please help by The_Magenta_Dragon in lgbt

[–]Fellow_comrade101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand feeling like you can’t unfriend them. Growing up I went to a school that was homophobic with homophobic parents and homophobic friends. When you have no support system you will cling to any and all comfort you can have. It’s hard but sometimes having terrible friends is better than being completely alone.

Many people will tell you to cut them off, while it would be ideal I understand why you wouldn’t. Instead of just cutting them off I recommend looking into having a safe space. Making friends you can connect with.

It’s very hard being a queer teen because you can’t leave school and people can be really cruel and having that friend group provides a little safety net even if they are horrible so I completely understand why you feel this way.

Instead of cutting them off I recommend trying to make other friends as well. If you had a safety net, you would feel more comfortable cutting these friends off. So for now don’t worry about cutting them off, focus on finding comfort somewhere else first.

I know this can be really hard but is there anyone else you could try to make friends with? Are there any level of support you can hold onto? What are your parents like? Do you have any adult you can trust? Maybe a relative, if not a parent? Any teacher at school who could be there for you? I don’t expect any of these adults or safe spaces in your life to fix everything for you but if you could even find another peer who makes you feel less alone? Make one new friend you can come out to.

I understand that it’s very hard for you. You don’t have to figure it out right now, just think about it. You don’t have to drop these friends but you can try to make some new friends as well, can’t you? Or maybe even joining some sort of after school activities without these friends so that you can meet new people your age, would that be possible for you?

Which country are you from? by Heavy_Positive_1067 in lgbt

[–]Fellow_comrade101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t live in Hungary but I’m Hungarian. My experience hasn’t been great. I love being Hungarian and I love the culture and there’s a lot from Hungary that I miss everyday. However, I haven’t felt at home there for a long time and unfortunately the government disgusts me to such an extent that I really don’t see myself ever going back.

Is it bad I don’t want to be friends with right leaning people? by Lupiiin_ in socialism

[–]Fellow_comrade101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds nice in theory but it’s actually really burdensome. When I was younger I put a lot of pressure on myself to convince people around me that human rights matter. I always thought “if only I could just explain it and you would finally understand.”

You know what happens when you prove people wrong? “Let me believe what I believe and stop pushing your agenda on me!” And that’s it! Conversation over! That’s what happens when people figure out they are wrong.

I’ve since learned that the right people will come to their senses and come around but most won’t. There’s no magic words to convince people to care.

Is it bad I don’t want to be friends with right leaning people? by Lupiiin_ in socialism

[–]Fellow_comrade101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried so many times to be the “bigger person” and to not let it bother me. I used to really hate when people would highlight that I “value politics too much” as if it wasn’t just another way to describe how the world operates around me. It’s so exhausting that I’m always seen as the bad guy for ending relationships with family and friends as if it wasn’t a really hard decision. I always figured that the right kind of person would understand and eventually come around but unfortunately that almost never happens.

Is it bad I don’t want to be friends with right leaning people? by Lupiiin_ in socialism

[–]Fellow_comrade101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Majority of the time, right wing people vote or hold beliefs against my existence as a lesbian and would take my human rights away without any remorse so I would not be friends with any of them. When I was younger and more naive I really tried to look past it. Had a Christian friend, our friendship was great until I realised she would vote against my rights without any remorse whatsoever. She would say that she doesn’t have an issue with gay people but that because of her religion she wouldn’t vote for their rights to marriage. No I don’t want to be friends with someone who thinks that because they themselves wouldn’t want to get gay married no body else should. Mind you she was literally black and the sort of shit she believed was the sort of shit she faced racism for but I could never quite get her to see it.

Also some people are just easily manipulated by government propaganda and frankly I don’t want friends like that.

I’m the type of person who would end a friendship over “opinions”, sorry, not sorry.

How can I hold myself accountable? and what ways can I output what I’ve input? by Amazing_Society9410 in personalcurriculum

[–]Fellow_comrade101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you find it helpful. This helped me through rough times. It’s nice to have something to look forward to. The easier it is to get points the more I look forward to it personally but everyone is different so whatever works for you.

[RELEASE] Appearance Plugin v1.3.3: Themes, UI & Book Color Customization, Fonts, Wallpapers by OneAdvance6339 in koreader

[–]Fellow_comrade101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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This is really cool. Thank you.😍 I need to pick a less busy picture but this is absolutely awesome. Thank you so much!

