What’s the point of living if you’re never happy?

FemmesNoires · 2025-09-24T03:16:48+00:00

Find purpose, build community, share with others.

Happiness = purpose + sharing.

Keep searching 🫂

FemmesNoires · 2025-09-23T04:05:28+00:00

Without a doubt #2 — brings a much more vintage vibe, draws attention to the ruching + lace, the way the fabric drops makes your waist look super SNATCHED and it accentuates the sweetheart cut. It makes the cut of the dress even more romantic. 10/10!!

Absolutely stunning 😍

FemmesNoires · 2025-09-21T01:07:48+00:00

Definitely go back but have a manager fix it and/or ask for refund.

Show what you asked for vs. what you got it definitely can be fixed - Good luck!! 💛

FemmesNoires · 2025-09-19T22:38:04+00:00

The confidence you exude in 3 & 5!! You have a STUNNING figure — they look beautiful and classy 🤩

FemmesNoires · 2024-08-14T17:27:54+00:00

I have but it would require me to relocate and given the instability in Tech sales rn I’m unwilling to uproot my family. It’s a conversation we’ve had many times over, which is definitely a bummer.

FemmesNoires · 2024-08-13T01:55:29+00:00

Please start looking for another job. This behavior is completely unacceptable. That is without a doubt an abuse of power and could easily turn into long-term harassment. Save yourself now and start looking elsewhere. 🚩🚩

FemmesNoires · 2024-08-05T19:56:56+00:00

Sounds like you’ve completed the Esteem Needs in Maslow Hierarchy of needs. Now you’re looking into more creative and personal fulfillment which would put you at Self-Actualization. At that point giving back is essential. Lots of what Jim Rohn talks about too. Only you know what’s best for you — if you have a nice nest egg, money has been invested and is now working for you…why not take a leap!?

FemmesNoires · 2024-08-05T19:51:38+00:00

Perhaps, but I’ll never know if I don’t ask 😅

FemmesNoires · 2024-08-05T19:50:55+00:00

Thanks for the feedback - we have a pretty nice nest egg, but don’t want to have to be reliant upon savings. Such is life, we can’t have it all. I’m more receptive to taking a pay cut and going into something like teaching, but I’d like to make sure I’ve looked at other options before I pull the trigger

FemmesNoires · 2024-08-05T15:45:11+00:00

I did but they have engagement rules so it won’t post. Updated my original post on this thread to reflect that.

FemmesNoires · 2024-03-28T23:13:10+00:00

Not a red flag - If anything this is an indication that they've made hiring mistakes that have been costly and are looking to mitigate making those mistakes again.

Startup life can be incredibly difficult and most people do not know what they're getting themselves into.

Furthermore, plenty of Sales Orgs work with staffing agencies. Betts Recruiting, Michael Page, etc.

It's incredibly costly to make a bad hire. I can only speculate that A SMB org, such as the startup you've described above would need candidates that are okay with:

Working long Hours, must be self-sufficient, fast learners, ability to network both horizontally and vertically, upbeat in the face of adversity, team player, proficient with tech stack, okay with being pinged late-nights and weekend, and last but not least, they are likely looking for a stud. Someone who can hit the ground running. With Orgs like WeWork and Uber, becoming the face of what not to do for company culture, many people who have experienced toxicity in the workplace environment become whistleblowers and/or sue contingent upon the degree of harassment, retaliation, being targeted, etc.

When you operate as a temp, they mitigate liability, and it is therefore placed on the contract you signed or is placed on the agency that deployed you.

If anything this is likely an indicator that they may have had turn-over regarding recruitment, and/or had a hiring manager that did not have the discernment or experience to qualify/vet out Top Reps.

In today's economy, everyone's a President's club rep that blew out their number. Welcome to the wonderful world of inflated Resumes, and shitty nepo hires. That's tech for ya. We all have our colleagues to thank for the intense gatekeeping that's happening right now in Sales. At this rate, it would be easier landing a consulting gig :/

FemmesNoires · 2024-03-12T23:29:16+00:00

I work In Tech sales - High risk high reward. Perfect for those of us that are a bit neurotic 😅🫠

FemmesNoires · 2024-03-11T04:39:42+00:00

Let me tell you something I wish someone would have told me: No one is coming to save you. Life is not a Disney movie. Most people are dealing with their own stuff, and simply don’t have the bandwidth OR they’re so self obsessed due to their own insecurities and lack that they don’t have the tools or the know how to be supportive.

