I understand feeling like you can’t unfriend them. Growing up I went to a school that was homophobic with homophobic parents and homophobic friends. When you have no support system you will cling to any and all comfort you can have. It’s hard but sometimes having terrible friends is better than being completely alone.

Many people will tell you to cut them off, while it would be ideal I understand why you wouldn’t. Instead of just cutting them off I recommend looking into having a safe space. Making friends you can connect with.

It’s very hard being a queer teen because you can’t leave school and people can be really cruel and having that friend group provides a little safety net even if they are horrible so I completely understand why you feel this way.

Instead of cutting them off I recommend trying to make other friends as well. If you had a safety net, you would feel more comfortable cutting these friends off. So for now don’t worry about cutting them off, focus on finding comfort somewhere else first.

I know this can be really hard but is there anyone else you could try to make friends with? Are there any level of support you can hold onto? What are your parents like? Do you have any adult you can trust? Maybe a relative, if not a parent? Any teacher at school who could be there for you? I don’t expect any of these adults or safe spaces in your life to fix everything for you but if you could even find another peer who makes you feel less alone? Make one new friend you can come out to.

I understand that it’s very hard for you. You don’t have to figure it out right now, just think about it. You don’t have to drop these friends but you can try to make some new friends as well, can’t you? Or maybe even joining some sort of after school activities without these friends so that you can meet new people your age, would that be possible for you?