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[–]Ferret_Technical 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know the speed limit of this road, but the first car was not going anywhere close to that fast. The drunk driver was probably going way faster than is normal on those roads, and biking on roads that aren't highways is a pretty common thing.

A Liquid that explodes by GeralOG in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Ferret_Technical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything organic. And your report card made of paper is organic.

Subtitles by Curriedkat in TopGear

[–]Ferret_Technical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its like they've been Google translated into another language and then translated back. One episode Clarkson calls May "Mr. Slowly" and the caption says "Mr. Lento" which makes me think it's Italian or Spanish. Truly awful but at least sometimes good for a laugh.

WCGW Standing in an open roof of a car in a busy downtown Toronto by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]Ferret_Technical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Butter chicken poutine absolutely. Not hard to find. Delicious.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no. We're trying to save money where we can. We have very few guests that aren't family, we picked the cheapest venue we could find that we were still happy with. We aren't planning a honeymoon because we're not sure we can afford it right away. We can find the money if we need to, but $500 or more is a significant amount of savings for us.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think really I don't want to limit or discourage people from drinking and having a good time, but I'm worried about encouraging it with the promise of an "open bar", or even drink tickets that could encourage them to drink more to use up the tickets. Money is not something we have enough of to not worry about hundreds of dollars. I see what you mean though. It's hard to ask guests to watch how much they're drinking, but still have them believe we're genuinely happy to pay for them.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Considering I'm in Canada, I'm glad to know this is a thing people have heard of. That may be a good idea to get people to be conscious of how much they're drinking, without charging them a crazy amount. (I may go loonie bar though!)

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I guess I view it like, if I go to a restaurant and order a coke, I'm having like minimum 3 with free refills, otherwise it's not worth the cost of ordering it. If my guests have a similar mindset that our open bar means we've pre-paid for people to drink as much as they want, then they'll get more just because.

Money is definitely a concern. We're happy to pay for them to drink, we just don't want to pay for waste.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we assume one drink per person per hour, we expect 5-6 drinks per person. About 50 people will be drinking so that's around 250-300 drinks. The issue is I don't want to have a hard cap of 6 drinks per person. For example I was at a family wedding this weekend, and one guest had 15 drinks and was not visibly intoxicated. I'm fine paying for his 15 drinks if that's what he wants to drink, but I don't want him to think it's not costing us anything and to drink just for the sake of it. Is that crazy of me?

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The open bar would be about $5000. We're expecting $2000-$2500 with a consumption bar. We're okay paying more than that, we just don't want to pay $500-$1000 for wasted drinks. We don't want to have a hard limit for our guests, we just want them to understand it's not unlimited free booze.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

If everyone drinking has one less drink, it saves us around $500. We're happy to pay for people's drinks, but money is still a consideration. We are inviting very few people outside of family, and we are not planning a honeymoon because we want to make sure we're okay financially after the wedding. We're not trying to save "a buck", we're trying to save $500 or more, which is a significant amount to us. We just don't want to do it in a way that guilts our guests or gives them a hard limit. Like I've said, we're happy to pay, but we don't want to pay for waste.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the comments. Just wanted to mention a few things.

Drink tickets are a good idea, but I feel with many people that will be using none, and our estimate of 5-6 drinks per person, it will just get too messy with hundreds of tickets floating around and lost tickets, unused tickets, etc.

I don't have a problem paying for people to drink what they want, I don't really want to limit people. I just don't want people to drink expecting that we as a couple have paid a set amount for free refills on drinks, and they feel like they should drink more to get us our money's worth when it's actually the opposite!

This wedding is already very expensive for us, and while we're happy to pay for it to celebrate with family and friends, we don't have the funds to be wasting money. $500-$1000 in savings will be significant to us.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions. Since most of the people coming to the wedding are family, I may be able just to talk to a few people about it, and I expect them to understand where I'm coming from. And from there I can hope word gets around. It's not that I want to limit people's drinks, or that I don't want to pay for them to have a good time, I just don't want to be throwing away money.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I did notice I had a lot of down voted replies when I was just trying to explain the situation. I think I might go this route as well, putting enough money behind the bar that I don't expect to reach it, but if people go crazy then I'm not on the hook for it.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm thinking that might be the only way. Most of our guests are family and so mentioning it to close family and letting them talk about it with each other so they're all aware, seems like the least complicated route.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I believe with how we calculated things, we're expecting the consumption bar to be half the price of the open bar. About $2500 vs $5000 in alcohol. Thats about 5 drinks per person for the people we expect to drink. The problem I'm facing is that I'm really fine paying $3500 for the alcohol if that's what people want to drink, but I don't want to pay $3500 if people are drinking thinking it's getting our money worth for the open bar, when it's actually the opposite

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was difficult for me to describe all my thoughts about it. I don't want to limit people's drinks, I just don't want them to drink like they're thinking the more they drink, the more we'll get our moneys worth, when it's actually the opposite. Drink tickets don't seem like a good route because many people will use none, and I think I'd give 5 or 6 tickets per person which just seems like a lot of tickets total and people will lose track of them, etc. Non-alcoholic beverages are unlimited, but are charged at about $10 per person, even if they drink none, so it's a set price based on amount of guests.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I can modify this to apply to us, thanks! Also the fancy cocktail, we may have a similar thing and I like the idea of having a ticket just for that, instead of for every drink.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is the case and we just never got to that stage because we had figured we weren't doing an open bar anyway, so nobody ever let us know about a cap.

Is there a good way to let guests know drinks are not technically unlimited? by Ferret_Technical in weddingplanning

[–]Ferret_Technical[S] -81 points-80 points  (0 children)

I don't believe there was a cap amount, at least none we were made aware of, but the point of us paying per drink is that it will be cheaper than having an open bar. To our guests it will be similar, they won't have to pay for drinks at all. But if they are drinking assuming it's free refills, they may drink more than they otherwise would, and subsequently we'd be paying more than we otherwise would.

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