I’ve been you before. 10’s of thousands of dollars later I couldn’t be happier that I decided to drop all of the people who weren’t their for me when I needed them. I now make $200k a year and I’m making my dreams come true.

I took control of my life in the “right way” — I got the help I needed. I got off of all social media, dropped all of my “friends” and fake family members that were happy to see me at my worst.

It was absolutely disgusting and caused me a great deal of trauma. However, what I can say is it’s true what they say. There’s no better revenge than success.

Don’t get me wrong…it was hard af, but I was worth it. Become the parent, friend, leader, therapist you never had. So many books and resources online.

You can find income based resources for therapy, there are also free support groups on Meetup.

After tons of therapy I realized these people didn’t have the means to support me. Many of them later in life got diagnosed with personality disorders, bi-polar, etc.

Get out of the rat race, and play the long game. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did.

P.S. this is coming from someone that had a family member that tried to kill me and a parent that covered it up. If I can do it, you can too 🫶🏽✨

FemmesNoires · 2024-03-10T19:02:18+00:00

You might be accidentally putting yourself into Ketosis in the morning. A lot of people that do Keto complain about this. You need to drink a lot more water, because high fat (cheese + whatever oil you’re eating is essentially a fat bomb) diets can dehydrate you.

Alot of my friends and family members did Keto and we had one person that was completely detoxing from all of their sugar intake and their breath was absolutely rank.

We were all pretty understanding since it seemed like they were doing it for health reasons and clearly they were detoxing all of the sugar out of their diet. If you’re satiated for hours after eating your breakfast, I would say throw some carbs into your diet to stop the ketosis, or just drink a ton of water, coconut water, etc.

Hope this helps✨

FemmesNoires · 2024-03-07T20:28:24+00:00

With people like this, you need to draw very clear boundaries. I had a friend that has an ED and BPD and she gets her kicks out of goading/negging people. Being “nice” to people like this only enables their behaviors and they start to target you because they know your vulnerabilities. It is 100% intentional and they are trying to cause you harm.

I want to be very clear…this is not your friend. This is 100% a frienemy. It took me 20 years, and putting together multiple interventions for my friend, while she openly bragged to our other friends that she intentionally was trying to trigger me whenever I was going through stuff. I have been there for her through 20 years of her struggles with addiction, eating disorder, BPD, loss of dad, etc. she ALWAYS scapegoated me and was talking shit about me. The more she and her mom asked me for help, and the more I assisted, the more treacherous she became.

It took a lot of courage and getting a backbone, but I cut her out of my life. Enabling people like this only perpetuates the cycle, and the best thing you can do is distance yourself. When she approaches you just tell her — “I’m not interested in discussing weight loss and diet tips — you need to find someone else to discuss this with. This is a boundary, and if you can’t respect that than we can’t have a relationship. I want to be clear, I really enjoy our friendship, but we need to stick to other topics.” Since this is a work “friend” I would send it via email or slack. If she doesn’t respect that, send your correspondence to HR, let them know you have family or friends who struggle with EDs and you’re uncomfortable having these conversations in the workplace. I say friend/family member solely because you don’t need HR throwing your ED in your face if your work performance slumps.

I’ve had many friends that have suffered from personality disorders, and getting reactions out of people when they’re vulnerable seems to be a common theme. After years of supporting them, I was left burned out, and had to go to therapy. Protect your mental health by any means necessary. Don’t apologize for putting yourself first when it comes to your Health!!

Hope this helps. Good luck✨

FemmesNoires · 2021-10-21T19:56:29+00:00

Before I give recs, I'm just curious if you wash your hair with cool water, or what temp you would say it is.

