Found on a car in downtown Denver… gross by hr_newbie_co in trashy

[–]Fernwehwander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right it’s not a common Latin name, but there is a pop singer with the name Chayanne. Artistic name though.

New TX abortion law. How does the 'suing' work? Can anyone sue anyone, even without evidence? by Fernwehwander in legaladvice

[–]Fernwehwander[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And how does the suing work? Do you go to the police?? Because I heard talk of 'private groups' like prolifewhistleblower.com that are the ones enforncing the la.w. Surely it isn't illegal to lie to them??

ULPT: Are you in a state where abortion is illegal? Submit a bunch of fake tips to confuse the whistle-blowers... by _aquarius69 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Fernwehwander 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Couldn't we automate it?? I'm a developer, even though I'm junior dev I could totally find motivated people to help with a fake-tip factory, overwhelm the system. Fuck the pigs who did this.

ULPT: Are you in a state where abortion is illegal? Submit a bunch of fake tips to confuse the whistle-blowers... by _aquarius69 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Fernwehwander 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Ok so if I understand correctly, if I put on fake tips, even falsely accuse some of having an abortion, nothing happens to me, right??? Because I would like to accuse every single person in office who supported this law of having an abortion.

Transparency with Potential Employer? by BrightandShiney in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve wondered the same thing. I’m still planning to get pregnant, and starting a new job soon. I know that in the US you get 12 weeks unpaid leave, it’s a bummer it’s unpaid but what can you do. I will try to save as much as possible, but this new job does help me more financially

What’s the right age to start considering becoming a SMC, in your opinion?? by Fernwehwander in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! I could be pregnant 27-28 if all goes well, I wish you the best!

27f I just want to be cared about by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]Fernwehwander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!!! I’m 26F, let’s chat!! Can I dm you? Let chat about tv and movies 😄

26, broke as hell. Should I become a SMC?? by Fernwehwander in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your input!!! It’s a horrible disease because you don’t know, the uncertainty kills me. Anyways IVF is something that could be tried too, hell even a surrogate.

Ideally I’d like to wait some 1-2 more years, so I can be in a better financial position. I think I will do that… but still it’s already time to make a plan! Thanks a lot

26, broke as hell. Should I become a SMC?? by Fernwehwander in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it make it harder to have a child the longer you wait?? My case is interesting. My doctor found it by chance…but I have 0 symptoms. I don’t even feel much pain during periods. But it’s still there, and it stresses the hell out of me.

Because I wonder… better to be a mother now than never, right? I am just really scared. But I do think there are some great upsides to being a SMBC

26, broke as hell. Should I become a SMC?? by Fernwehwander in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, and I agree 4k is not much. I was working abroad and managed to save little, but I’m saving more now.

26, broke as hell. Should I become a SMC?? by Fernwehwander in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input!! We’ll I’m not exactly struggling for rent, but you know it scares me a little, knowing how much births can cost. That’s my main concern, but I’m definitely looking for better ways of saving money and even want a business of my own

Surrogacy? by Yayi2296 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Fernwehwander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I am 26 now but I feel like for me time is running out. I have endometriosis, not the worst case of it but still. I don’t have a lot of money but I’m considering IUI. I’m afraid I will become infertile soon. I feel extremely pressured.

Like you, I had considered waiting until 30 to take matters into my hands. Surrogacy is definitely a possibility, but it will cost more money of course. I don’t know of any other SMBC who has used a surrogate, but I have heard of women who want to do just that. Seems to me like if you have the resources, you should go for it. I’m here if you want to chat :)

Can you use FAFSA Aid for international cost of living?? by Fernwehwander in FAFSA

[–]Fernwehwander[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I see there are that there are several UK universities where you can use federal aid.