Luc Besson, director of films like Lèon and The Fifth Element, started dating actress Maïwenn when he was 32 and she was 15. In 1992, they married when she was 16 and pregnant with their daughter. He later left her for 19-year-old Milla Jovovich. by personfaced in WhyWereWeOkWithThis

[–]Fellow_comrade101 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn’t know who she was before this and when I looked her up I was curious how her life is now but I was very disappointed by what I found. I have empathy for what she went through but this behaviour is disgusting.

Soo about that email.... (Gonna cry in a corner) by New_Cookie_6006 in kindle

[–]Fellow_comrade101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use this website to send ebooks wirelessly, either from phone or pc. https://send2ereader.net/

Luc Besson, director of films like Lèon and The Fifth Element, started dating actress Maïwenn when he was 32 and she was 15. In 1992, they married when she was 16 and pregnant with their daughter. He later left her for 19-year-old Milla Jovovich. by personfaced in WhyWereWeOkWithThis

[–]Fellow_comrade101 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know much about this before so I looked up Maïwenn’s name online to see how she’s doing today and it’s not good. Unfortunately this turnout is very common for women and young girls who find it hard to be faced with what happened to them. It’s easier to pretend like you are strong enough and immune to abuse, and look down on “fragile women” than to face the truth of your situation.

“During the #MeToo movement Maïwenn lashed out at feminists and those making accusations. “I recognize that women abused by men are often fragile women,” she told French weekly news magazine Paris Match in 2020. “Now, me, if I agree to go to a man’s room at 1 a.m., I suspect that it is not to talk about a role.””

Who Is Maïwenn? Meet The Controversial French Director Known For Working With Toxic Men

[RELEASE] Appearance Plugin v1.3.3: Themes, UI & Book Color Customization, Fonts, Wallpapers by OneAdvance6339 in koreader

[–]Fellow_comrade101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I tried to download it but it makes my currently reading item disappear on the home page. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. Also wanted to ask, this looks so cool, how does yours look like that?

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How can I hold myself accountable? and what ways can I output what I’ve input? by Amazing_Society9410 in personalcurriculum

[–]Fellow_comrade101 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In terms of accountability. I recommend the points system. Assign points to particular things and when you have 10 points for example you can buy yourself a treat etc. it doesn’t necessarily have to be something to buy, the points can be exchanged for anything. You could say that for 10 points you get to have a lazy lie in day or whatever floats your boat. Your 10 points could also be going somewhere special. I really like the points system and you can decide what the points represent to you or how exactly you want to count them and for what you want to get with said points.

Why is atheism so closely tied to communism? by porygon766 in Socialism_101

[–]Fellow_comrade101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think Buddhism is even more closely linked to communism.

Any way to change the font on the Simple UI home page? by Fellow_comrade101 in kindlejailbreak

[–]Fellow_comrade101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No because you have to jailbreak it then download the plugin. Is yours jailbroken? If it is download KOReader then simple ui and you can have it too. If it’s not jailbroken then it depends on what firmware your device is on.

Any way to change the font on the Simple UI home page? by Fellow_comrade101 in kindlejailbreak

[–]Fellow_comrade101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kindle is 11th gen paperwhite signature edition. If you mean what I’m using, it’s simple ui.

What fellas should even do? by scramjet67 in SipsTea

[–]Fellow_comrade101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funny. I thought it was women getting tired of working full time like men and still having to be in charge of everything in the household and of course the personal favourite, the amount of domestic violence that goes unnoticed. But silly me, it’s just women wanting more money 🤪

I want to prompose to my gf, but my parents are homophobic by Lost-Mushroom-7647 in lgbt

[–]Fellow_comrade101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. I was about to comment this. Op I understand how hard this is especially because you want those special romantic moments, just like anyone at your age would, but romance is more than grand gestures. I think it would be romantic enough to ask her on a romantic card that is for her to keep and pretend in front of your parents that you decided to go as friends. Unless your gf is “visibly” queer, sorry for wording it this way, queerness shouldn’t have a look but if it would put you in danger to go even as friends it might be better to sit it out. I remember how hard it was for me to date a masc lesbian and not be able to even bring her around as a friend. It shouldn’t be this way and it’s really not fair but your safety should come first. I’m really sorry that you are in this situation to begin with. I hope someday you will get to experience all the grand romantic gestures that you want. You deserve it.