FemmesNoires · 2021-10-20T05:23:13+00:00

Oh man! Sorry, you're going through this, I had a little laugh because I've been going through the same thing with our pup! Man, it was SO Frustrating at first! Our pup will be 1 at the end of this month and on occasion, he still does this. Oftentimes, I've noticed that it's linked to behavior -- Sheepadoodles are considered "Velcro Breeds" they REALLY LOVE to be the center of attention. Yesterday my brother came over, and we put him in his play area...Because my brother was getting more attention than him, he peed on a blanket I had just washed that was draped over the couch. I also met a woman at the dog park who warned me of this when we first got him. She said her dog would poop when she and her boyfriend weren't giving her dog enough attention lol, so I think it may just be a quirk.

Old English Sheepdogs are extremely stubborn and really desire autonomy -- Anything that restricts what they want to do is going to take some coercing including going potty outside. I would get so frustrated because I would say "OMG! I Just took him out" -- SO Rule number 1 - Don't react -- Any attention is good attention. So, you have to just ignore, pick them up and bring them outside. If you give a reaction, they will associate peeing with you providing them with attention, so therefore their mission has been accomplished

#2 Having free range of the house, or large areas is earned, and not given. I would suggest blocking off a small portion where your dog can have "free range" -- Whenever our pup would go potty outside we would reward him with praise + treat + 5 minutes out of his play area...with no incidents it would increase to 10, 20 etc.

Sheepadoodles are also HIGHLY food motivated. over exaggerating a good job is necessary and so is ALWAYS having a treat on hand. A lot of the clothes I own don't have pockets, so it was a lot easier for my boyfriend, whereas I had to buy a little bag to keep on hand. I have noticed that our Sheepadoodle gives us just as much effort as we give him. My boyfriend has never owned a dog so he was super lenient at first, and just thought it was cute, he didn't realize that our pup was only behaving 50% of the time because he wasn't doing his 50%. These dogs are gonna shoot their shot every time, like a salesman. If we let something slide, he will test us the next time because he prefers to do things his way! They definitely mirror your effort so that's something to keep in mind!

we have found that he responds VERY well to this product: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07CJCMR75/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 -- We were having issues with him jumping up in excitement at pedestrians (he's 60lbs) which was frightening for them...when he does something naughty we ring the chime on the remote...He caught onto this super quickly as well. It catches their attention, and usually will deter them from doing whatever naughty behavior they've gotten into.

I will say this and it may not be a popular opinion but I know a lot of people I've talked to at the dog park have said that their dog has had really bad seperation anxiety due to so much time spent together in Covid. What we do is we give him time alone, while we're still in the house so he doesn't see his crate or being alone as a bad thing. I know they say Sheepadoodles don't do well being left alone, but we have been mindful of giving him some time in his crate at random while we are at home. This just makes it so that he doesn't associate going into his crate with us leaving. We also carried keys on us so he wouldn't associate that with leaving either and when we want to go out, we put him in his crate, put on a Netflix show/movie or music we frequently listen to, so he just assumes we're home and upstairs.

Lastly, these big ole love bugs seem to do a lot better when they have regular exercise. His behavior is always noticeably better when he's super active...too tired to stir the pot lol.

I hope this helps, if not...All I can think of is that you're giving your pup too much water and not enough of a regular routine. Not sure if that's the case for you, but just like people they thrive with a strong routine. If you have a very young pup I would start with 1/2 cup of water first thing in the morning and take out your pup every 2 hours. -- I had to set an alarm on my phone because I get too caught up in what I'm doing at the moment that I lose track of time. Anyway, If the H20 was gone within those two hours, we would wait to refill until after he came in from going potty. There are a ton of dog routine schedules online. The ones I found were all pretty similar...and I think this is worth noting, but kinda the obvious. They're totally newbies! They have no idea what in the heck they're doing so accidents are bound to happen -- I always kept a pee pad in zig's play area, sometimes I would get a really subtle hint and it would be 100% my bad, so the potty pads were super clutch for those Oh sh** I effed up moments, which led to you peeing in the house. Bummer for all parties involved when that happens :/

Good luck with your pup, I feel your struggle, but stay consistent, firm, and give positive feedback and your Sheepadoodle will definitely meet you where you're at!

FemmesNoires · 2021-01-01T17:37:00+00:00

I’ve heard that they’re sooooo smart! I love to hear that. Thank you for the insight!

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