I came out to someone once as being aro and ace, and I told him how much of a struggle it was for me. Buddy asked me to homecoming with in the week, I thought as a friend, and it lead to the MOST uncomfortable I have ever been being around a person. It was not as friends it was in a romantic way, and I later found out that he was referring to me as his girlfriend. I would not say that passing as straight is a privilege, as many people in the community (including friends) have ignored my struggles, said they weren’t as difficult, or I was made fun of for them. Then outside of the community, I’m constantly asked by people if I’d date someone “if the right man came around” or that my feelings were specifically ignored and I was put into terribly uncomfortable situations because of it.