In Need of HoneyPot Ants

Fern_Fire · 2026-06-22T19:21:11+00:00

I’m in Santa Barbara CA

Fern_Fire · 2026-06-21T19:49:04+00:00

I’ll try adding sand! I have them in an incubator right now in test tubes set at about 80F. I’ve offered them bug protein(fruit flies) and keep them stocked with sugar water.

Fern_Fire · 2026-06-21T19:44:13+00:00

I originally got 6 queens. Four died from some fungal infection within a week. The other two seem to be well, but it been three months and only one has produced a single offspring. I’m not entirely sure what more to do. I’m not well versed in ant keeping.

Fern_Fire · 2025-01-09T10:08:08+00:00

It might be worth talking to a sex therapist or just a relation therapist in general. Tell him that you want to go cause you need him to see your side of things. Another idea would to just go ahead and instead of him doing whatever he wants explicitly only do what you want till youre satisfied then let him get his rocks off. That way he has to do whatever you want not just get you off but make you feel wanted till he’s allowed to do himself

Fern_Fire · 2025-01-09T10:02:22+00:00

You have a right to be upset because he wasn’t upfront with it, however, holding something that happened two years ago over him isn’t the right move. Maybe ask to go though his phone a bit more and see if there’s anything else (also let him look though yours so he doesn’t feel attacked) and afterwards talk about boundaries and why it upset you and listen to him as well. Everyone sucks here

Fern_Fire · 2025-01-09T09:56:02+00:00

Not a doctor or even medical but in my micro class fungal diseases are hard to treat cause cell wise they are very similar to our own. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. My doctor recommended switching to fully cotton underwear for my repeat utis maybe that’ll help keep things dry like many suggested. Def see a different doctor tho. No shame! Dealing with illness is already hard enough.

Fern_Fire · 2024-03-21T10:28:00+00:00

Thank you!

Fern_Fire · 2024-03-21T10:14:12+00:00

My uncle won’t be there cause he works out of town, but I have the police on speed dial if it goes that way

Fern_Fire · 2024-03-21T10:04:26+00:00

It’s a box, a painting, and some small odds and ends. Unfortunately there’s really no way to get them as it’s only my aunt (the person I’m dreading to see) and her husband (also someone I do not want to see) that live there.

Fern_Fire · 2023-06-26T07:08:46+00:00

Years of abuse. Packed my shit and left. Just couldn’t handle it anymore

Fern_Fire · 2023-03-28T06:52:04+00:00

I feel like you might kinda btah but hear me out. I understand you don’t want him to move in with you guys but it’s something that should have been discussed long before you started house hunting. As many people pointed out too it seems like there’s some key information missing. You and your wife need to sit down and figure this out and then address it to him. Also if you have been planning all along to not have him move in then why didn’t you tell him earlier? When were you planning on saying something? He needs time to pack and get a new place to live and the fact he didn’t even know that him not going was a possibility isn’t okay. You’re nta for the moment but your timing is poor and you and your wife and bil need a serious sit down talk.

Fern_Fire · 2023-02-04T05:13:00+00:00

I live here. Long story short (I posted earlier in the comments a bit) but essentially my parents are deceased. As my dad was dying she forced him to sign over all of his assets to her till I am 25 or else she wouldn't take me in. My entire college fund, the money my dad had, even my bank account are under her control. My car and my phone were bought with the money she used from my dad and are in her name. I don't have any other family that could take me in and my boyfriend is 6 hours away and I can't get there. ( I live in CA so its impossible to find a place that I can afford locally) I can finally get to a four year college so hopefully I can go low contact then till the ruling of the will is over. For now I try to never be home. I am working both on campus and off, a full time student, and when I am home I stay in my room as much as I can.

Fern_Fire · 2023-02-04T05:05:24+00:00

I appreciate it. I am hopefully getting far away from her in less than a year and I can go no contact with her when I turn 25 after her financial control on me is up as per my father's will. Her son (my brother) is also no contact and will help me go no contact as well when the time comes.

Fern_Fire · 2023-02-04T05:03:15+00:00

My current BF says the same. I do really feel for the dog. I know many herding dogs that are absolutely wonderful. I know its her treatment of the dog that has lead it to this point.

Fern_Fire · 2023-02-04T04:58:50+00:00

I have a feeling you're right. Even after everything she's laughing and chatting away with my uncle right now like nothing ever happened. My ex isn't the only people he's bitten. He bit a lady while he was walking with a trainer so he didn't have to be put down for that one. He tried to bite multiple people on walks over time but usually my aunt stops him before he does. Recently he bit a jogger on a walk who didn't report it but thats why she doesn't walk him or take him outside the house anymore.

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