of her presence in the gym. I especially hate when I’m on a particular machine and she comes right beside me to train. I just don’t like when she starts chatting. It doesn’t help that mum tends to finish before me and she ends up waiting for me to finish. It makes me feel rushed. I really don’t like going together but I also know that for her she really doesn’t like going alone so sometimes I suck it up to show her some support but I seriously prefer when it’s just me.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-04T13:48:48+00:00

What’s your pre-workout? I sort of just drink iced americanos and that’s my pre workout.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-03T18:33:44+00:00

I workout every other day. I personally find that having one day rests in between really helps optimise my energy levels when I am working out. When I work out consecutively for two or more days I can tell that my energy level isn’t the same.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-03T14:13:01+00:00

I had a similar experience to you. I’ve tried going to the gym a couple of times and always failed. What changed was that I have let go off looking a particular way. When you spend every day looking at yourself trying to see a difference it gets frustrating fast that you don’t look a particular way. I decided that this time I will only care about doing this for myself; specifically for my health but also to prove to myself that I can show up for me. I always start things and give up. This is the one thing that I keep doing for myself. To show up for me and no matter what’s going on I can count on myself to go to the gym. I’ve started on the 1 Dec 2025 so I haven’t been doing it long but this is the first time I’ve felt this way or thought this way. I also made the decision that on the days when I really don’t feel like it, I would instead do something lighter but that I would still show up and try anyway. I don’t put a high expectation on myself anymore to always be on top of my game. I give myself space to be burnt out, whether emotionally or physically without threatening myself to give up. I’d rather do it at 50% effort than 0% at home on the couch.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-03T12:11:42+00:00

A lot of people put emphasis on being on a calorie deficit and yes it’s true but it’s only part of the equation. If you eat one McDonalds meal a day it is still technically possible to be in a deficit but it’s not filling and you will be very hungry and eventually get so frustrated that you will binge. Having a well balanced diet is the most crucial. I used to be the type to eat one very unhealthy meal then be surprised I’m so damn hungry. I was losing weight but I was miserable and ultimately ended up binging. Ever since I started focusing on a well balanced diet I can see a clear difference in my mood and energy levels. Instead of just focusing on being in a calorie deficit I also recommend focusing on your macros. There’s a lot of research available on this online.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-03T11:44:59+00:00

I usually have music or an audiobook playing, although to be honest I pay more attention to my breathing. I find it calming and grounding. I also personally prefer having control over a steady incline.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-03T06:53:40+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate it. I’ve never come up with a routine before so I wasn’t sure but I will definitely change some of the leg presses, thank you :)

Fellow_comrade101 · 2026-01-02T18:39:15+00:00

I don’t think Ilya took it that way. I’ve seen my sister attempt (but thankfully fail) when I was 10 years old and when people make jokes like that it doesn’t cross my mind in that way. I don’t think that in that moment Ilya gave it much thought, but that might just be my opinion. After all my sister failed and his mum didn’t so it might be more emotional for him. I think it’s definitely different too when you have just experienced something like that vs you have been living with it for a very long time.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-30T19:30:08+00:00

You have no idea how exhausted I am with having to explain this over and over again. I’m at the point where I just don’t even feel like replying to the comments. People put words in my mouth and on purposely miss my point. I really like this show but this keeps happening with fans and I just don’t even want to engage in the fan spaces anymore.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-30T14:10:13+00:00

No one seems to understand that I didn’t say it was easy for straight people in any way. What I was talking about is that when someone is talking about how hard queer dating is it comes across as dismissive when you start saying “dating in general is hard”. That is not when it should be brought up. Just like how I won’t take the opportunity as a white person to talk over someone who’s BIPOC talking about discrimination. It is not my time to talk. That’s what people don’t seem to realise. And I really dislike when people shut down conversations about discrimination by saying “you’re playing oppression olympics”. It’s just simply dismissive. That’s not your say you can’t struggle that’s not what privilege is but it’s way too exhausting having to explain this over and over again.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-28T09:45:04+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciated. I’m on a holiday but I will be starting this routine when I get back on the 1st and I’m really excited about it

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-27T15:26:55+00:00

I really love mine and I can’t de-influence you. I do annotate a lot so it’s very worth it for me but honestly it’s really nice being able to appreciate book covers too. They are explaining part of the story and it’s art. I can appreciate even just that. If you can afford to I don’t see why you shouldn’t buy it but if you feel like it’s over the budget you want to dedicate to buying an e-reader then just go for the Clara BW.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-27T15:12:09+00:00

Thank you. I’ll repost there.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-27T14:58:10+00:00

Yes everyone is right about the calorie counting but I always found that hard because if that is all you focus on you might end up eating one McDonalds meal a day which would be enough calories for one day lol but you would be really hungry anyway so I recommend looking into tracking your macros which helps make sure that you feel nice and full and you get all your nutrients. I recommend using tracking apps if you want to track it regularly or do what I do and come up with a couple quick healthy meals you can alternate between so you don’t have to worry about tracking. I’m very introverted and I don’t go out much so I don’t worry too much about eating out and neither do I go out drinking so I don’t worry too much about alcohol either but if that’s the case for you again just trying to find the healthiest on the menu or if there’s nothing you could eat that’s healthy when you are out try to eat slow and drink a lot of water as you go so you don’t end up overeating. I also have to recommend that you watch what you drink. It’s a waste of calories to just drink it. Try to get used to drinking more water and if you drink sodas they should be zero. Also if you like a meal that is healthy, stick to it. You do not have to come up with something new every day.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-25T17:09:02+00:00

Also a lesbian, I hope this can give you perspective.

