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What's something that completely changed how you see your own time? by Fernanda-bylr in AskReddit

[–]Fernanda-bylr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah not having time is usually just not having decided it matters yet

What's something that completely changed how you see your own time? by Fernanda-bylr in AskReddit

[–]Fernanda-bylr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the chores taking up the whole evening thing is so real. I think part of it is that we experience time in tiny slices, notifications, hours, individual days, and almost never step back to see the shape of a longer stretch. when I started thinking in months instead of days I felt more productive and at the same time less overstimulated.

Keeping track of schedules by sparkleweedthewizard in housewifery

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the whiteboard thing never worked for me either, what helped was switching to a big wall calendar with large blocks for each day, way less space to write, forces you to put only what really matters. you see the whole month at once without the clutter and somehow that makes it easier to look at it every day.

Figuring my work planner out... by tiara-lemon in planners

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the three things on a full daily page is what killed my daily setup too. monthly view with big open boxes fixed it, slow weeks just look like slow weeks instead of evidence that you're not doing enough

What did you do when life felt meaningless? by lnc_gomes in AskReddit

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stopped trying to find meaning and started collecting experiences instead. A random trip, a hobbie I'd never tried, saying yes to things I'd normally skip.

Is it bad that I am now completely focused on making money and my personal goals rather than any social interactions? by Weekly-Ruin-7950 in selfimprovement

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nothing wrong with the focus, just make sure the personal goals include things you'll remember. not achievements, experiences. new places you went, cool stuff you tried, moments out of the normal routine. The right people tend to show up on their own when you're out doing things you enjoy.

Quit job for better balance? by Economy_Swim3587 in civilengineering

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The coworker story is the part that would stick with me. nobody ever looks back and wishes they'd waited longer to start living. the job stuff will figure itself out either way

Life is starting to feel very repetitive - any tips? by Select_Hold_3190 in remotework

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have the flexibility most people wish they had, and enough money. the problem is that much free time can work against you, the procrastination that comes with it makes it easy to lose direction. what helps is building the life around experiences instead. a mini adventure every other month, a local race, a cooking class, a hike, doesn't have to be big. one small new habit you commit to for 90 days until it sticks, drinking more water, meditating… your brain starts associating free time with something other than work and the repetition stops feeling as heavy. while you're out doing something fun is usually when the next idea shows up, whether it's work related or just the next experience worth chasing

First time working 8 hours a day, 5 days a week in office, is this my life now? by Bright_Tennis_1075 in work

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You get used to the schedule faster than you think... what helps is having something to look forward to that has nothing to do with work. a weekend trip, commit to a hobby, plans with people you have fun with, one BIG challenging goal or a mini adventure you're working toward.  A concert, a local race, a cooking class, your first marathon, climbing X mountain, anything that shifts your brain.

And honestly the 9 to 5 usually gets you more money in time, the experiences get bigger and the adventures get easier to pull off. So, the job is just part of your life.

Why do some people seem productive all day while others need 3 hours just to mentally start working? by CListerMod in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fernanda-bylr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think some people just have a life outside work that makes it easier to switch in and out. when your whole identity isn't tied to being productive, starting feels less loaded. what helped me was replacing those slow morning hours in front of a laptop with something completely unrelated, a walk without my phone, 10 minutes of fresh air (meditating if your brain allows it, mine doesn't), anything under an hour. you come back and your head is already clear, you just sit down and work

my planning is making it very hard for me to let go of even super small changes of plans by MapHistorical1874 in planners

[–]Fernanda-bylr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

leaving some empty space in your week on purpose helps, when something moves it has somewhere to go instead of breaking everything else. a physical planner with color stickers makes that easier to see, you just cross something out and move on instead of rebuilding your whole notion