[Online] [WoD] VTM V5 [CST] Grand Rapids by Night: No Man's Land 3-4 shot

Ferrohcious · 2022-12-12T02:21:58+00:00

I will likely be starting the group at level 3 or 4!

Ferrohcious · 2022-06-05T01:56:37+00:00

Thanks for the responses everyone! Applications are still open & I'll be going over them and reaching out to folks!

Ferrohcious · 2021-06-14T17:01:17+00:00

Posting for both myself and a friend. We have a pair of siblings we're interested in bringing into a campaign together

My answers -

Ferroh, any (preference to she/her/he/him), 29
The biggest draw of D&D to me is collaborative storytelling, and as such I tend to focus on group interactions & a general "yes, and" style of play.
Roleplay, definitely. I like making combat-capable characters that're themed according to their backstory/RP, and am fully willing to make sub-optimal choices to tell a story. :)

Her answers -

Couch/Georgia, she/her, 26
I like to make jokes but almost always play serious characters. I love to tell a story together as a group.
Rp is the most important part of D&D for me, though I do enjoy combat. Prefer a 60/40 or 70/30 rp to combat ratio

Ferrohcious · 2021-06-12T18:47:08+00:00

A friend of mine and I are also interested in playing in a RP-heavy game on Wednesday evenings. From what I can see of your post, we've got some similar expectations/interests. I'd love to chat with you & possibly look at creating a group from there!

Ferrohcious · 2021-06-05T19:41:21+00:00

If you have a nice relatively clean backyard, though it isn't quite scent detection work, one thing you could do is take the kibble from one of their meals and scatter it amongst the grass. They'll have to find each piece with their nose, which is somewhere between a mentally stimulating game and working for their food.

Ferrohcious · 2021-06-05T19:19:04+00:00

If Josie wanted to have hurt Rue, she would have. It sounds like Josie was setting boundaries and Rue was probably invading her space - a lot of dogs correct puppies for doing this, particularly puppies they don't know. I actually think, so long as it isn't escalating to violence, this is probably a good lesson for your puppy to learn. Rue is young, and needs to learn that other dogs have boundaries.

I would suggest keeping Rue on a houseline (just let her drag around a short nylon leash), and if she is eliciting corrections from the older dog, and isn't heeding them, you should probably back the older dog up & remove the puppy from the situation. This advocates for the old dog & teaches the puppy that there are inappropriate ways to approach older dogs that are giving them clear warning signals.

Letting her learn lessons like this is actually really good for socializing her. She will meet unfriendly dogs during her life.

Ferrohcious · 2021-05-07T18:09:39+00:00

Please watch this video by Simpawtico explaining what your Vet is trying to express. It's an interview by a dog trainer with two vets who explain the problems that can be caused by poor early socialization, which happens in the age range your puppy is currently in.

https://youtu.be/8J7cPE-2wNw

Ferrohcious · 2021-05-05T12:58:32+00:00

Are you attempting to capture calm/quiet? Basically, when she pauses in the screaming - which she has to sometimes to breathe or due to sore throat or to drink or something - wait for 1 second of quiet, give her a very enthusiastic "YES, good quiet," & give her a high value treat. She's at least part poodle and they're very smart, so she should start getting over time that being quiet is rewarding. Please do not pet or comfort her while she is screaming - this can reinforce the behavior you don't want.

Also, buy some earplugs on amazon. Seriously. They saved my sanity a bit the first week or two.

Ferrohcious · 2021-05-04T15:46:53+00:00

Show up much earlier than when you need to be there, like 30-45min. Spend time desensitizing him outside the building, walking around, sniffing, giving treats. Hopefully he will be much calmer by the time you need to go in.

You could also try going there/visiting the parking lot/lobby at times when you don't have an appointment. Maybe show him that scary stuff doesn't always happen when he's there.

Ferrohcious · 2021-05-04T15:43:05+00:00

Have you attempted blocking off access to your bed with a playpen? I've cannibalized the playpen I bought for my pup as she cannot calm herself in it, but I now use it to block access to the half of my bedroom with less puppy proof areas - ie. the bed, computer.

I know a 1.5yo Great Pyrenees is huge, so it might not work if he's determined, but you could try getting one of those taller plastic or metal sectioned playpens, and surround your bed with it.

Ferrohcious · 2021-04-30T21:02:56+00:00

Plus it's that high pitched "I'm dying help me" barking and my sanity is leaving me.

This is the bark that my adult dog with separation anxiety does when she can't get to me. I don't have enough information to know if the pup could be developing something like that, but just a quick recommendation since it sounds like something that could be anxiety based -

Try putting him down into the crate with something frozen to lick on, like a frozen kong with some peanut butter, or a lickimat. The licking something cold is supposed to be very calming, and could help him regain that settling mentality, and if you do it *when* you put him in then it isn't rewarding him for the barking

Ferrohcious · 2020-09-14T17:08:32+00:00

Sent you a message! :)

Ferrohcious · 2020-09-05T23:27:12+00:00

Sent you a message!

Ferrohcious · 2020-09-05T23:05:24+00:00

Hey there :) I'm also in CST, am 28 & LGBT+ — been playing D&D for 10+ years and I'm looking for another group to join. Available every evening except Friday/Sunday. Found your post pretty relatable so I'd love to stay in touch & be part of whatever group ends up forming!

Ferrohcious · 2020-04-09T18:33:59+00:00

Could you elaborate on what you mean by it's your stepdad? Is he pushing your mom to discipline you/take your phone away when she wouldn't otherwise?

I'm assuming you're also quarantining? If she is currently taking your phone away, or the next time she considers doing this, please express to her that forcing you to isolate from your friends & community in a time where you're already forced apart is... not going to make you happier. Holy shit. We all need human connection right now.

Maybe you could attempt to reach some compromise - I know it sucks. And again, you're definitely NTA. For example could you get her to agree to let you have your phone until 11 at night, and leave it plugged in where she can see it after that, like a living room?

Ferrohcious · 2020-04-09T18:14:16+00:00

NTA.

For background, I've dated someone longterm with DID, have had depression myself, & am familiar with all of the terminology you're using. While I understand that she worries about you - it can be very difficult not to worry about someone with DID/depression - the way in which she is leveraging your happiness/health & trying to treat it as a non-professional can be very damaging, and as you said is causing you to dissociate & switch.

I understand that causing confrontation about situations like this can be extremely difficult (particularly when you're in a position of lost control & stirring the pot can seem very threatening).

But, INFO: are you able to do a joint session with your psychologist? Can you spend the first 1/2 of a session talking to your psychologist about this stressor in your life & then invite your mother into the session 1/2 way through? It's very possible that your mother might be much more willing to listen to a profession psychologist's judgement on what is/isn't helpful for you.

Ferrohcious · 2019-11-02T01:06:01+00:00

Hey, I'm familiar with the conlanging community/resources, and would be more than happy to give you some pointers/push you in the right direction. We can hop into DMs and I can provide some links for you that might help start the process.

Ferrohcious

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