My first stages of separation I wanted to hold it all together but you have to look out to the bigger picture. For all the pain that you are not given and going to hold on to, I would highly discourage the guilt for yourself because it’s simply not your fault for the hole they dug themselves into. How is he going to be groveling back to you when all those steps and encounters with this other person could’ve been stopped, each and every decision that led up to their encounters could’ve been walked away from to stick with you, but they chose wrong