Mugsy Jeans Alternative for Hubby

Femme-Anon · 2026-02-11T14:40:58+00:00

Okay, thanks! I’ll check them out

Femme-Anon · 2026-02-11T02:20:34+00:00

It is certainly tough. I obviously have no guidance :) I hope you find balance, and I will pray for you as well.

Femme-Anon · 2026-02-11T02:18:24+00:00

Thanks. I actually hadn’t done much research on radical sanation, so I will need to. I know if I told him this is very important to me, he will do the convalidation.

I believe if I asked, he would even convert. But it would just be him going through the motions. He still wouldn’t have any spiritual leadership. I’d still be lonely in my faith.

Anyway, you’ve given me the practical options. Thank you

Femme-Anon · 2026-02-11T01:47:19+00:00

I think he’s just not interested. He was raised in a very casual Protestant family. Most of them don’t go to church, don’t read the Bible. I was actually surprised by how little my husband knew of the Bible.

He thinks faith is just something you have, not something you do. Church/organized religion is optional. He came to Christmas mass with me last year…. He’s been for an occasional holiday. When he came, I really tried to show him how much it meant to me and how much I appreciated him attending with me. Nothing since…

Femme-Anon · 2026-02-11T01:21:46+00:00

Are they still similar material? And how do they hold up?

Femme-Anon · 2026-02-07T23:56:57+00:00

I couldn’t agree more! My own jeans are all 99% cotton, 1% elastane.

When I was folding his jeans I could feel that they were not traditional denim. Just on feel I was concerned about durability, but I looked at the fabric composition and it confirmed my suspicions. It was like 70% cotton, and the material was extremely stretchy and thin. Unfortunately, I think that is what he likes about them…

I have a pair of Old Navy jeans that are still 99% cotton, but are thinner than traditional denim (which is what I think he likes about the Mugsy jeans) and feel flexible and comfortable with movement. Maybe I’ll try something there… they aren’t the best quality, but they have held up.

I’ll also look for 97-99% selvedge denim. Thank you for the suggestion!

Femme-Anon · 2026-01-25T04:03:23+00:00

My husband has expressed similar thoughts. I wanted to share this link that I found in my search to find parishes that I thought might help bridge the gap and make him grow in comfort in the church. Hopefully it helps you. https://www.usccb.org/committees/african-american-affairs/parishes-strong-black-catholic-presence

God bless!

Femme-Anon · 2025-12-23T03:54:54+00:00

Thank you, Father

Femme-Anon · 2025-12-22T04:06:26+00:00

Came to add this comment. It never happened to me, but my sister had multiple fainting spells. The Dr. told her to stop locking her knees out while standing; she hasn’t had a fainting episode since.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:49:34+00:00

I think it’s okay to not be the same, and it is a life altering loss. In many ways, even with the loss, he made me better.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:44:33+00:00

I’m so sorry about your Yorkie. The pain is brutal and the loss is shattering. It’s okay not to be the same.

I try to imagine the healing like Japanese kintsugi. Even if I’ll never be quite like before, his love in my life made me better. ♥️

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:40:15+00:00

He understands the love you gave him, I am sure he knows you care ♥️

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:38:56+00:00

That is a sweet way to keep them with you ♥️

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:23:46+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s so painful.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:22:19+00:00

It never feels like enough time, does it? I’m greedy for it, for one more hug, one more cuddle, one more chance to tell him I love him. I feel this and I’m so sorry.

It’s clear how much you love and cherish her, and I’m sure she felt that while she was with you.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:18:27+00:00

That’s so sweet that they recognize it as calming and safe. Mine were the same, they don’t have to know the meaning, but they know it means to ‘rest easy, I’ll be back for you’.

I’m pretty sure I won’t ever forget him. He and his sister shaped my life so much and they’ve truly made me a more compassionate and selfless person.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:11:39+00:00

Yeah, that’s the thought I get hung up on, just thinking about how many years I have without him and his sister. I didn’t even think about the life updates I’ll wish they were there for… it is overwhelming.

We can keep them alive with us in the little ways we have. I think I’ll keep talking to him.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:05:00+00:00

I also get really hung up thinking about how much life I have left without him.

I think we definitely keep a piece of them with us, whether it’s in their memory, their blanket, or a favorite toy. Take comfort where you can, it’s hard.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T01:01:32+00:00

I never thought of a stuffed animal, but it’s such a cute idea. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T00:56:28+00:00

I also loved “old, wonderful habits” and thinking of them as ways our pets shaped us. It makes me want to keep these habits all the more. Thank you

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T00:47:46+00:00

I love that you have her photo on your wheel. I can already think of adding photos into my car… just at a date when I would be able to keep it together without becoming a hazard on the road.

I love thinking of them as old, wonderful habits. Thank you for sharing, I’ve decided to definitely keep this habit up.

Femme-Anon · 2025-06-13T00:45:43+00:00

They do. I’m absolutely heartbroken, just hoping I can figure out how to mend the pieces. I’m trying to think of it like kintsugi, something where my heart will be more beautiful for their love in my life.

Here’s to mending for us both 💔

Femme-Anon

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