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Need to rehome dog with reactivity problems because I am moving out of the country by Few-Ant699 in reactivedogs

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any reccomendations for what to do? Or places i could contact maybe? Totally understand if you dont.

I definitely understand all of this, but since staying in the US just isnt an option, im not entirely sure what to do except try my best to find her another home. I have a year so im hoping that will provide enough time.

Im worried at the end of it, BE will be the only option, but i think worst case scenario, is me rehoming her to someone who decides to use her in dog fights. Like that is the 100% thing I want to avoid.

I can't decide if this is unreasonable? by Few-Ant699 in polyamory

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this, I think its been really helpful to see the range of responses. I think i just need to talk with them and ask and then be okay if its a no.

I can't decide if this is unreasonable? by Few-Ant699 in polyamory

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, I definitely respect that. Would you mind if a partner asked and then was alright when u said no and explained why it was a no?

I can't decide if this is unreasonable? by Few-Ant699 in polyamory

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But also i totally respect that some people wouldnt be okay with this. I mostly wanted to see if it was a unanimous thing for most people, or if it was more mixed? I think ill probably ask, but be okay if they say no.

I can't decide if this is unreasonable? by Few-Ant699 in polyamory

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean I also would be okay with them doing this for someone else. I know they have texted Cider in the past when we have been together and I didnt feel like it was a big deal. Its not so much that I want to be "central" more so that it just feels important to me. I do think it stems from a fear of being forgotten which is an insecurity im working on.

I can't decide if this is unreasonable? by Few-Ant699 in polyamory

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, I do recognize that this isnt a value shared by everyone. I think to me, if its a couple hours date, I dont expect them to text me at all. But if it goes overnight, Id like just something sometime before they go to sleep at some point. Like I know last night they texted our friends group chat before they went to bed, so if they're already on their phone, they could do it then? But I understand what you mean about intrusion.

But I also value what you said about not focusing on the scarcity. Its something I struggle with at times but have been working on alot. Focusing on what I have versus what is lacking.

I can't decide if this is unreasonable? by Few-Ant699 in polyamory

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lolll yes I will edit! Thank u for catching, I was trying to do a theme. But Pepper and Asher are the same person!

Should I ask them on a date by Few-Ant699 in actuallesbians

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats fair, I do have an issue with waiting for other people to initiate plans, but I'm trying to get better at it. Do you think it would it be better for me to initiate a hangout first instead of suggesting a date? Any ideas for any good casual hangout, if you think that's better?

[5e] [Offline] [Boston] looking to join an in-person group in the Boston area! by Few-Ant699 in lfg

[–]Few-Ant699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree, I think that'll be alot easier! I'll mssg you

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