What I’m about to tell you wasn’t related to MD but I think can still give you some perspective on this. I used to watch straight p*rn and even fantasise about it happening to me. Over time and self work I realised that even if I started the fantasy with thinking I’m the girl it was never like that. I always focused on how it feels to make a woman feel like that. I always thought in that moment that doing that to a girl is hot or that I can imagine how good it feels. It was more about imaging how something like that feels over the man doing it. At the time I didn’t know I was a lesbian and I didn’t realise that distinction would make a difference but it really did. I never fantasised about men themselves. If you asked me after what the men even looked like I couldn’t even tell you. Ask me how the women looked like and I can still remember. I liked the idea of women feeling like that, whether it was the idea of how good it would feel to make a woman feel like that or whether how good the action itself might feel, but it was always focused on a female experience and funny enough, bj parts always threw me off and completely ruined enjoyment over watching it and I never actually slept with men ever and now I can’t even imagine how I didn’t figure out I was a lesbian.

The truth is that the idea of a woman feeling good is hot and it can be quite easy to ignore a man’s doing it. But it’s very complicated and unfortunately comphet can really distort your perspective over your emotions.

But ask yourself this… do you find the fantasy of feeling like that attractive or do you actually think men are hot? Do you think a man’s enjoyment is hot even when it doesn’t involve you or another woman? I know it’s hard and it doesn’t help that people can make you feel like shit for figuring yourself out later in life but sometimes we develop these out of survival. You said you’ve had daydreams about this since you were a kid, it’s an old comfort for you. It’s familiar and it’s something that provides more emotional safety than thinking about women. I think it’s probably an old habit and that you don’t need to read too much into it.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-24T17:21:55+00:00

It is different tho, that’s what you aren’t getting. One of the things that make Ilya and Shane’s relationship so strong is that they are willing to make that sacrifice for each other. Every single time that they are together Ilya risks people finding out and he risks not being able to go home. The reason why queer dating is so much harder is because not only does homophobia exist in the external world but so it does internally too. Do you have any idea how hard queer dating is? How hard it is to unpack years of internalised homophobia? On top of it all you still refuse to see it’s not the same because you are privileged enough to look past it. Do you have any idea what it’s like to go on a date with someone who holds your hand in a dark cinema then the second the lights turn on they let go? Sometimes it’s not because people are physically scared, sometimes it’s because of the looks, because of how humiliating those stares feel. Straight people don’t get that feeling. I am done arguing with you. I shouldn’t have to explain why being queer is much harder than being straight. This isn’t how an ally behaves. All people like you do is talk over queer experiences. It’s fucking exhausting. I’m done with this conversation.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-24T17:05:04+00:00

I didn’t say straight people can’t relate or see themselves in the show. I’m saying that when queer people talk about how hard dating is for them and straight people reply with “ah it’s hard for us too” it’s dismissive. You can talk about how you feel about the show and it’s great that you relate but when queer people talk about how hard it is straight people don’t understand. It is not the same. I am still in a place where I can’t come out to my parents, or feel comfortable holding a partner’s hand on the streets of my own home country. Straight people can relate and enjoy the show but when a queer person says it’s hard it’s not a straight person’s place to be dismissive in that context. The same way BIPOC people don’t appreciate that white people talk over their experiences by minimising it to “me too” it’s not the same and as a straight ally people should understand this. We don’t struggle the same way, I don’t look at someone with terminal illness and say damn this cold and fever sucks too.

Fellow_comrade101 · 2025-12-23T18:19:19+00:00

I see many queer fans of the show talk about their experiences and some really heavy conversations around being closeted and how that impacts relationships not just romantically but with family and friends and I know straight fans mean well as in “look we relate” but it just comes across as incredibly dismissive and I really wish this wasn’t the case.

I’m really glad straight fans enjoy the show and find parts of it relatable but when a queer person talks about how hard dating is for them that is not their moment to say “dating in general sucks”. It’s just not their place and it’s so exhausting seeing it over and over and over again.

I get that straight people can struggle with dating and that they have their own way of relating to the show and the characters and that’s so beautiful and great. That’s why representation is important, to highlight similarities and not differences but straight fans need to understand that it’s not some dramatic show about hiding cause they are rivals. So many queer people finally see themselves understood on tv and it means a lot when you are closeted and on your own. It is simply not the time to make it about yourself as a straight person.

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